dunkin22 Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 Hello everyone I'm new here:o. I've seem to come across a crossroad in my current relationship that I'm not sure whats the best option.. Me and my girlfriend have been together almost 2 years I'm 23 shes 20 it's had it's ups and downs when its good its great when its bad its not so great but I was always told you have to take the bad with the good but I'm not sure how much more of this I can take. Every weekend (saturdays) she goes out with her girlfriends to college parties she goes to frat houses etc the typical (single girl) thing to do in college. About a half a year ago I really was against this I guess you could call it jealousy I warmed up to it but I still believe in the quote " if you sit in the barbers chair long enough you're going to get a haircut". Just some information on why I was uncomfortable about her going to these parties a while back we took a break right after we did the guy who has parties who she constantly goes over starts trying to talk to her telling her he likes to make her smile etc...... She rarely invites me out and her reason for not inviting me out is because she "want's to hang out with her friends" at least that's what the excuse was until yesterday..Which she told me she doesn't want me to come out with her any more because I keep her away from her friends and want all the attention.. So she finally decides to invite me out with her and her friends and the whole night she just seems pissed because her friends all have boyfriends now and they are all over their significant other. I make it a point to NOT keep her away from her friends and kinda let her do her own thing. We barley spoke and I really wanted her to be able to be with her friends. So halfway through the night they decided to go to another house and we leave she still hasn't really said anything to me its all 4 of her friends and their boyfriends walking together, her up in the front while I'm in the back walking by myself and she doesn't even acknowledge that I'm there. We go a few more blocks nothing is said until she finally turns around and goes "whats your problem?" I respond with " all the couples are walking together and your leaving me behind" she freaks out and goes this is why you never come I'm sick of the way you are acting. So I drop it later that night I attempt to talk to her and try to explain to her if the shoe was on the other foot and I was out with my friends and their girlfriends walking down the road and I left her behind I would look like an *******. She still didn't get what I was saying... In my eyes I believe that if you are in a relationship you should be able to share your social life with your significant other she doesn't see it that way. I really don't know what I should do here if I should just bite the bullet and accept the fact that she doesn't want me in her social life or move on and find someone does.
Sanman Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 From everything you have posted, your gf doesn't seem to really be interested in a relationship as much as being single (at least not a real relationship). Is that the vibe you get from her? If so, it may be time to move on. DO you two do things together? How much time do you spend together.
Author dunkin22 Posted October 11, 2012 Author Posted October 11, 2012 From everything you have posted, your gf doesn't seem to really be interested in a relationship as much as being single (at least not a real relationship). Is that the vibe you get from her? If so, it may be time to move on. DO you two do things together? How much time do you spend together. Yeah we do things together I mean there isn't much to do around this part of town. We might spend 3-4 days a week together normally spend the night at her house. I noticed Her sex drive has dropped the last couple weeks especially after that night and she seems to be really distant(not wanting to hang out like she used to) I'm not sure whether its me just over thinking this and letting it get to my head or what. I really can't wrap my head around the fact that she doesn't want me to be out with her I mean that seems really immature to "Never want me to go out because she can't hang out with her friends she feels like she needs to be all over me per say". I'm not a big party guy and I'm never in the situation for this to happen but I swear I feel like if the shoe was on the other foot I would be the ******* in these situation!!
Balzac Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 "but I'm not sure how much more of this I can take.. " Now is the time to move on. You are either done w college or about to be. Her actions as described by you, indicate significant immaturity and definite lack of empathy. Sounds as if even her friend group is maturing. Who wants to hang in a social group with her acting the way she does? She disrespects you. Move on.
Balzac Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 Welcome to LS. Lots of friendly and wise folks here to offer support and advice. Sorry I posted a response absent a welcome.
ScreamingTrees Posted October 11, 2012 Posted October 11, 2012 Sounds like she's into some other guy, or just not into a relationship at this point.. Going by your second post, at least.
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