syw0806 Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 I've been seeing this guy I met online for few weeks, last week, was our fourth date..hes a lawyer and has this hectic schedule. I totally understand how busy he is, but he rarely initiates contact.. If I call him or text, he'd reply as soon as he can.. last time when he missed my call, so I just texted him but he kept trying to talk to me on the phone rather than just texting..so I thought thats really sweet of him.. (I rarely text or call him either since he does and I don't want to bother him) on the last date, he told me his sister wants him to come over and pick up his food that his mom made for him, but he has no time that hasn't even seen his sister for few weeks.. so I was appreciated that he had no time to see his sister yet made time for me so it's like one time I feel like he likes me, then the other, he rarely initiate calls...i mean it's been 2 days since last date and I haven't heard from him. well I was always the one who called him after dates, so maybe he's expecting me to call him..but you know..he can still call me first..? sometimes im thinking maybe hes insecure because eversince the first date, he doesn't touch me at all in public, but gets so horny when we're alone,,lol so I felt used, asked him whats up with that, and he said he thought I'm PDA so that's why he didn't touch me at all.. also, when we arrange our date, or confirm upcoming date, he always saying, it's up to you or if you want to... this guy has never been so forward except when we make out..ha so whats going on here? am i being used or something? or since I also have not been calling him not that much.. done anything special.. so he's just not sure that im interested in him yet?
truth_seeker Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Many possibilities. 1) He's seeing other women. 2) He only sees you as a hookup. 3) His work comes before you. 4) He's taking his time with you before getting serious.
NateC Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 If you're interested in him drop a hint...it's fairly obvious he's interested in you.
Ninjainpajamas Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 He's got something else or someone else going...he's too preoccupied and distracted, I've never met a lawyer that didn't have time to fool around If that's what he wanted to do. Does he seems interested and willing to get back to you? Yeah It appears so. No PDA though...doesn't that ring of suspicion? maybe he doesn't want to be seen by someone he knows holding some other woman's hands...maybe he's a little conscious of it? This way you just look like "friends" or a possible client. Gee, I wonder why he's so forward when making it...I mean nobody else can see, nobody else knows about it and you have a vagina...how could he possibly be acting this way! I'm not sure why you've come to the conclusion he's insecure or you're not being aggressive enough...maybe you should park outside his house and wait for him to get home? that way you know for sure he knows you are interested..I just can't see where you're going with this. A very good chance this guy has something else going on, I could be wrong because all the evidence isn't present to make a 100 percent judgment...and it's only been two weeks, so maybe whatever he is or whoever else he is banging he will drop soon..but just judging from guy demeanor I wouldn't trust him, sounds too typical...and the fact that he's a lawyer probably plays into his favor of being convincing that he is too busy..but let's face it, IF he were REALLY into you and available, don't you think he'd be making way more of an effort or at least a bit more? that alone tells me enough about a guys intention, and how generally interested he is. I know you just wont' pick up and leave, but ask him more about his personal life, where he lives, his background etc...and drill him with some serious questions to see how he responds...hopefully he's not too good of a liar though....I mean lawyer lawyer
Author syw0806 Posted October 9, 2012 Author Posted October 9, 2012 ugh I think you're right.. good thing i havent had sex with him yet...ha well about PDA part, chances he really thought I'm PDA because he used to hold my hands, hug, kiss me in the public during the first two dates..I backed off because I didn't really feel comfortable doing that while I don't know him well..anyways I can check that part when I see him next time! yea i understand he could be busy sometimes takes hours to reply me back or so but just have doubt on how he barely initiates contact.. ugh should I confront him about it or just let it be..? I kinda figured his not that into me...
FitChick Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 The lawyers I know work long hours and often on weekends. You don't know enough about this man yet. How easy would it be for you to attract someone else of his caliber? You sound insecure.
SJC2008 Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 It's still early on so I wouldn't worry about the PDA. Stop initiating first contact with men after dates. If you don't hear back you have your answer! Don't know if you're being used, are you having sex? Also when it comes to OLD women seem to get pumped and dumped A LOT so make sure you're not punching out of your league and being an easy piece that some hot guy doesn't have to work for.
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