ThroneH Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 I met this girl about 6 months ago. Fell for her straight away, she seemed to have everything I wanted in a female. We got along great and always discussed personal stuff after only knowing each other for a short time. Just recently, I decided to introduce her to my friends. My best friend, already knowing that I liked her alot, decided to hit on her the entire night and hook up with her in front of me, after promising me he'd stay away and never do anything to hurt me. (she hadn't known that I liked her at this point). Lately he's been going behind my back and inviting her on dates and even to his house. He lied to her and said that he had already told me in advance that he was inviting her out constantly, and that I was cool with it. I didn't know this until she told me, assuming I already knew about it. On top of that, he's been saying harsh stuff to her about me trying to turn her against me so he can desperately get in her pants. She inquires me about what he's been saying, and I say they're not true, because well, they're not. I haven't done anything wrong to him. Obviously I'm never talking to my best friend again (I don't deserve to be treated that way, and other people think I'm doing the right thing too by ending the friendship), but should I get her out of my life too? Because I can't stand to see an old best friend who has constantly lied and hurt me date a girl I'm nuts about. She says she really values our friendship and never wants to see me go out of her life, as I've helped her get through so many rough patches. She recently admitted she used to like me to, then my friend came into the picture.
kae Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 i suggest you hang back, let him do his thing with her. Say nothing about catching his lies.. he will deny it. Play it cool. Let her see you are not interested in her that much.. you DiD fall in the friendzone.. ur douch friend might actually be helping you get out of there.. stupid douch! Dont care.. basically.. If they like eachother.. it was bond to happen.. If they ending not liking eachother at least it will be dealt with. Remember the more you like her.. the more he will want her.. The more she KNOWS you like her.. the more she will be drawn to him It is imperative you DONT CARE ABOUT ****. Let their game play.. what i suggest is you become busy popular .. disappearing guy.. but actually BE! DONT FAKE IT .. it WILL smell like insecurity. ..call those chat lines.. and she WILL come looking for you.. even better..
kae Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 yes cut him out. but distance from her.. she will find you.. dont do anything to `hold`on to her. make her do the work!!
Avulare Posted October 12, 2012 Posted October 12, 2012 This is the thing with situations like this... You're assuming the girl has no opinions of her own, that she is equally likely to date you over your friend, and therefore your friend must back off because you "claimed" her first. That's not how things work. You knew this girl for six months, became friends with her, and the relationship never escalated to anything beyond a friendship. She meets your friend and they immediately click and start going out - that doesn't make your friend a douche, it means the girl found him to be a more suitable romantic partner and jumped at an opportunity for happiness. I'm willing to bet she's the one who started flirting with him first, too. Don't hold a grudge against your friend, just move on and try to meet someone new who's obviously interested in you.
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