EastsideMike Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 I have been unhappy in my marriage and decided long ago I would leave her once my boys are out of high school. 5 years ago I met a woman online, had an affair and fell in love. We had a very deep and passionate relationship. She is the only woman i have ever really loved, the love of my life. She was infatuate with me. She left her husband with her young child, but my teenage boys were very angry and I stayed for them. Over time she became more frustrated with me, but still loved me. Finally this year I have left my wife. I sent a letter to my old girlfriend and a couple facebook messages. As expected she was very angry with me. Said she would have loved me forever, but I chose my family. She is currently seeing someone, but she made no mention of him. She said she hates me and to leave her alone. Curiously, she said I have distracted her over the last month. Is she conflicted? Confused? My counselor and a couple friends said I should pursue her, that she must still have feelings or she wouldnt be distracted. Am I on a fool's errand?
dreamstate83 Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 "I understand that you are angry at me for the situation, and it's true that being there for my family comes first - I like to think of myself as dedicated. I'm sorry I put you through the anger and resentment that you have had to battle for god only knows how long. I'll leave you be, but understand that if you change your mind you are free to contact me." and leave it. Leave it alone until she contacts you or you move on.
dreamstate83 Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 I also want to add that you need to be true to yourself and know in your heart that you aren't pining after her just to fill the void of your marriage.
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