MarcoInaros Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Hi there. I see a lot of really pretty girls on Match.com every day in my inbox, and I keep thinking about joining. I think I am almost at that point. I did construct a profile, but I just feel as if it is lacking. I am not sure if it is because I am not portraying myself as a compelling, interesting enough person, or if my tone is too stoic. But I don't want to sound desperate. If you have any tips I'd really appreciate it. Thanks. Registration | Match.com Official Site
curlygirl40 Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Oh this is so annoying I just typed a long reply and accidentally closed the screen when I was trying to bounce back and forth from your profile to LS. Grrrrr Let me see if I can remember. I'm just going to cut and paste here so it's easier and I don't make that mistake again!! I'm not going to leave all of your profile here, I'll just leave the parts where I have recommendations. Not crazy about the word finally in this sentence: I am finally at a point in my life where I have a good career going on and am on my own enjoying all that this area has to offer. How about something more like 'I am at a point in my life where my career is on track and in my downtime I am enjoying all that this area has to offer'. I don't like this next line at all: To be honest I don't know that many people here besides those I work with, so I am trying to expand my social circle. Yes it's honest, but maybe too honest. A lot of people will get it because you've been focusing on your career and your move and whatnot, but what I read when I read this is 'I have lived here for two years and haven't met anyone, so you might have to entertain me'. Now this: I also spend a fair amount of time at Tahoe, either hiking or skiing (which I am getting better at!) How about instead of (which I am getting better at!), something more like (a new love of mine, I enjoy seeing the improvement every time I go, it's such a challenging sport!). This: I am a little introverted but can come out with the right people. Maybe something more like 'I am an introvert by nature but will always open up once I'm comfortable'. I hope that helps some! It's good, but yet I can't say that I have a good grasp of who you are by reading it. I'm going to go wink at you now so you can read mine and feel free to tear it apart as well. LOL
curlygirl40 Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 O.K so I read your OP again and wanted to say this. It's pretty good but it does feel like it's lacking something. And what I think that something is, is hard to say for sure. Mostly, when I got done reading it, I didn't feel like I had a good grasp of who you are as a person. What moves you? What defines you as a person? What motivates you? I winked at you on Match so you can see my profile. It's always a work in progress, I've been at this for over 2 years, but I think I have it at a good point right now. I get A LOT of compliments on it, maybe you can see what I mean by 'grasp of who you are' by reading it. That's the feedback I get from my profile anyway. Guys tell me "all I read from women in our age group is 'I like wine and I like people who like wine and I want to be treated like a lady'" but yet there's no content. Anyway, hope I've helped some. Best of luck
Author MarcoInaros Posted October 10, 2012 Author Posted October 10, 2012 Thanks Curlygirl - those are some really good points. I feel the same way about my profile. It's a start, but it just seems lacking and doesn't present my motivations and approach to life, and what makes me a compelling person to know (heck sometimes I feel like I don't even know myself, which makes it even harder to write a personal profile - whoa.) Anyways, your profile is superb. You sound like a great girl to know because you in your profile you exude confidence and seem to be a fun person to know and has their life together. I need to emulate that I think. I sent you a PM with another question.
CarrieT Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Lostjeff - only those who are registered Match users can read your profile. The rest of us can't... You might want to cut-and-paste the verbiage here for more feedback.
curlygirl40 Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Carrie is right, you might just want to cut and paste the whole thing here. And would this be something that might get more attention in the dating section? I think I answered your PM, I'm new at the PM thing, so let me know if you didn't get it and I will answer again.
melodymatters Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Great. Now if my husband happens to look at my history it will look like I was trying to register for a dating site ! Cut and paste, this is always fun !
Author MarcoInaros Posted February 21, 2013 Author Posted February 21, 2013 I've been on match.com for a while now and I am a little disheartened. I have e-mailed a few girls, but no replies. To be honest, I think my profile is flawed, so I am afraid to send out any more. I also think I need to overhaul my pictures. Here is the text to my profile currently: "Hi there! Thanks for visiting! Now let me attempt to create a compelling profile.... I moved to *** about two years ago from the South Bay to work in my career field. I am at a point in my life where my career is on track, school is over (for now...) and I am enjoying life. I'm a simple guy. I enjoy the outdoor activities such as hiking, backpacking, or skiing. It's my goal to hike up Mt. Whitney this year, and run a half marathon for the first time. I recently bought a road bike, and I really look forward to taking some long rides. I also appreciate going to a restaurant I haven't been to before or a winery outing (or brewery...I'm turning into quite the beer connoisseur). I love visiting museums, comedy clubs, or watching a baseball or hockey game (go Sharks!). Alternatively I also enjoy staying at home either for a movie or game night. I am an avid reader. Oh yeah... and I am trying to become a better cook. Most people would say that I am thoughtful, a good listener, and a perpetual learner. I'm looking for a girl who is positive, affectionate, and hopefully likes the outdoors sometimes. Thanks for visiting and feel free to drop me a wink or more if you'd like to chat!"
furiousgreen Posted February 21, 2013 Posted February 21, 2013 I'm probably not the best person to comment, but I think saying "I'm a simple guy" makes you sound boring, although the rest of your description isn't.
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