Coyoteloco Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 (edited) my ex is calling me and sending me texts messages without stop right now. I dont know what to do, shes begging me to reply her texts and keeps calling. i didnt answear any call, i accidentaly answeread one because i was using my phone and she called and i clicked on the phone and it answeared automatically i hunged up really quick because i dont really want to talk to her right now. So she sends this text right after that and says "i want to respect you and dont do nothing bad to you" how do i handle this? i really dont want to talk to her today should i text her and say that i really dont want to talk right now? Edited October 7, 2012 by Coyoteloco
TaraMaiden Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 No. You delete her number and block it off completely. here's the next text you send her - and make it the very last one ever, EVER!! "Your Text message could not be delivered because the recipient has blocked this number." send it. SEND IT. SEND THE DAMN THING THEN BLOCK HER!! Block her on email, change your address (i know plenty of people who have done this, it's not difficult!) and if necessary, change your phone/provider/number!!
moveONorStay Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 No. You delete her number and block it off completely. here's the next text you send her - and make it the very last one ever, EVER!! "Your Text message could not be delivered because the recipient has blocked this number." send it. SEND IT. SEND THE DAMN THING THEN BLOCK HER!! Block her on email, change your address (i know plenty of people who have done this, it's not difficult!) and if necessary, change your phone/provider/number!! This seems really really extreme! The contact will die down if you don't respond. How long were you dating? How long have you been broken up for? 1
TaraMaiden Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 It IS extreme - but his ex- is acting extreme-ly! Drastic actions call for drastic measures! If someone is messing with your head - you have to get them out of it, as quickly as you can, pronto!! 1
Author Coyoteloco Posted October 7, 2012 Author Posted October 7, 2012 well we dated for around of 6 years and around of 2 months of break up. And yes she is messing with my mind or atleast did so in the past. Thats why i dont answear anymore. And im not really in the mood to talk to her today. but sorry i wont send that message lol
TaraMaiden Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 Why not? In which case you're simply leaving yourself open for more mental screwing, mind-phukks and anxiety. You either want to get over her - or you don't. if you don't - you might as well answer her now, because if not now, why not now?
moveONorStay Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 That's what I'm getting at...I think ignoring someone is prolonging the game...and that's all NC really is, a game.
TaraMaiden Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 I hate to say it, but you're not one to talk, because you're resisting No Contact no matter what anyone tries to tell you. People really should listen to experienced, seasoned posters. we've been there, done that, been through it 100 times before, both for ourselves and with countless others. No Contact works, if it's implemented for the reasons it was conceived. It cuts you off from pain, confusion, questions and endless dilemmas, gives you closure and lets you move on with your life. No Contact - thought of, or implemented with any other motive - DOESN'T work - because that's not what it's for....
Author Coyoteloco Posted October 7, 2012 Author Posted October 7, 2012 well the thing is dont really know what i want right now. I went out with my friends yesterday and i got a bit drunk and now im not in very good state to make decisions. I dont know if i want to talk to her. Also my life is doing pretty good right now to mess it up again.
TaraMaiden Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 Oh god, are you still drunk...? turn your 'phone off. An awful lot of people make huge mistakes and break No Contact when they've had a drink over the eight... Whatever you do, don't respond or do anything rash, while you're not "in a very good state"....
Author Coyoteloco Posted October 7, 2012 Author Posted October 7, 2012 im not drunk, but lets say the effects didnt wear off completly yet. And my head is hurting a bit. The thing is i dont want to risk my self to get hurt again by answearing her texts or her calls, because maybe im getting it all wrong, and also i dont know if this is what i want, if she is what i want.
TaraMaiden Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 The key is: What is she saying? You have to give your head time to clear and be in charge of all your faculties. leave it be, let her quieten down... but it depends what her texts are all saying.... because breadcrumbs also come in jumbo-sized loaf doses.....
