Thinking of breaking up, but I dont have the streagnth, or want

[niko1999]

Im considering breaking up with him. But I dont think I have the streagnth. Or the whole want to. Im afraid of being alone, I know that is a factor. I got to reading here, some people about the SO having online personals, while in relationships. Well, that got me thinking. He has had a personal on Match.com, for forever. Sometimes it bothers me, sometimes it doesnt. I put up a fake one. Anway, I decided to see if he had one on Yahoo. (we both have yahoo accounts.) and lo and behold, he does. He has been on it in the last three days. Last time he had one, he got rid of it, like I asked. He last logged in three dyas ago. And apparently, he is single, and apparently, he lives alone. He copied the exact thing he had written for his profile on match.com. I read this, and my blood ran SO cold. I started to get shivers. I mean, things have simmered down WAY lots between us, especially with the two of us working 60-70hurs a week. So its a little stressful. I dont know.

 

Last night, I said soemthing, dont remember what. Probably had to do with us not having had sex for about two months. And he says hes not attracted to me that way anymore. THEN he claims he didnt say that. I dont know. Probably the best interest would be for me to leave. But Im afraid to. I dont think I have the streanght to do so. I dont want to be alone. We are coming up on two years togetherm, and we have had some ups and downs, as would any relationship. I dont know guys. I just realy need some freinds right now. I feel like there is no one for me to talk to about this. Maybe I need to go out and start having a life of my own again. I dont know. I know he says he doenst have any other freinds than me, which is true, he really doesnt. And he met me online. So why not meet freinds online. I dont know what to do.

[honey2005]

You're right, you do need to have a life of your own. You need more friends than just your boyfriend, and the same for him. I think you need to talk to him about how you feel. If you can say it to us, you can say it to him.

 

Are you attracted to him "that way" anymore? Do you not want to leave because you still love him, or is it just because you're scared of being alone? If it's the latter, then I recommend you leave. You've already put 2 years into this relationship, if you don't feel it's going to last, don't spend anymore time on it. But if you really do love him, and you think it's worth trying to save, talk to him and tell him you don't want it to end. You've been with him for a long time, maybe you just need to put the spark back into your relationship. Whatever your choice, I think talking would be the best thing to do. Good luck.