LaArtist Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 My girlfriend dumped me about two months ago. She said, "I really want to be friends though." I just agreed. A couple days after she broke up with me I called her asking her to not do this. After she refused I just went strict no contact. A month later she texts me "How was school?", because it was the first day back. I got excited and tried to give her a flower the next day, but she just got pissed. The day after that, I just wanted a clear explanation of why she broke up with me because she never really told me. So we talked. Her answer was essentially, "You're into me more then I'm into you. I like the freedom of flirting with other guys. I only dated you cause I was sad and lonely, that's not fair to you. I didn't expect to date you past summer." After that, I just told her fine, lets just be really good friends, since that's what you wanted. I texted her maybe like twice after that. Since then it has been again a whole month of no contact. I dug a little deeper and found out that the another reason was because she thought I was too clingy. I texted her almost everyday, it wasn't for more then a hour? We rarely even went out together because she was always working. Maybe I am too clingy, considering it has been two months and I'm still hooked on her. Anyways I'm having trouble moving on. I'm trying to keep my self occupied with school and just working out. I've deleted her from facebook and my phone contacts. There is a part of me that wants her back and a part of me telling to just move on. If I ever see her on campus, I get depressed, mad, and experience a gut wrenching pain. Is there any chance she will want to get back together? It has been two months. How do I effectively move on if this is the better choice?
curiouslyhuman Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 There is no simple answer wehn it comes to our feelings for another and how we want them to feel about us. From what ive read it seems obvious that she's just not that into you, if she does change her mind and want to rekindle something, let it be YOUR choice, not hers. She seemed to have used you as a scapegoat to loneliness during the summer... that is cruel and unkind and means she has no consideration what so ever for how you might feel in your relationship. Might not be something you want to latch yourself onto imo. When you see her on campus and pass her by, the smile and nod should be all she gets because in reality, thats all she deserves. Show yourself, not her, that she means as much to you as you do to her. Love yourself, be proud and take things at face value. You will be better off because of it.
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