Author tornandconfused12 Posted October 21, 2012 Author Posted October 21, 2012 In reading your descriptions of your husband, his infidelity, his needs for validation, the lies, the ability to lie so well about something so big.... Are you able to have verifiable proof that he is attending therapy...and how many times? Same with his seeking a job transfer. I realize this sounds paranoid, but it happens. It doesn't sound paranoid to me at all, pretty legitimate questions to me given the situation! Yes, he is attending therapy as my email is the one that receives all the explanation of benefits from our insurance. he's been to about 5-6 appointments at this point. I've also seen documents from the therapist's office and have seen him walk into their office. On the job transfer....I know his boss personally and would know pretty quickly if he lied about a job transfer. I already know about some work stuff that will be assigned to him that will temporarily assign him to another office for a few weeks; he doesn't know about this yet. His boss wants him back on track (he was an excellent employee prior to this taking place) but I won't lie by saying she isn't advocating for me, as her friend. It's a weird situation, being my friend and his boss, but it has had some benefits in this particular situation. We also work, very generally speaking, for the same, very large employer. The division he works for and the one I work for are completely separate but enough connected that I have access to a full employee directory and some specific employee information. He also has been very transparent in forwarding the emails to me from the person he is trying to go to work for. All that said, his need for validation and all the lies are a big (huge) part of not knowing if I will stay with him or not. This double-life stuff, just not sure if I can take that chance again and have to wonder when and if he'll allow himself to fall into the trap of his own making again.
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