Tonii Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 Ok is is just me or does it seem like the acceptable practice these days is to see a few people at once until you find "the one" In my situation i work with a girl who i'm crushing hard on. I dont wanna say fell for but its going in that direction. We have slept together once and she calls and or texts me everyday. However i know she at least hangs out with other guys. She is the type of girl to have male friends. She is a tough one to read and maybe a bit of a man eater. She can be very cold but then totally surprise me with a lovey dovey text or some hearts or something. I date another woman as well its not serious i do like her but its more of an insurance policy against getting hurt man i know that sounds bad but... I guess i'm just looking for some other peoples expierences. The girl i work with really throws out some strong signs she likes me but sometimes it seems destined for heartbreak. Girls: Would txt and or call guy everyday if you didnt have some type of interest. On the rare occasion we dont talk she mentions that we didnt talk on said day. Plus she throws out the classic signs: touching, getting in my space, laughing at my jokes, busting my chops a little.
IndyT Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 Try to find out more about the other guy friends, some girls just feel independent enough to have male friends in a non sexual way. While there are others who are just seeking attention. Be careful of the latter.
Author Tonii Posted October 8, 2012 Author Posted October 8, 2012 I dunno i'm not really one to try and find out info like that. I know one is like part of a group they all go to the bar with. The other guy has done some work on her car probably for free cuz he wants to get in her pants shes hot. Hes like total opposite of me i'm a career guy with manners hes one of theose like wannabe gansgter types. I know what you mean about the attention thing. I try to just do me and let the chips fall where they will but i got it bad for her and every day we keep talking i get in deeper. not gonna lie i'm sticking around to see if i can get round 2 I will have my house to myself all winter in a few weeks.
mysteryscape Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 she has other boyfriends, you have another girlfriend (or "dating partner"). Sounds like you're both hedging. Sounds like you'd like to have it both ways -- she sees only you, but you have your "spare." Good luck with that! If you're really curious, just ask her.
Author Tonii Posted October 9, 2012 Author Posted October 9, 2012 What is hedging? Lol that does not sound too bad but honestly id like to be with just her. I dunno i'm gonna see how things go now that i live alone again if it gotta drop her and move on it will be really tough but i dont share.
Oxy Moronovich Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Stop dating broads with "guy friends". Dudes and chicks can't have platonic friendships. Anyone who says otherwise is a liar. Fact. 1
mysteryscape Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Tonii "hedging" is insurance -- your word -- exactly that. as in hedging your bets. if you really want a serious exclusive girlfriend, and you don't want to "multidate" then don't, ask upfront if that is what she does and if she says yes, ask her to be "exclusive" i.e. both of you, and if she doesn't agree, move on.
truth_seeker Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 I wouldn't trust any girl with guy friends. I would only see her as fun material and would stay away from catching any serious feelings for her.
123321 Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Ok is is just me or does it seem like the acceptable practice these days is to see a few people at once until you find "the one" In my situation i work with a girl who i'm crushing hard on. Women have almost always multi-dated,, but in the past they would conceal it by calling it something else. Lately guys have figured this out and are doing the same thing. I have no issue with it and have done it myself.
123321 Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Stop dating broads with "guy friends". Dudes and chicks can't have platonic friendships. Anyone who says otherwise is a liar. Fact. This is how women conceal multi-dating, typically.
oaks Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Stop dating broads with "guy friends". Dudes and chicks can't have platonic friendships. Anyone who says otherwise is a liar. Fact. What utter poppycock.
Author Tonii Posted October 12, 2012 Author Posted October 12, 2012 I dunno I think its not quite so black and white men and women can be platonic friends. However i agree that a lot of the time especially with people my age (24) one of the two devolops some type of alterior motive for the friendship. This person either makes a move or gets friendzoned lol. She is a special girl and i'm not afriad to fight for her a little bit but i know when to cut my losses.
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