Immissme Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 How would I make this guy to say yes to receiving oral sex from me? He says his experience with his ex wasn't that good and he didn't enjoy it. How would I convince him that his experience with me would be different only if he gives it a try? I love giving it and I'm pretty good at it. My ex used to not like oral sex before but I made him love it. I want this guy to feel the same way. I've tried last night and he says " Baby I'm good. It's one last thing for you to do" WTF! 1
MrCastle Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 Some people like what they like. If a girl didn't like anal, I wouldn't try and force her into it or try to persuade her. I'm not into it myself and would rather give than receive, but then again I wouldn't turn down a bj either.
CptObvious Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 Lol I'll be the judge of that. Can you demonstrate on me first?
Author Immissme Posted October 8, 2012 Author Posted October 8, 2012 Some people like what they like. If a girl didn't like anal, I wouldn't try and force her into it or try to persuade her. I'm not into it myself and would rather give than receive, but then again I wouldn't turn down a bj either. He doesn't want to receive a bj.
yongyong Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 I am not a oral guy and don't have any obsessions about it. But when I see a girl I really like, I think I would lick any parts of her body. If she is just somewhat attractive, I wouldn't go down on her.
SmileFace Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 I will explain to him what you said hear, however if he doesn't let up - this will most likely be a deal breaker for me.
Leigh 87 Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 I am not a oral guy and don't have any obsessions about it. But when I see a girl I really like, I think I would lick any parts of her body. If she is just somewhat attractive, I wouldn't go down on her. My boyfriend is the same. Unless she is a model, or he is in love with them(aka me!) he will absolutely not even think about going down on them. It is not his thing; but IS with the right girls, for physical and emotional reasons. It is normall a dealbreaker, but he wanted to be with me enough to try it out on me a lot and eventually love it. Maybe the OPS partner can do the same? Let her do it to him a few times, and try to see if he likes it more?
yongyong Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 You would dump him just because he won't lick your pxssy? that sounds very.......I don't know what word to use to describe it I will explain to him what you said hear, however if he doesn't let up - this will most likely be a deal breaker for me.
SmileFace Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 You would dump him just because he won't lick your pxssy? that sounds very.......I don't know what word to use to describe it I am pretty sure the op is about giving him oral but I may be mistaking, but him not giving oral will be deal breaker too.
todreaminblue Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 How would I make this guy to say yes to receiving oral sex from me? He says his experience with his ex wasn't that good and he didn't enjoy it. How would I convince him that his experience with me would be different only if he gives it a try? I love giving it and I'm pretty good at it. My ex used to not like oral sex before but I made him love it. I want this guy to feel the same way. I've tried last night and he says " Baby I'm good. It's one last thing for you to do" WTF! You cant make a guy say yes just like guys cant make girls say yes.....you can discuss it....its personal choice........every woman is pretty unique in what they like and dont like just like guys are......you cant force him to give you oral but you can ask him why he doesnt like it and work from there..you totally lost me on your last sentence ........deb
Leigh 87 Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 If a girl wouldn't perform oral on me, or let me on her, I wouldn't even entertain a relationship and it would be no point in even trying to pursue sex-buddy status. There are a lot of people that feel this way too. It's not normal, not horrible abnormal, but not NORMAL. Edit.. either way, not both, is a no-go. kick rocks biiiiatch. But some guys have to be really into a girl in order to have the desire to do it; and the same with us girls. I will not give a guy a b/j unless we are in a long term relationship. And would not expect him to go down on me until we are serious unless he was obsessive about it! Fooling around with the hands is all I do with guys I am not serious with. It feels wrong to give them blow jobs unless I am into them, so I do not expect them to do it to me. Dating is totally different; men like my partner and the above poster (and there are MANY like this out there) save oral for girls they are into, but would fool around and maybe have sex with girls that are just moderately attractive and who they are not into.
Author Immissme Posted October 8, 2012 Author Posted October 8, 2012 You would dump him just because he won't lick your pxssy? that sounds very.......I don't know what word to use to describe it Read the post. It's me giving him oral. .
Author Immissme Posted October 8, 2012 Author Posted October 8, 2012 You cant make a guy say yes just like guys cant make girls say yes.....you can discuss it....its personal choice........every woman is pretty unique in what they like and dont like just like guys are......you cant force him to give you oral but you can ask him why he doesnt like it and work from there..you totally lost me on your last sentence ........deb It's me giving him oral. I didn't ask him to go down on me. The last sentence the word was LESS not last sorry..it's the autocorrect
yessy21 Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 do it in the shower. maybe he is just self concious. you never know. invite him for a shower and ask him if he could find it somewhere in his heart to let your tongue play with his penis... be gentle... if he likes you he wont refuse.
Art_Critic Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 Maybe his Mom was Lorena All you can do is respect his sexual preference... Maybe his ex drug her teeth and made him raw or something.. either way if he doesn't want you to do it then you have to respect it and trying to talk him into it wouldn't be all that cool...
