TG4MJ Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 So for the last 5 months I've been engaged in a little bit of light dating with a woman I met on craigslist that wanted to date again after being divorced for about two years. She is a very sweet and likeable woman and we connect well and seem to really understand each other as admittedly, I am a bit dorky and awkward, but she likes that. She makes me feel special, desireable, and important, feelings I've been running low on as of late. However, as we have come to know each other, I've just observed and learned things that kind of bother me. Some people might think I'm nitpicking but these are things that just don't settle well with me no matter how hard I try and dismiss them. The majority of the list includes, but is not limited to: She likes dogs and cats, but has an extreme dislike for mixbreed dogs/mutts and ridicules me for being the owner of two such dogs. She doesn't seem to like my vast movie collection very much, tying the majority of my collection to evil, hidden, messages/agendas and conspiracy theories, and I'm not talking about horror movies either, apparently alot of syfy, fantasy, even movies for the kiddos, all have deep rooted, elaborate, hidden messages dealing with evil and conspiracy theories. She hates the title "cougar" or "cradle robber" and often makes me feel guilty about the fact that I'm over seven years younger than her. She also makes me feel guilty about adoring her curvaceous form and constantly complains about how she feels overweight and unattractive despite the fact that to me, she is flawless. (Think Jenny Rivera the singer). She has a sister who treats her like a child and seems to want to interfere with our closeness despite the fact I literally never did anything to her. She has three kids, one of which is already 18, and now a father, making her a grandmother at the young age of 36. She admits, and laughs about, the fact thats he was late to her own wedding because she wanted to eat at a local drive in called Stars as this was in a neighboring state without this drive in and, well, apparently she really, really liked the burgers there, I guess ? I've been single for quite some time and while we seem to genuinely connect I constantly wonder if these are things I need to just get over or are legitimate concerns I should consider before things get serious between us. What do you all think ?
TaraMaiden Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Dump. Ditch. Drop. These are not 'nit-picking' these are huge, flapping, great big red flags.
Silly_Girl Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 She seems to operate on a different plane to you (and quite possibly the rest of us). What may seem minor to you now will have you wanting to bury her under the patio within a few months, is my opinion. You can do better! 1
melodymatters Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 ^^^ Really ? Did we read the same post ladies ? The only true "negative" is that she doesn't like mixed breed dogs ( I love them and have done rescue) and HE used the word "ridicule", maybe she considers it teasing : " Oh you and your silly mutts " ! The rest is : She has different taste in movies, HE doesn't like her dynamic with HER sister, she's self deprecating when he tells her she's hot when she feels fat, she hates the term cougar and it makes her feel badly ( very normal), she told a funny story about being late to her own wedding, and oh, yeah, she has kids, which he obviously knew about. My vote is : NITPICKING !!!!
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