TaraMaiden Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 well i know most of you hate me No we don't. and think im not listening to ur advice. No - we KNOW you're not listening. She is still calling me today, i havent picked up, and i did nothing else after that "polemic" text i sent her, i dont know you guys think she is just messing with me? yes, she is... the fact that you feel screwed up and confused is evidence of this. should i talk to her and see whats going on? No - but of course, you won't 'get' that advice either, so I'll repeat it: NO. please understand that i wont do everything you guys tell me Why not? but ur opinions help me to decide what to do No they don't because you always DO THE OPPOSITE!! and understand things better. If you have read the No Contact Guide FULLY - and heard the phrase Go complete NO CONTACT - what's not to understand - ?? Im a human being and i make mistakes "He is not a fool who makes mistakes; he IS a fool who does not learn from them". the only "wrong" thing i did so far was sending that text . . . dont get angry at me. Yeah, but you didn't send the right text, and you kept responding to her... dragged around the floor like a fish on a hook.... This is already too much confusing to me ill be happy if u internet people show me the right way to walk in this situation. 1: Read the No Contact Guide. 2: Stick 100% to it, 100% of the time. Simple. Sorted.
Million.to.1 Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 well i know most of you hate me and think im not listening to ur advice. She is still calling me today, i havent picked up, and i did nothing else after that "polemic" text i sent her, i dont know you guys think she is just messing with me? should i talk to her and see whats going on? please understand that i wont do everything you guys tell me but ur opinions help me to decide what to do and understand things better. Im a human being and i make mistakes, the only "wrong" thing i did so far was sending that text . . . dont get angry at me. This is already too much confusing to me ill be happy if u internet people show me the right way to walk in this situation. We have already tried helping you, but you don't listen. Fact is, we actually don't care whether she is messing with you or not. Go back and read this thread over and over and over again until you FULLY understand what everyone in their own way is trying to tell you. If you actually, really truly, want this "drama" to end, it's up to you. We've given you all the advice we can.
stillafool Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 should i text her and say that i really dont want to talk right now? Yes text her and tell her how you feel.
Author Coyoteloco Posted October 8, 2012 Author Posted October 8, 2012 "Yeah, but you didn't send the right text, and you kept responding to her... dragged around the floor like a fish on a hook...." ok maybe ur confused here, I DIDNT KEPT RESPONDING HER!!!! i just sent her that text which it seems it wasnt 100% the right one, but i messed up a little. So thats all the contact i gave her, 1 text. I read the no contact guide million posted in this thread, so i should just ignore all of her attempts to contact me, and wait for what? till she comes crawling to my house? is that the right time to talk to her? its been 1 month of full no contact, no facebook, no shi.t!!!! tara ill ask you in a kind way to talk to me with a lil more respect, and stop saying that im doing the oposite of what u guys tell me, all i did was sending 1 motherf.ucking text!!! only 1!! which u guys suggested i should send and YES i messed up the text so i stopped all right there!
stillafool Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 I'm sorry I didn't read your thread before I posted "yes". I didn't know you were drinking. Sober up.
Author Coyoteloco Posted October 8, 2012 Author Posted October 8, 2012 Yes text her and tell her how you feel. OK! im doing that right now here is what i sent her : "i love you so much, everytime i see a condom i remember you and start crying, please come to my house and give me a bj..." WTF!!! come on !!!!! i dont know who is messing more with my head, my ex or the people in this forum -.-
Author Coyoteloco Posted October 8, 2012 Author Posted October 8, 2012 I'm sorry I didn't read your thread before I posted "yes". I didn't know you were drinking. Sober up. lolololol im sober right now, stop being a prick! pd: no i didnt sent the text in the previous messsage so please dont freak ouT!!
TaraMaiden Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 Stop drinking, stop posting, stop texting. Come back tomorrow, re-read this thread and see how much of an idiot you sound. No Contact means that the next time you contact her, it will be because you really have no feelings one way or the other, about seeing her in someone else's arms. until that point - you go complete, total, 100% no-exceptions, No Contact. I really don't know how to make that any clearer to you. She doesn't want you any more, and she's messing with your head. That alone would tempt me to move away a continent's distance.
