karpeezy Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 Seen some great advice on here, and I hope ya'll can give me a bit of insight - Met through mutual friends, he's 2.5 years younger, 45 minutes away - Relationship accelerated quickly through August. He pursued me aggressively and as soon as I was comfortable to let him in, he dropped off and I became the pursuer. We continued communication and hanging out at this point. Sexually active. - Families and friends on both sides were met (this is a big deal to me) - He was working 6 days wk/14 hrs near end of August. Would send good morning texts (I'd sometimes send them too, didn't always wait for him) but not to much else. Left the country for Labour Day weekend and didn't say good bye (this pissed me off) - We went two weeks not seeing each other, then had a great night out together. I messaged him the next night to say thanks for a great night. And then he didn't contact me for 3 days. After a few messages which didn't do much to make me feel good, I decided to message him: I really like you but it's obvious the timing isn't right and we aren't on the same page. I'd love to get together with you when you have time but for now I'll let it go. He said he was sorry and wished he wasn't working so much. That was a month ago. - Few days after that text, found out he was going to the same bar as me so I texted him to let him know I'd be there too. He didn't show. I found out later that he changed his plans so he wouldn't have to see me. - Saw him last weekend at the same bar. Grabbed him and said hi, he just said hi back and looked at me. Mutual friend came by and pulled me away and when I said something about him she said "move on, hes not worth it, you can do better". He obviously said something to her, since she did not hesitate even a second to say that. So, questions are: - By sending that text did I become the "dumper"? I feel like he was to busy/lost interest and didn't want to hurt me so he pulled away. Am I wrong? - I thought things ended on a mature note, why did he ignore me at the bar? - We never had time to establish a 'friendship' but we have personalities that go great together. Is there a chance in the future we could be friends or try again? - Was I just a summer fling?? I take into account the fact that HE hasn't contacted me, and ignored me at the bar. That if he wanted to see/talk to me he would. I don't know if he's doing it to spare my feelings, maybe he's hurt, or if he just doesn't care and I was a 'phase' and he's on to the next one. Any answers are greatly appreciated. thank you!
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