Author Teknoe Posted June 17, 2013 Author Posted June 17, 2013 I am the topic creator of this thread, created October 2012. I am bumping it because I have a story to share. I forgot to cancel my auto-renew, so I got hooked on for 6 more months. Luckily I called and managed to get half off the fee. I decided recently to initiate the stage 1 communication process. Been waiting for 6 months and only got 1 girl who initiated contact with me. Figure since I'm on for 6 more months I might as well be a little more aggressive. The girl I contacted first has been contacting me back, and I'm currently waiting for her to send me open-ended questions -- we're in stage 3 communication. She seems pretty cool, but I dunno. I guess I'm still a bit skeptical of meeting my true love online. I always envisioned it as more "romantic" and "spur of the moment." I understand OLD is common practice nowadays, but still. Dunno. Still a far way from being a good match with this girl though. I haven't heard her voice, or really yet seen her writing style. It's hard to put a "soul" behind the profile, pictures and multiple choice questions so far. I'm hoping we can at least eek out a date or two out of this, but I'm keeping expectations low and reserved. Who knows, maybe I'll fall in love with her and vice versa. Wouldn't that be something.
Casablanca Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 I have tried it, did the free trial...didn't like it. I like choice. Only one of maybe 10 or so did I consider attractive that I was matched with.
pyramid Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 If you are patient, they will send you discount codes for eharmony. I pay $8/mo. Of course, I have had zero success in the 2 months I have been on. They keep saying my distance settings are too restrictive, but I have no interest in dating someone an hour away. I was on last year for a while and met one really nice guy.
BradJacobs Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 (edited) Their delivery system favors not distributing all of the high percentage matches immediately. I believe they do this in order to create a sense of scarcity for the personalities that are more agreeable and thus more likely to match up quicker by thinking it may be a while before another "match like this comes along". It's a dog and pony show. They include a key word search in their algorithm. If your matches aren't coming through with the right boy types then add more words to indicate body sculpting activities (pilates, yoga, running, the gym, working out, diet) and avoid those that point to a sedentary lifestyle (couch time, tv, books, movies, cooking). I wasted a month on their site. Can't stand not being able to control when and how I want to use their inventory and their canned communication process is dull and boring. Edited June 17, 2013 by BradJacobs
mortensorchid Posted June 17, 2013 Posted June 17, 2013 EHarmony is a waste, truly. It's an expensive way to talk to people is all it is. You are unable to browse the sight to look at photos of others. Their matching system is a joke, they just match you with those within a certain radius of your zip code. I only connected with 2 people. I met one guy in the flesh after 6 months, we exchanged 2 text messages and that was that. Another time I chatted with a guy a few times who lived in another state, then one day never heard from him again. Needless to say, I said never again. 1
shexy Posted June 18, 2013 Posted June 18, 2013 I did eharmony for 3 months, and hated it. They matched me with men I had absolutely positively NOTHING in common with. And when I say nothing, I mean nothing. I'm talking polar opposites in everything. I'm an athiest and got matched with uber religious dudes. I'm a liberal and got matched with uber conservatives. I don't have kids and don't want kids, and kept getting matched with dudes wanting kids. It was such a ridiculous waste of money.
Appleness Posted June 18, 2013 Posted June 18, 2013 I think it's just pure chance. I think I'm up to like 20,000 matches. I've had about 5 decent matches so far and only I've dated.
shexy Posted June 18, 2013 Posted June 18, 2013 Something else to keep in mind about eharmonyripoff - you can create a profile for free, but you have to pay to communicate, so you also get a bunch of matches with people that aren't even members and even if you wanted to, couldn't communicate with them.
Author Teknoe Posted June 22, 2013 Author Posted June 22, 2013 Well, the girl sent me her can't stands and must haves. then i sent mine. then she went MIA on me for 8 days. I finally clicked nudge and then hours later she sent me 3 open ended questions. WTH. did she forget about me, or did she forget the next move was hers? Or was she waiting to see if I was interested enough to click nudge? So weird, lol
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