RudeLou Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 I posted a few hours ago about my situation. I currently work with my ex. So we're trying to be civil about things. I am hurting about what happened, but due to some circumstances I understand why this is happening. Well I just found out that she's still going on the trip to Vegas we planned together. Only she's going with one of her married friends. It shouldn't bug me because her business is her business, but it still does. I still have those days off, I might still take that time off or just work and save those days for something else. Thanks for reading my vent!
Chi townD Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Yeah, save those days and take a trip to Florida or New Orleans. Go somewhere for you.
Author RudeLou Posted October 9, 2012 Author Posted October 9, 2012 She paid for it. It was a birthday present for me that we talked about and we both looked forward too up until about 20 minutes before she broke up with me. I think the fact that it was for my birthday hurts me a little more than the fact she's going.
Chi townD Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Well then, in my opinion, you definately need take a trip for you and you bring a friend with you! Go drink and gamble in New Orleans! Or deep sea fishing in Key West! Something! There has to be a places that you've always wanted to go (besides Vegas). So, make a plan! Where do you want to go?
Author RudeLou Posted October 9, 2012 Author Posted October 9, 2012 Thanks for the reply. Well I have been wanting to go for a while, but I would love to go to New York or San Francisco. I really do just need a good distraction for myself. Any other suggestions?
Chi townD Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Of places to go or how to get over the fact that she's going on a trip that was entended for you? Because, if you want suggestions of where to go? I got a ton of places to suggest!!!!
Author RudeLou Posted October 9, 2012 Author Posted October 9, 2012 I could honestly use a little of both! I live in Los Angeles so San Francisco is far but still doable. New York or anywhere further would take a while for me to save up for.
Chi townD Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Well, stuff I have done have been the outdoors kind of stuff. For instance, I went whitewater rafting with 3 other buddies of mine in West Virginia. To spend the day on the river with 3 hot meals and all equipment included was $119. We rented a three bedroom cabin that was decked out!!! Bar, Hot tub....everything. And it was $450 for the weekend. (friday, Saturday and Sunday) So, my share was 112.50. So, white water rafting and the cabin for the weekend cost me $231.50!!! That was it! Except for money that I spent on meals and (of course) beer! Opps, also we rented a car and my share was 50 bucks. So, round it out to about $300. Air fair, I got lucky and it was about $200 at the time. So, nice weekend getaway for 500-600 bucks! You can do a cattle drive in Arizona (which is closer to you). You can also whitewater there too. I love the Florida Keys!!! And I got to do some scuba diving there as well as deep sea fishing. Drank at Sloppy Joe's (the same bar that Hemingway always drank at!!!) New York is okay, but it really wasn't what it was cracked up to be. I really didn't go there with a plan...it was nice, but I really wasn't impressed (Times Square was pretty cool). You can do indoor skydiving in Arizona (because I'm not crazy about jumping out of a plane and hoping a silk sheet will keep me alive). Or, if your into sports sign up for a fantasy baseball camp. The Dodgers have one. You get training from Pro coaches and players, then play in the same training field as the Dodgers. You get decked out in a Dodgers uniform that you keep at the end (frame it and put it in your Man Cave)! For one week, you ARE a Dodger. Everything is included. Your room, meals equipment....everything. Draw back? With these sports packages, they are expensive. Training camp is about $4500. But, you can pay throughout the year. If baseball isn't your thing, then do football. The NFL doesn't have fantasy camps yet. But, Notre Dame and Penn State do! You'll get decked out in their uniforms (that you can keep at the end as well) At the end of the week, you actually play a flag game IN Notre Dame or Penn States field. But you're still decked out in helmet shoulder pads....everything. It's about the same price. But, you can pay throughout the year. I know it's expensive, but you only live one life and that's a memory that will be with you for the rest of your life. So, go out and have an adventure!
Author RudeLou Posted October 9, 2012 Author Posted October 9, 2012 Those are some great ideas! Now I just have to find a friend that's available to go on an adventure or I can try to go alone.
Chi townD Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 I'm telling you dude. You go on one adventure. There's a massive possibility you're gonna want more. In my house, you'll see pictures of me in the Sierra Mountains, fishing in Key West (and some drunk pics my wife won't put up! ), drinking a margarita on the beach in the Bahama's. Picture of me with the fjords of Norway in the background. Pics of me backpacking in Spain. Pics of me at the Tokyo Giants game against the Osaka Tigers in Japan. Pic of me standing outside the RockHard Cafe (that's not a typo, they actually named it the RockHard) in South Korea. Pics of me in Brazil, in France, in England, in Ireland. Pics of me in Rome, in Casablanca (nothing like the movie), pics of me drinking a beer in Germany. Pics of me standing by the cliffs of Dover. Point is, I'm proud of the fact that I'm living a full life. If my Ex ever saw those pics, she would know that my life is great and full of adventures. That I could live a full life without her. That my life is my own, and I chose who I share it with. That's why I hate when people say that they can't live without someone. You can, you just have to move forward. There's a world outside your door. Go see it!
flitzanu Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 well, consider it a financial issue. if she paid for it, it's unlikely she's going to waste that cash. at least she isn't taking a new boyfriend in your place, right? positives.
Author RudeLou Posted October 10, 2012 Author Posted October 10, 2012 Honestly it was just a deposit on the room which is fully refundable up until 2 days before. No she's not going with a new boyfriend only a friend of hers that's thinking of getting a divorce. I've been doing okay so far. I know those days when she's over there is going to bug the hell out of me though.
Chi townD Posted October 10, 2012 Posted October 10, 2012 Okay, so go do something that weekend. Go somewhere. Do something. Two can play at that game.
Author RudeLou Posted October 11, 2012 Author Posted October 11, 2012 My family is actually going to go to Arizona that weekend so I might just do that. They are also going to Hawaii in November, it's funny last time I went through a break up I went to Hawaii with them last minute and to be honest I was a little miserable. So I'm still debating on whether or not I should go?
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