secretcrush82 Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Hi fellow forum members, I have always had the deep desire to be the weaker side in my relationships. I am attracted to strong, confident and dominant girls. I am currently in a relationship, which is going pretty well. My questions is: how to become the weak one in the relationship? I have gradually started doing more and more stuff, like cooking, washing the dishes, preparing the table for dinner, kissing and massaging her feet every evening, painting her toenails, always making she got her orgasm at least twice by giving her oral every night, only cumming when she lets me do it, driving her to/from work every day, paying most of the bills, stopped eating meat for her, stopped watching sports on TV. The thing is I want her to use me even more, boss me around and remind me of my place. I dont want her to do anything specific, like spank me or whatever. I just want her to know I am her property, and she can order me around and do as she pleases. How to provoke this? I cannot think of anything more I can do right now, so what do I start telling her? Let me tell you I am like that only in relationshis, outisde that everyone is telling me I am an abrasive, tough person. And she knows that, so she definitely doesnt think I am a weak, wimpy guy. Sex is also great I have told her that relationships are the only place where I can make compromise after compromise and be very soft to the other person. Any idea on how to make her firmly realize that she is in charge and that I like being on her beck and call? I am doing stuff for her, but only on my initiation. I want her to take the reigns and completely control me. I know some girls leave their guys because of that, I dont want to lose her, I just want her to treat me as property and doormat. I know what the reaction of some of youwill be: "Are you crazy", "Why do you want to do that" - I know what I want and asking me these questions is pointless, dont waste your time... 1
TaraMaiden Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Hi fellow forum members*<Snip*> I know what the reaction of some of youwill be: "Are you crazy", "Why do you want to do that" - I know what I want and asking me these questions is pointless, dont waste your time... Ok. I'll just have a great laugh and wait for the rest of the gang to show up.... 2
Author secretcrush82 Posted October 9, 2012 Author Posted October 9, 2012 Ok. I'll just have a great laugh and wait for the rest of the gang to show up.... Just what I expected... thanks for the "meaningful" answer...
todreaminblue Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Hi fellow forum members, I have always had the deep desire to be the weaker side in my relationships. I am attracted to strong, confident and dominant girls. I am currently in a relationship, which is going pretty well. My questions is: how to become the weak one in the relationship? I have gradually started doing more and more stuff, like cooking, washing the dishes, preparing the table for dinner, kissing and massaging her feet every evening, painting her toenails, always making she got her orgasm at least twice by giving her oral every night, only cumming when she lets me do it, driving her to/from work every day, paying most of the bills, stopped eating meat for her, stopped watching sports on TV. The thing is I want her to use me even more, boss me around and remind me of my place. I dont want her to do anything specific, like spank me or whatever. I just want her to know I am her property, and she can order me around and do as she pleases. How to provoke this? I cannot think of anything more I can do right now, so what do I start telling her? Let me tell you I am like that only in relationshis, outisde that everyone is telling me I am an abrasive, tough person. And she knows that, so she definitely doesnt think I am a weak, wimpy guy. Sex is also great I have told her that relationships are the only place where I can make compromise after compromise and be very soft to the other person. Any idea on how to make her firmly realize that she is in charge and that I like being on her beck and call? I am doing stuff for her, but only on my initiation. I want her to take the reigns and completely control me. I know some girls leave their guys because of that, I dont want to lose her, I just want her to treat me as property and doormat. I know what the reaction of some of youwill be: "Are you crazy", "Why do you want to do that" - I know what I want and asking me these questions is pointless, dont waste your time... Honestly if you are already doing all that you dont need to know how to be a doormat you are already being submissive in the relationship....if you like doing these things for your wife and it makes you both happy then live your life together and dont worry what others say they dont have to judge the both of you from behind your closed doors....a doormat though is often abused . I don't understand how you think you can do any more for her in the relationship> In being totally honest with you I feel a relationship should have a balance of mutual respect.....that actions and deeds should be reciprocated to show true appreciation and affection.....the balance is achieved by this......this is my opinion.........when a relationship is shared equally it is satisfying to both......i wish you love in life ....deb 1
Titania22 Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 I don't understand how you think you can do any more for her in the relationship> I got the feeling this was a fetish thing. Sounds like he is very dominant in his day to day life, and in his private life he wants to experience the opposite. At the moment he is doing all those things without being told, I get the feeling he would like her to tell him to do them, be authoritative and demanding.
