ruffster Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 I found out on Friday that I have herpes, the down there kind. But here's the thing... my girl freind denies giving it to me. Who is correct? I've only had two sex partners: My ex wife, and my current girlfriend. My ex wife and i were married for 10 years and we both were virgins. I know for sure she has never cheated on me. But she did have a cold sore on her lip two times in the ten years that we were married. She never gave me oral sex, ever. My current girlfriend has had over 20 sex partners and she is really good at sex, I mean really good. She claims that she always gets tested. She doesn't ever remember getting sores. I shaved down there one night, and two days later we had sex. She gushed and it stank honestly, the smell. Wasn't the normal smell for her. That night she said that she was sore down there on the inside. Fast forward two weeks later, and I start to break out in the same places where I shaved kind of hard. Is it normal that she would deny that she gave me herpes? She said I probably caught it at the gym, but that doesn't make sense to me. She's going to get tested tomorrow. I just know that if the test comes out positive that she's going to say that I gave her herpes. If the test comes out negative, then of course she's going to deny giving me herpes. I know that tests can give a false negative, but never a false positive. I'm stuck with the, "my boyfriend has herpes, and I didn't give it to him. When the truth is very likely that she gave it to me. Is it worth even talking about? I don't want to go through life her saying that I gave her herpes.
Author ruffster Posted October 8, 2012 Author Posted October 8, 2012 also, one more thing... I've never given oral sex to either woman. Sounds weird, but its the truth. I've never had a cold sore either.
Mycteria Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 If you get a blood test they can tell you if you've been infected recently, as in the last three months. Both of you need to go get blood tested. If hers is the older infection, then you have your answer. But if you've both had it longer than three months, or if you wait too long, then there will be no way to tell.
kaylan Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 Tell her you both should get tested and if she protests tell her its so you dont give it to her. And if she protests more, just dump her.
Author ruffster Posted October 8, 2012 Author Posted October 8, 2012 The doctor took a swab test about 8 days ago, and my girl friend is going to take the blood test tomorrow. I'll call my doctor tomorrow about me getting the blood test. There is the type 1 and type 2. If we both have type 2 herpes, then that should be enough evidence for her. I still think, she's going to deny it if positive. She's going to say that I gave it to her. So much for honesty in a relationship. What a lousy thing to break up over, the denial issue. Perhaps I should just drop the matter after the blood tests are done. If she would just drop the matter too, we can just both move forward. I hope she lets me see her STD results from the lab.
Balzac Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 You "hope" she shows you her lab report? This girl sounds to be in that middling IQ zone. Has she not taken a basic biology course? I'm sure she's fun, gorgeous and hot in the sack. What a pity that she dumps this at your feet and may cause the demise of your relationship now that you are both positive. Chances she'll inform future partners.....low or no.
Author ruffster Posted October 9, 2012 Author Posted October 9, 2012 I think what's difficult is that we both have feelings for each other. I should have known better and been educated on practicing safe sex. We both should have been tested before turning sexual in our relationship. Even then, standard STD testing doesn't include the herpes virus. 1 on 5 people have genital herpes and 90% don't even know it due to having a mild or very little outbreak. Also, there is nothing wrong with both partners having herpes.
Balzac Posted October 9, 2012 Posted October 9, 2012 Dude I feel your pain. I also made no pejorative comment about either party having herpes. It is rampant statistically in certain demographics. It's often unknown that one is positive.
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