Balzac Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 Thank you for your great replies. I should elaborate on why i was probing about her intentions to live apart. i couldn't fill in the gaps as to why she left suddenly, especially when i have done so much for her and we had one 'bad day at the office' as it were. I suggested she find a house near her parents which would mean only weekends due to where my work was. I wanted to know if she would be happy with that. Bare in mind when we planned for this child and i wanted a family and wanted to be there 100%. i didnt want to ever be a weekend dad. It was to probe whether being a family was the most important thing, i gathered from her exchange she was happy me providing for her financially and seeing her at the weekends. it feels like she's become pregnant and took he first opportunity to leave me to set up her nest next to her parents. im now surplus to her requirements and im devastated. How could someone be so blatant! Hi mate. Up until last week we lived together. She now would prefer me to be a part time dad seeing me at weekends. She was making excuses about returning home but something told me she was using delay tactics as i couldnt just piece together how someone could change overnight. I know im the dad, she wont get an abortion. I want to be a proper father and have a family, this isnt what i wanted. I already have a young boy from a previous relationship and i have spent 1000's in the courts trying to see him more. I simply cant go through this again. early 30's two kids two different partners. not how i imagined it would be! Oh no! As you share more, your decisions sound more and more solidly well thought out. I totally understand your comments about courts & money. No argument from me, you are well informed. I'm just sad for you and your children. Your loss here is tremendous. What can we offer you other than empathy and to be a sounding board. I want to hope for you that she can return.
yessy21 Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 Hormones=Crazy.......... Pregnancy Hormones= Extra Cray cray. you better be glad she didnt try to muffle your 'snoring' with a pillow while you slept, for saying Bad things.
Balzac Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 (edited) " I originally started out trying to find out why someone could up and leave when pregnant and with some constructive probing its now obvious she was playing me for a pay check. I tell you one thing she was very believable." Sounds as if clearer thinking is prevailing. Perhaps this is looking back, absent the blinders of love? I guess the question now is how to overcome this IF she decides to feengage with you in a romantic, intimate relationship? Has she a clue about the consequences of her decisions? Curious if #1 son has siblings? Edited October 8, 2012 by Balzac
Author mrfamilyguy Posted October 8, 2012 Author Posted October 8, 2012 " I originally started out trying to find out why someone could up and leave when pregnant and with some constructive probing its now obvious she was playing me for a pay check. I tell you one thing she was very believable." Sounds as if clearer thinking is prevailing. Perhaps this is looking back, absent the blinders of love? I guess the question now is how to overcome this IF she decides to feengage with you in a romantic, intimate relationship? Has she a clue about the consequences of her decisions? Curious if #1 son has siblings? Ive been burnt and my rose tinted glasses are now well and truly off. Wow isnt love blinding! Funny as i went for someone who i thought would never be like this. My last partner was pretty, high maintenance and money driven. My current (soon to be ex) had a loving family, good morals (so i thought), didnt seem to be about money and she saw the pain i went through during my last relationship. i wont be giving 'us' another chance; My son has no other siblings. As the Sex Pistols once famously said, "ever felt like youve been cheated.."...thats a YES!
darkmoon Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 why would she pick a guy she out and out didn't like to get pregnant by? she might have gone for very nice guy if she was planning to do this, but i think you're spoiling your confidence for no reason, cuz no woman wants an ugly baby (who takes after an ugly dad)
Balzac Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 Sex Pistols uh you bet!!! She would have to claw her way back into my world, all the while conducting herself in a contrite and adult posture. Never would I offer marriage. That's me. She had her chance. Lick your wounds. Move on. We all make mistakes. You must be questioning her family by now. Wondering if they have a clue what is about to befall them?
darkmoon Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 Sex Pistols uh you bet!!! She would have to claw her way back into my world, all the while conducting herself in a contrite and adult posture. Never would I offer marriage. That's me. She had her chance. Lick your wounds. Move on. We all make mistakes. You must be questioning her family by now. Wondering if they have a clue what is about to befall them? he said he just wants to see her on week-ends - and then she agreed to it besides, no woman is going to pick an ugly man as a dad
Balzac Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 Nothing in this discussion is or has been about physical beauty nor the lack of it. 1
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