windmask Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 hey everyone its windmask so i need everyone to help me with some and its not that hard but first ill explain the story. when my ex broke up with me i came to this site and i learned so much and you guys were so awesome. i wouldnt have made it without you guys.. since i posted my story here before ill just write a quick recap. so 2011 ex gf decides to break up with me after two years a week before my bday. i was going through family issues, finding job issues, and last year at college payment issues. so lifes stressful and she who was my best friend too is going out with other guys one by one and telling them shes single i find it dumb and i tell her that its not right. she says am the only person on the planet to find something wrong with that. then soon she says..."your not highly educated","your in college and not working so dont have money" "and i dont want to be with you but am breaking up with you cause i dont love you not because of the first two reasons i gave you". i felt cheated cause she was going out with other guys and telling them she was single and telling me m not being highly educated or not being rich i as so hurt. i stupidly begged and all like a clown while she humiliated me over and over again then one day i just said forget it this is not worth it. after this every time i saw her she said how her life was so amazing without me in it literally and how her decision to leave me was the best for her and also how i was the worst bf ever. and i was like wow to my face eh... i said just stay away from me before i seriously get upset i vanished until this year cause i decided to take another program now the problem is she was suppose to have graduated from her program am guessing she didnt cause i run into her all the time now. its been a year and half since the break up she did the breaking up. my question is what do i say or do when she comes running and saying "hi how are you"? so far my response has been "hi,fine or just bye"...so question, do i just ignore her completly or actually stop and talk to her...??? please tell me she cheated on me and left me over money etc its so upsetting i feel so angery when i think about it. thats the reason why i give her 1 worded answers. because before school she would stop me just to tell me how i was the worst bf she had and how she was right to break up with me should have done it sooner. so please tell me sshould i ignore her completely or actually talk to her? :bunny:so please help i would love to hear someones input on this ...
geegirl Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 She humiliated you. She told you that you are not educated enough for her. She told you that you don't have enough money She cheated on you She told you that you were the worst BF ever and that she should have dumped you a long time ago And you're asking if you should talk to her? SMH.
Author windmask Posted October 9, 2012 Author Posted October 9, 2012 hey you guys thanks for your response. geegirl ur so right it makes me look S$tupid after hearing that but i kinda needed it. i fully understand she treated me terribly and no one deserves that. the thing is me and her were best friends before. and so far ive been ignoring her or she starts to talk and i say bye... just posted hear to get someones reply really am glad you answered. i dont know, am a very independent person and i taught myself very differently cant say parents taught me, never had them. but am 25 and i taught myself to be always respectful to everyone. i dont know the relationship i had with her i thought hey do i ignore her or what even after she humiliated me i was like maybe am wrong since shes always trying to talk to me. so i thought id just ask you guys here. she said her life is perfect since she broke up with me and shes super happy when she broke up with me. if thats the case why even talk to me. clearly i made her life bad since she said all that if her life is perfect without me she should leave me alone.. so i got confused and came here to ask you guys. but thank you for ur response i will ignore her shes a low life.....:lmao:ur responses meant a lot seems like little but i love honesty lol.....thanks
geegirl Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 You were best friends in a relationship. You are not in a relationship anymore, nor does she treat you like a friend. Best friends don't treat each other this way. Work with who she is now, not who she was then. Your parents thought you to respect people. Respect those that respect you. Respect is earned. No one is entitled to it. Ignore her and move on with your life. Embrace those that add to your life, not those that feel the need to tear you down. Good luck to you! Chin up!
Chi townD Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 (edited) Dude, you are me several years ago. I caught the girl I was supposed to marry cheating on me. She told me that I was a loser, I wasn't going anywhere in life, I had no goals AND I would always be stuck working dead-end jobs. That was a kick in the balls and my self esteem. I got motivated and I was determined to prove her wrong. I did find a University to take a chance on me and I got in on a probationary status. That didn't last too long because I rocked my first year with a 3.78 GPA, I found that I liked the challange. So, I attended college and a LOT of it. When I finally finished undergrad and grad school, I started in my field and became successful in my career. But, that wasn't all. I got the bug to travel. After my Ex broke up with me, I was a basket case. So, a good friend of mine literally kidnapped me and threw me on a train with him to St. Louis for a weekend. Four hours later, we were checking into the Sheridan and then we saw the sites for a while. Leaned up against the Arch. We went to see a Cardinals game and that night we went to the clubs. Met a couple of people and even danced with a few girls! Then, it hit me. If my friend didn't do what he did, I would have been alone in my cheap ass apartment drunk and lonely. Now, I'm out and about and seeing things I wouldn't have seen before. A couple of months later, my friend (that kidnapped me) and a couple of more buddies and I went on a whitewater rafting trip in West Virginia. Something I would have NEVER have considered doing before. I got bit by the travel bug HARD! Life is too short and there's a world out there to see. Screw the Travel Channel!! Go see it! I have been to no less than 20 countries. I've seen the world and I know that there are is more to see! So, what happened to the loser that wasn't going anywhere in life and working dead end jobs? He got himself a career with a good paying job, owns his own house in the suburbs with a nice car. I met my wife who is a career woman herself and she understands my need for travel. Sometimes she comes with me, sometimes she doesn't (depends if she likes what I'm trying to do. Dog sledding in Colorado isn't her idea of fun; just cold.) Prove her wrong! BUT!!! more importantly, do it for you!! By the way, if a person has to come up to you to TELL you that their life is so much better without you tells me that they have to CONVINCE themselves that it is. Truth is, it's probably not. Edited October 9, 2012 by Chi townD
Author windmask Posted October 9, 2012 Author Posted October 9, 2012 that was really some story buddy which i really enjoyed. but i did graduate from one program and i did get a job but didnt like it as much as i wanted. so am just taking a another program this year programming. so far its going good. but am always truthful and it does anger me that i still think about her even after she cheated on me. and i get even more upset when she tries to talk to me now like after all the humiliation.. but anyhows ur story was awesome. and a friend of mine told me one thing. which was that if she can cheat on you with another dude and tell her self its okay then it should tell you about the type of person she is. well whatever the case maybe i wish her the best i just wish i didnt have to see her. my entire focus is on my school well am trying my best to make sure it is. but thank you for that wonderful little story i suppose a bit hard work is in order for me.
Recommended Posts