Author secretcrush82 Posted October 9, 2012 Author Posted October 9, 2012 I got the feeling this was a fetish thing. Sounds like he is very dominant in his day to day life, and in his private life he wants to experience the opposite. At the moment he is doing all those things without being told, I get the feeling he would like her to tell him to do them, be authoritative and demanding. Not really a fetish thing, because driving her to work doesnt do anything for me nor does cooking, or painting her toenails and we have great, normal, satisfying sex - however I only finish when she tells me to and give her oral at least once every day. it is more of an emotional need to be owned rather than expecting anything concrete from her, besides being a bit more demanding and not waiting only on me to initiate anything...
TaraMaiden Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Just what I expected... thanks for the "meaningful" answer... No problem. I'm sure there are forums far more suited to your tastes than this one is.
Later82012 Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 I am sorry. I didn't think this was a serious thread.
CptObvious Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 That was just soul-crushingly hard for me to read. 1
verhrzn Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Sounds like you're a submissive. You might not find a lot of useful information on LS... I would suggest searching out sites on the Internet that relate to master/slave dynamics. BDSM forums would also be able to point you in useful directions.
Author secretcrush82 Posted October 9, 2012 Author Posted October 9, 2012 I would say you're not really being "dominated" if you enjoy it. In a submissive/dominant relationship, each party participates voluntarily, but it's generally all a role-playing game.... ...However they don't perceive it that way--they don't perceive themselves as being fully voluntarily in the situation they find themselves in. So they are unhappy, because they don't want the status quo that they have. Since you do want the status quo, just continue on the way you have been. Yes, I do want this as a status quo, and not a game we play for a while in the bedroom and then we quit. Nor do I perceive as any role-play - because doing these things for her feels to me like the most natural thing.Glad you understood this and thanks for the advice OP look into the "sissy" lifestyle... this seems to fit what you are looking for, minus the homosexuality aspect. Some people are just submissive. Some people have fetishes. I have a particular fetish myself. You may not be getting your rocks off when you are driving your wife or cooking for you, but it gives you a sort of mental high... that is still a fetish. just watch Taboon on National Geographic. BTW I'm not judging you. If you honestly want her to treat you like a doormat then start doing more for her. Start letting her get away with more stuff that would generally cause problems or arguments. Trust me, when you give and inch they tend to take a mile. This is what you want? or you could try just telling her how you feel. good luck and hopefully you get what you want. The first two sentences made me cringe...there has never been anything feminine in me, and I dont think that being strong in life and letting your girl have her way with you when you go home is in any way unmanly... Unmanly is when you are a pathetic loser in life and you go home and take it all out on your girl, just because this is the only person you can do something to! But thanks for the advice in the last part - this sounds pretty sensible, and I will just continue what I have been doing...
todreaminblue Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Yes, I do want this as a status quo, and not a game we play for a while in the bedroom and then we quit. Nor do I perceive as any role-play - because doing these things for her feels to me like the most natural thing.Glad you understood this and thanks for the advice The first two sentences made me cringe...there has never been anything feminine in me, and I dont think that being strong in life and letting your girl have her way with you when you go home is in any way unmanly... Unmanly is when you are a pathetic loser in life and you go home and take it all out on your girl, just because this is the only person you can do something to! But thanks for the advice in the last part - this sounds pretty sensible, and I will just continue what I have been doing... I think that you should continue what you are doing.Your relationship with your wife is not anyone else's place to judge if satisfying for you or not and if it is mutual respect that you have for each other...i wish you well in life and love....deb
xdahliax Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 I know a lot of people are into this sort of stuff, but I really think that those people have underlying issues (maybe concerning their self-worth?) I don't know how to help you get what you want, but I do think you should see a therapist. Anyways, all the best.
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