chrisusarmy2005 Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 Hello everyone,haven't been on here in awhile but having a really rough time. I've been enjoying the single life,hanging out and going out and having fun. So with my ex she started dating this guy and he turned her down and I was concerned on the outside but on the inside I was kind of happy. I can't do NC because we live with eachother but we are great roommates, which is cool. She does her thing, I do my thing, we co exist with each other and help each other out a lot. Im independant and everything now. Doing much better but some days are horrible. She is now dating a 45 yr old. I don't understand it and for some reason it just really bothers me. It makes no sense,this guy is old enough to be her dad. I mean she left me for this? Am I caring to much or over reacting or just in like a whold different stage of a breakup. I have accepted it but I still look out for her. Do I care to much? Advice is appreciated but please don't tell me to move out or NC. Not exactly cheap to live here and it works for right now. If anything I need a hug and just to vent to someone how stupid this girl is. No offense ladies. Thanks for reading
Appleness Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 Hi Chris, I briefly remember your post about the break up. I think it was something to do with image issues and you had been together for several years? I think your ex just wants to see what's out there to be honest. It's not uncommon for people in their late 20's or throughout their 30's to experience the slowing of the metabolism. If you don't work out consistently, gaining about 5-8 lbs a year is normal. I was with my ex for about twice as long as you were with yours and he was about 50 lbs heavier than we first started out. Just so you know, 50 lbs is about half of what I weigh and even then I didn't leave him because of that because if you love someone, weight is not an issue. You mentioned that it's pretty expensive to live where you are. Do you think that maybe she just wants a sugar daddy for a while? Someone to maybe help her out financially so that she could move? It's not something that I would do but I know people who have done that. Don't read too much into their breakup. She sounds like she's going through a phase of just using people so if she comes back asking for favors, beware! Good luck
Author chrisusarmy2005 Posted October 7, 2012 Author Posted October 7, 2012 Thanks Apple,yes we were together for 4 yrs and it was image issues. I was horrible when it first happened. Im doing a lot better now but like most people we have our days and this weekend was just not my weekend and I was wicked jealous that shes dating a 45 yr old with 2 kids. She's 24, she used me for the past 4 yrs it almost seems like because I took her for her I never went about looks and it bothered me the most because I filled a "hole" in her heart and shes skinny now so she dosn't need me anymore. Im to good of a person and a catch to be used. I just felt jealous.
Liz2012 Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 Sounds like a bit of a random choice, it may just be some kind of attraction that has brought her to him rather than it's a long-term thing. Maybe think of it that way rather than that it competes to you. I would imagine your jealousy is just you comparing and wondering....
Author chrisusarmy2005 Posted October 7, 2012 Author Posted October 7, 2012 I think thats how it is and it would probably be better if I looked at it that way. She just seems really unsure of what she wants. Im at the age where I know what I want. Im still young but I know what I want. Thanks Im done competing, She dosn't know what she had and she will come crawling back, hopefully but if I wouldve found someone by then I wouldnt think it wise to leave them for her. Stray hope of her coming back would be great. I believe I really truly love her.
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