Simon Phoenix Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 well i know most of you hate me and think im not listening to ur advice. She is still calling me today, i havent picked up, and i did nothing else after that "polemic" text i sent her, i dont know you guys think she is just messing with me? should i talk to her and see whats going on? please understand that i wont do everything you guys tell me but ur opinions help me to decide what to do and understand things better. Im a human being and i make mistakes, the only "wrong" thing i did so far was sending that text . . . dont get angry at me. This is already too much confusing to me ill be happy if u internet people show me the right way to walk in this situation. The correct answer was already given. You just didn't do it for some unknown reason. Why don't you just send her a txt saying... "look, I don't hate you and i'm not angry, but you have to leave me alone. Contact with you makes it hard for me to move on properly and sets me back. I don't want to block you, but if you keep on calling and txting, i will have to. Please understand that i need time and do not contact me." If she replies, DON'T REPLY. That to me is better than ignoring as ignoring only perpetuates the problem. I agree that people use No contact as a game. It's not a game and shouldn't be used as one. Just explain why you need it calmly and without blame. Text her the bolded in its entirety. Do not leave anything off and do not try to add anything. Just copy that and stop doing stupid things. 2
Calico Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 WTF!!! come on !!!!! i dont know who is messing more with my head, my ex or the people in this forum -.- The alcohol is.
Author Coyoteloco Posted October 8, 2012 Author Posted October 8, 2012 ok tara chill out, i dont give a fuuu if i look like an idiot. I just read ur no contact guide all over again. Guess that ill wait for that 180 degrees text ("I'm really sorry for what I did. I don't know why I didi it, but all I know, is that it was the most stupid thing I've ever done. I want to try again, and will do whatever it takes to make it up to you, prove I'm deadly serious, and regain your trust. Please, can you find it in your heart to try again?") and consider everything else a breadcrumbs, maybe i messed up with that text i sent her, it was a mistake and i didnt put the full thing but well i did that and now i cant change it so i just acept it and go on from here.
Author Coyoteloco Posted October 8, 2012 Author Posted October 8, 2012 She just sent me this "does your silence means you dont want to talk? i ask you to please tell me. . ."
Million.to.1 Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 I will, once again, refer you to my earlier post. I have bolded the MOST IMPORTANT PART that you need to write. "look, I don't hate you and i'm not angry, but you have to leave me alone. Contact with you makes it hard for me to move on properly and sets me back. I don't want to block you, but if you keep on calling and txting, i will have to. Please understand that i need time and DO NOT contact me." If she replies, DON'T REPLY. Basically, You need NO CONTACT. Forget the link i put up and read the Caliguys link in Taramaidens signature. The reason why i suggest txting her and TELLING HER to stop contacting you is because she keeps hassling you. (breadcrumbs) and you keep the drama going by not responding. (you clearly like it as geegirl explained) Please, please PLEASE read the no contact guide to understand breadcrumbs etc, HERE. Send her the txt CLEARLY EXPLAINING that you will not be answering ANY more of her txts and calls, and if she keeps trying you will have to block her. Then, Delete her off your Facebook. Delete her number from your phone. Delete her email and any contact details or from any social media platforms. If she tries to contact you IGNORE HER and stay in NC!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! END the Drama! 1
TaraMaiden Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 Really??? SERIOUSLY - ?!? You amaze me. Yipee!!!!! OK. Go the complete 180, never contact her again, and if she contacts you - it must be with that message - or similar wording. Anything else TOTALLY, COMPLETELY ignore, delete, block. Delete her number, block her completely, IF YOU CAN. If not, then the next time she texts you, send her the text Million.to.1 gave you. When she breaks that - and she will! - send her the very first one I suggested. "Your message could not be delivered because this number has been blocked."
Author Coyoteloco Posted October 8, 2012 Author Posted October 8, 2012 should i just grow some balls and send the text million suggested?
TaraMaiden Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 Ok, we're basically telling you the same thing. Ignore, stay No Contact. Only send those texts if she contacts you again.