Million.to.1 Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 Why don't you just send her a txt saying... "look, I don't hate you and i'm not angry, but you have to leave me alone. Contact with you makes it hard for me to move on properly and sets me back. I don't want to block you, but if you keep on calling and txting, i will have to. Please understand that i need time and do not contact me." If she replies, DON'T REPLY. That to me is better than ignoring as ignoring only perpetuates the problem. I agree that people use No contact as a game. It's not a game and shouldn't be used as one. Just explain why you need it calmly and without blame. 2
Author Coyoteloco Posted October 7, 2012 Author Posted October 7, 2012 Well she says "you hung up, you dont want to talk? please tell me so i dont keep trying. I want to respect you and dont hurt you, really" She also sent me this long text todays morning (when i was drunk) but i obviously couldnt understand **** of what was written lol. I read it again now and it says "sorry for the hour, i just felt i had to write you blablabla ..." she called a few times before that text and after too. Then she begged me to answear her text, and continued calling. Now i answear that sorry for not picking up, and that i dont know what she wants me to answear. She is sending more texts now. It says if she can call me to my house, and now sends another saying, if you dont want i understand.
Author Coyoteloco Posted October 7, 2012 Author Posted October 7, 2012 Million: yes i told her everything was fine, and that i dont hate her. Now she want to call me.
TaraMaiden Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 See? Jumbo, family-sized pack of breadcrumbs.... So you are answering her then.....? I'm banging my head against a fekkin' wall here. Why oh why the hell do I even bother.....?! :mad:
Million.to.1 Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 See? Jumbo, family-sized pack of breadcrumbs.... So you are answering her then.....? I'm banging my head against a fekkin' wall here. Why oh why the hell do I even bother.....?! :mad: Totally! Some people only want the answer that they want to hear. Here.... Oh, she totally loves you and wants you back. You should answer her calls and let her come around to visit you. She is going to say how wrong she was for leaving and want to get back. You will kiss and hug and make sweet sweet love. Then you will get married and live happily ever after without a care in the world and never ever fight and win the lottery. 1
Million.to.1 Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 lol i just answeared 1 text. Stop posting here then. Stop asking for advice you are not going to take. Stop wasting peoples time.
TaraMaiden Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 lol i just answeared 1 text. do what you bloody well like and stop wasting our time. If you had no intention of going No Contact, and answering her texts all along, and not bothering to listen to advice - what the hell did you post for anyway? You think we find you funny?
Author Coyoteloco Posted October 7, 2012 Author Posted October 7, 2012 (edited) well i dont want to reply to the texts and im not really picking up her calls. I just sent her one text saying everything was fine that im not angry and that sorry for not wanting to talk to her. I had all the intention to go no contact, and i did. I follow ur advice and to told her that i dont want to talk to her and that im not angry or mad :S i dont know why u got so angry with me. I ask for advice because i dont want to get heartbroken again. Edited October 7, 2012 by Coyoteloco 1
Author Coyoteloco Posted October 7, 2012 Author Posted October 7, 2012 were i went wrong in all of this?
Million.to.1 Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 I highly suggest that you stop posting here. Clearly you just want to perpetuate this drama as you have not told her to stop contacting you. You are just leaving the door open for more contact! WAKE UP!!! if you truly don't want contact then TELL HER THAT!!!!! Quiet Frankly, I am sick of people who post here over and over with the same crap and never listen to advice!
TaraMaiden Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 If people give you advice - try following it. There's nothing worse than spending time effort and trouble trying to help someone, only to have them turn round and say 'hah! you tole me what NOT to do, but I ignored ya and did it anyway! lol.' lol. bloody lol. She won't leave you alone you know. She will keep banging away at it, until you cave and lick every single breadcrumb off the soles of her boots. Okay? You heard it here first.
TaraMaiden Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 were i went wrong in all of this? You dragged us along in your drama and did everything we told you not to do. Well suck it up bruv. Pain had passed, and now you've just stirred the damn pot again.
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