Author Immissme Posted October 8, 2012 Author Posted October 8, 2012 It could be that this guy is just very conservative sexually? We had sex on the third date and he thought it was too soon. We went out for two more dates without having sex cause he was avoiding it even he wanted it so bad. Then the next time we hung out we had sex twice. He said he only had sex with three girls all his ex gfs, he had 5 ex gfs, two he didn't have sex with. He's the type of guy who doesn't sleep around. I like and enjoy sex. I'm a giver more than a receiver in bed. I also like to take in charge in bed. I like to tease and seduce then pleasure the guy and in response they pleasure me too. Depends on my mood I can be playful, rough or sweet with lots of passion. I'm open to try new things and I love to see the guy having fun and enjoying it too. With this guy, I'm scared to initiate cause I have no clue what his reactions would be. It maybe something out of his comfort zone and may turn him off. Like getting blow jobs is something he doesn't like. But he said he likes me to initiate cause hes a shy type of guy.
FitChick Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 Try doing it when he is sleeping and see what happens when he wakes up in the middle of it. He might change his mind. 2
rocketman122 Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 I can relate to this. from the various relationships and one marriage I had, I never really enjoyed getting a bj from my partner. for me I feel like its degrading to my partner. that specific image of a man standing over a woman, dominating and ejaculating over her is something that bothers me. also I never seem to enjoy it for a prolonged period of time. 2 minutes is good for me. my current GF has some bj skills I have yet to experience. man can she sukk a cokk! it isnt about the suction power, or the speed or how aggressive you are. you have to love it to do it well. its the same with me going downtown and licking up every drop, front and back. you just have to love it. not many really love it. many feel they need to do it because theyre partner did it to them. but I enjoy it much more when giving then getting. my GF is the same. maybe try having him show you how he likes to JO and then add a little licking here and there till he wants to go further?
Author Immissme Posted October 8, 2012 Author Posted October 8, 2012 I can relate to this. from the various relationships and one marriage I had, I never really enjoyed getting a bj from my partner. for me I feel like its degrading to my partner. that specific image of a man standing over a woman, dominating and ejaculating over her is something that bothers me. also I never seem to enjoy it for a prolonged period of time. 2 minutes is good for me. my current GF has some bj skills I have yet to experience. man can she sukk a cokk! it isnt about the suction power, or the speed or how aggressive you are. you have to love it to do it well. its the same with me going downtown and licking up every drop, front and back. you just have to love it. not many really love it. many feel they need to do it because theyre partner did it to them. but I enjoy it much more when giving then getting. my GF is the same. maybe try having him show you how he likes to JO and then add a little licking here and there till he wants to go further? I love giving it and I know I'm good at it maybe because I enjoy doing it . I tried doing it to him. I stroke his penis and it became really hard but he stopped me when I said I wanted to give him a bj. We ended having sex instead.
lastresort Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 I like a bj every now and then. By I am not into them. I prefer penetration more than a bj. My gf does an amazing job on it and I love going down on her. Just surprise him sometime maybe while he's diving and see what he thinks.
oaks Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 Try doing it when he is sleeping and see what happens when he wakes up in the middle of it. He might change his mind. This is always a great way to start the day.
kaylan Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 (edited) If a girl wouldn't perform oral on me, or let me on her, I wouldn't even entertain a relationship and it would be no point in even trying to pursue sex-buddy status. There are a lot of people that feel this way too. It's not normal, not horrible abnormal, but not NORMAL. Edit.. either way, not both, is a no-go. kick rocks biiiiatch. This. Personally Id just bail OP. You guys dont seem sexually compatible, and in a relationship I know Id like to be with someone who enjoys oral and isnt simply doing it to appease me.But some guys have to be really into a girl in order to have the desire to do it; and the same with us girls. I will not give a guy a b/j unless we are in a long term relationship. And would not expect him to go down on me until we are serious unless he was obsessive about it! Fooling around with the hands is all I do with guys I am not serious with. It feels wrong to give them blow jobs unless I am into them, so I do not expect them to do it to me. Dating is totally different; men like my partner and the above poster (and there are MANY like this out there) save oral for girls they are into, but would fool around and maybe have sex with girls that are just moderately attractive and who they are not into. Actually, a lot of people say they save it for a special person, when in reality they simply compromise for the special person and do it because they feel they should. Not necessarily because they love oral sex. For me I love giving oral, and enjoy receiving it too. But I def find it super hot to go down on a girl, and smell her, and taste her, and satisfy her. People with an aversion to oral, in my experience, dont have this same will to please. Edited October 8, 2012 by kaylan 1
suladas Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 I think you need to ask him why. My ex never let anyone go down on her, me included because she didn't feel comfortable with her body enough, but she wanted to try it eventually. So maybe it's the same type of thing and you need to just take your time and wait and let them know you want to? It even took her a month to be comfortable enough to go down on me.
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