Simon Phoenix Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 should i just grow some balls and send the text million suggested? Only if you send it exactly as it is written. Which you probably won't. 2
geegirl Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 You insist on not sending the text that Million wrote/Simon bolded because you want to keep her coming back for more. That in turn makes you believe that she may just change her mind. This is why you resist sending that text that shuts the door completely. This is your thread from 9/24: "Summary: 6 year relationship, she ended it 2 months ago, there was another dude involved, dont know if they actually see each other. First love. So my ex is in a family holiday right now, and last time i spoke with her was 3 weeks ago, i asked her to try again after some breadcrump ****, she flushed it to the toilet, and i told her to not ever contact me again, or nothing cause that hurts me. So i unfriended her from facebook, and yesterday i get an email from her to my facebook and gmail account it says something like this: "how are you doing? im in my family holiday, i started thinking of you, so i entered this store to email you. You must of know all the things that are going through my mind, and all the things that happened in this 2 months. You dont have to answear if you dont want, ill understand it" Wtf is she doing? is she wanting me to start thinking about her again and to keep me around as a backup plan? ofcourse i didnt answear, i wont fall for that stupid trick of "answear if you want". Im pissed cause i told her not to contact me cause i wanted to move on, is she playing with my emotions again? if so, why is she being such a b.itch? cant she just leave me alone?" You do know she will contact in a few more days and then what will you do? Same BS different day. Will you ignore and keep getting an ego boost, twist yourself into a pretzel and ask the same question on LS or send a text shutting the door once and for all? You're the only one that can change this. It's a choice. 1
Million.to.1 Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 Ok, we're basically telling you the same thing. Ignore, stay No Contact. Only send those texts if she contacts you again. we're actually not. You are telling him to ignore her, and i am telling him to send a txt TELLING her to stop contacting him. Personally, i think that ignoring her attempts at communication are perpetuating this drama, and the simplest way to actually end it is ti make it crystal f#@king clear that there will be no more contact and it's not because he is trying to punish her. The end. 1
Author Coyoteloco Posted October 8, 2012 Author Posted October 8, 2012 geegirl your the best you do get me!!! ok im going to send that text million is telling me, ill think it for 15 min and then send it. Ill tell you when i send it. BRB
geegirl Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 geegirl your the best you do get me!!! ok im going to send that text million is telling me, ill think it for 15 min and then send it. Ill tell you when i send it. BRB I hope you stay strong. Since August you have been posting and nothing has changed. If what you have been doing hasn't been working, why not do something else? Listen to what we're telling you. We're looking from the outside, with clarity but you're clouded. It's time to take charge of your life and stop being a hostage to your ex. You've spent 4 months in turmoil trying to figure her actions. The thing is, you will never figure it out. What you can control is your actions. Stop letting her treat you like a puppet. If anything send that text when you are sober. You can't trust yourself when you're under the influence, especially if she responds. I'm not sure how you will react.
suladas Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 we're actually not. You are telling him to ignore her, and i am telling him to send a txt TELLING her to stop contacting him. Personally, i think that ignoring her attempts at communication are perpetuating this drama, and the simplest way to actually end it is ti make it crystal f#@king clear that there will be no more contact and it's not because he is trying to punish her. The end. Yes do this. Tell her and end it. Not just for your benefit, but also for hers. NC without a message saying so is garbage and childish as far as i'm concerned.
Author Coyoteloco Posted October 8, 2012 Author Posted October 8, 2012 i already told her before to no contact me ever again because she gives me the wrong idea, she broke that no contact with the email she sent me. AND IM NOT DRUNK ANYMORE!! AND I WASNT DRUNK WHEN I WROTE THE FIRST POSTS I WAS JUST ON THE HUNG OVER!!! LOL
geegirl Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 i already told her before to no contact me ever again because she gives me the wrong idea, she broke that no contact with the email she sent me. AND IM NOT DRUNK ANYMORE!! AND I WASNT DRUNK WHEN I WROTE THE FIRST POSTS I WAS JUST ON THE HUNG OVER!!! LOL So, have you sent the "MILLION TEXT" or still thinking about it?
Author Coyoteloco Posted October 8, 2012 Author Posted October 8, 2012 just for me not to mess up. My main language is not english so i have to translate the message. Is this ok??? "Name i dont hate you and im not angry with you, but you sending me text messegaes and calling me is not letting me go on with my life, i ask you to please stop doing so" is this ok?
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