trussinme Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 Me and my ex have been on a roller coaster ride since January(that's when we broke up) We'd go a couple weeks without talking, start talking again for a couple days, argue, then stop talking for a couple weeks. Rinse and repeat. She gets on this "i love you now, hate you tomorrow" mess and it's starting to confuse the hell outta me. I can't really grasp what her true feelings are cus they switch around daily. I've tried to remain cool with her cus we were always good friends, but the feelings always take over. She swears that we'll never work & all of her feelings for me are gone, but she always manages to find her way back into my life. Just a couple weeks ago, i emailed her to tell her happy birthday and it went pretty bad Me - Happy birthday Her - thank you Me - how are you? is everything good? Her - Yes. Don't make it a habit to see how i'm doing. I don't mean it in a rude way, but it's quite unnecessary. Now, just a couple days ago, she started following me on twitter. If u dislike me and want nothing to do with me, why do u always find yourself back in my life? What's the deal loveshack?
ReadMyThread Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 Why did you tell her happy birthday? Did she dump you?
NavyAirTraffic Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 I hope I'm wrong but this makes some sense to me. She doesn't have any other male prospects. She leaves, can't find anyone else and comes back. Keep in mind this is a male point if view, I don't know to any level of certainty if my theory is correct. I'd like to hear from some women member on what they think. My theory stems from my belief that women are emotional creatures. Once you split she needs emotional attachment, when she can't find it elsewhere she returns. What do I know..... Good luck
Author trussinme Posted October 7, 2012 Author Posted October 7, 2012 Why did you tell her happy birthday? Did she dump you? I still love her, so it's only natural to wish her a happy birthday And yes, she broke up with me in January. I hope I'm wrong but this makes some sense to me. She doesn't have any other male prospects. She leaves, can't find anyone else and comes back. Keep in mind this is a male point if view, I don't know to any level of certainty if my theory is correct. I'd like to hear from some women member on what they think. My theory stems from my belief that women are emotional creatures. Once you split she needs emotional attachment, when she can't find it elsewhere she returns. What do I know..... Good luck Makes sense At the same time, she know's i'd go to the end of the world to work out our issues and patch things up. Why not just start over with me?
todreaminblue Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 Me and my ex have been on a roller coaster ride since January(that's when we broke up) We'd go a couple weeks without talking, start talking again for a couple days, argue, then stop talking for a couple weeks. Rinse and repeat. She gets on this "i love you now, hate you tomorrow" mess and it's starting to confuse the hell outta me. I can't really grasp what her true feelings are cus they switch around daily. I've tried to remain cool with her cus we were always good friends, but the feelings always take over. She swears that we'll never work & all of her feelings for me are gone, but she always manages to find her way back into my life. Just a couple weeks ago, i emailed her to tell her happy birthday and it went pretty bad Me - Happy birthday Her - thank you Me - how are you? is everything good? Her - Yes. Don't make it a habit to see how i'm doing. I don't mean it in a rude way, but it's quite unnecessary. Now, just a couple days ago, she started following me on twitter. If u dislike me and want nothing to do with me, why do u always find yourself back in my life? What's the deal loveshack? Mental illness is a very hard thing to deal with in a relationship......the person who is mentally ill puts a huge strain on emotions that are normally held in check....i have a mental illness and i know that i am hard to deal with it stops me actually from starting a relationship because no matter how well i am or how sick i am aware of the pressure i can put on a relationship..i dont blame the other person....but some mental illnesses dont allow people to have any level of self awareness..the only way it would work for you is if you seek counseling together and research her illness all this takes effort and some people arent willing to go that extra step......you have to figure out if you believe the relationship to be worth the effort of dealing with illness......if you dont think you can handle it.....leave....you are doing the kindest thing by both........don't prolong a relationship where you are drowning ...but if you believe that sticking by her and trying to work i tout is what you ultimately want and need to do....i wish you the best and hope for your future.....deb
Divasu Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 Me and my ex have been on a roller coaster ride since January(that's when we broke up) We'd go a couple weeks without talking, start talking again for a couple days, argue, then stop talking for a couple weeks. Rinse and repeat. She gets on this "i love you now, hate you tomorrow" mess and it's starting to confuse the hell outta me. I can't really grasp what her true feelings are cus they switch around daily. I've tried to remain cool with her cus we were always good friends, but the feelings always take over. She swears that we'll never work & all of her feelings for me are gone, but she always manages to find her way back into my life. Just a couple weeks ago, i emailed her to tell her happy birthday and it went pretty bad Me - Happy birthday Her - thank you Me - how are you? is everything good? Her - Yes. Don't make it a habit to see how i'm doing. I don't mean it in a rude way, but it's quite unnecessary. Now, just a couple days ago, she started following me on twitter. If u dislike me and want nothing to do with me, why do u always find yourself back in my life? What's the deal loveshack? Twitter isn't exactly being in someone's life. :/ Break-ups aren't typically clean cut. Emotions are raw and bounce back and forth before they level out. Why not just start over with me? Million dollar question, no one here can answer with certainty. A few scenarious that come to mind, is that she is no longer in love with you, or maybe you did something that hurt her and now when she hears from you, she's reminded of it and that's why she said "Don't make it a habit to see how i'm doing. I don't mean it in a rude way, but it's quite unnecessary." Lot's of what if's. Again, hard to say don't know the back story. If she has shut down, it would take a miracle to turn it around. Why waste the energy?
Author trussinme Posted October 7, 2012 Author Posted October 7, 2012 (edited) Twitter isn't exactly being in someone's life. :/ I didn't mean it like that, lol. As time would go by, the arguments would get more disrespectful on her side. She'd make it clear that she no longer loved me, didn't like me as a person, nor wish she ever met me. Seeing her follow me on twitter sort of confused me. We don't have many mutual friends, so im kinda thinking she was lookin' for me. Or maybe im just thinking too much into it. We've been "sort" of chatting for a few days, but she comes off very very condescending. She want's to chat via twitter DM, but she's not comfortable with me texting her or even calling her. Im just really really confused about this. I never met someone that always found their way into someone's life whom they state they dislike so much. Edited October 7, 2012 by trussinme
geegirl Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 1) She's disrespectful 2) She's condescending 3) She's lost her feelings for you 4) She dislikes you Ten months of the above and you continue to allow her to treat you this way. You've literally invested ten months of your life on WHAT WAS your relationship rather than what you should be focusing on which is her bad treatment of you now. She comes back because you are a crutch. She comes back because you are a doormat. No woman will respect a man that she's able to treat this way. It doesn't matter what you had with her before, what matters is what is being presented to you now. Don't sit there and try to decipher her actions. All you need to know is that it is volatile and unhealthy. If you want to invest another 10 months of BS, then keep allowing it. And, she finds her way back because you allow it.
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