a.b Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 Okay so I posted a thread the other day about my situation, basically she cheated on me by kissing this guy when she was drunk (at university) ran away crying as apparently she felt guilty. She then went back the next day to try and clear the air with him which resulted in him kissing her and she did not stop it. I did not know about this and she broke up with me a week later when I went up there to visit her. She said she could not handle a long distance relationship and that it was tearing her apart. I was devastated but eventually accepted it because I wanted the best for her. Well a few days later she admitted to the kisses and I called her up and I was mad obviously (although I kept my composure) and we talked it out. She did a lot of crying and seemed like she was genuinely disgusted with her self, although it is no excuse for what she did to me. I'm just numb at the moment which is probably why I am coming off quite calm at the moment. Now at the end of the day she is 19 just started uni, stressed and has a whole new environment to contend with. She is easily manipulated and follows trends and what her friends do. So should I grant her request and stay friends? And even forgive her? I couldn't possibly talk to her for a few months and she deserves to feel guilty but I can't stand letting her feel this way for too long. :s I do want to attempt to stay friends as I really miss her, but the only thing I am worried about is, does she just want to achieve staying friends to relieve her own guilt? Any help appreciated thanks.
TaraMaiden Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 Anyone about? Yes. So should I grant her request and stay friends? No. And even forgive her? If you believe you should, and that it's appropriate..... I do want to attempt to stay friends as I really miss her, but the only thing I am worried about is, does she just want to achieve staying friends to relieve her own guilt? 9 times out of 10, yes. it's to make themselves feel better about what they did. Read the Caliguy NC Guide in my signature..... Any help appreciated thanks. No problems. Is that it, or are you going to bring up some protests? I'll hang around in that case.....
Author a.b Posted October 7, 2012 Author Posted October 7, 2012 Yes. No. If you believe you should, and that it's appropriate..... 9 times out of 10, yes. it's to make themselves feel better about what they did. Read the Caliguy NC Guide in my signature..... No problems. Is that it, or are you going to bring up some protests? I'll hang around in that case..... Thanks for your reply! No protests, but I think our friendship is worth fighting for. I may be mad and sad right now but i'll give it a few months and I think i'll be able to tell whether a friendship is savable pretty soon when I contact her. I guess we'll see. Although I will give that a read.
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