conehead Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 Sorry, that was a mouthful. But yes, basically, my bf's brother just designated me as the MOH for his bride at his wedding (a year from now). I've only met the bride once. He wants me as MOH because my bf is his best man and he wants the bestman/MOH to be a bf/gf couple. Apparently his bride doesnt mind me being MOH because all her friends are married. I guess I'm not exactly thrilled about this because being in the bridal party takes a lot of time, work, and possibly money. I am not thrilled about having to spend all this time and work and money on a bride I don't even know very well. I'd do this for my sister and close friends, but it's not very fair to make me do this for someone I barely know. Another fact is that I was pissed at my bf a few weeks ago for making an inappropriate joke where he called the bride 'sexy'....I won't go into the details of that story but that incident certainly did not help me in this situation of being MOH. Thing is, I don't know if there is any way out of this as my bf's brother already told me to be ready next year to be busy for his wedding. I may just need to suck it up and go through being MOH, but I am not very thrilled about it. However I don't think I can possibly give the bride 100% of my commitment as my heart just wont be in it....and I am afraid this will affect my relationship with my bf.
TaraMaiden Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 Christ woman - you have a tongue in your mouth - you need to talk this over with your BF, his brother and his bride-to-be... it's a while off... and a wedding is supposed to be a composite of wishes coming true... what does she want? 1
iris219 Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 It's really strange to be asked to be maid of honor for a woman you don't know. I've never heard of such a thing. This position is reserved for a close friend or a close family member. I'd feel very uncomfortable and I wouldn't do it. Being forced to be part of a wedding with people I don't know or care that much about? No thanks. There's no way I'd do something that requires a commitment where my heart wasn't in it. Are you sure the bride is OK with this? It seems she'd want someone close to her share in her joy, and you clearly can't do that. What will you be asked next? To make a speech about how awesome the bride is even though you don't know her? Why does it matter if her friends are married? Is the bride really traditional or something? The position becomes titled matron of honor when a married woman fills the it.
Els Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 I don't get it. Did nobody at all ASK you to be the MOH, as opposed to just assuming that you'd take the role and 'telling you to get busy next year'?
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