JUJUBEE Posted July 27, 2004 Posted July 27, 2004 Quick advice needed Please!! I have been dating a guy for about a month now. WE are taking things slow. No sex yet and only a few kisses. Well we were finally starting to get close and had a great weekend until Sunday when I kind of lost my temper in front of him for a moment. He claims everything is cool and whatever sunday night then when he's leaving gives me a huge hug and says to call him or he'll call me. He usually calls like 2 or three times a day. Monday I don't hear from him at all until I text him and try to figure out if he's freaked out or what. He texts me back the I called and it seemed like we straightened things out and came to an understanding. He said he wasn't mad at me or anything. Well when we hung up he didn't say i'll call you tomorrow like he usually does. So I guess i'm asking should I be prepared that I may not hear from him again or do you think he's just trying to take some time to figure out if this is worth attempting some more? Should I just wait a day or two and then try to invite him to do something if I don't hear fom him by then? I told him last night if he thought he didn't want to talk to me or hang out anymore to just say the words and he didn't respond so I dont' know what to think and i'm upset. Wouldn't he just tell me "yeah, this doesn't seem like a good idea." instead of stringing someone along? AM I READING TOO MUCH INTO IT?
StartingAgain Posted July 27, 2004 Posted July 27, 2004 Here's a novel idea. Throw your text messenger away and relate to him thrrough real human interaction. Just cal him up and tell him that you've noted a change in his behavior the last few days and ask him if there's anything he'd like to talk about. If he doesn't wat to talk to you about it and he continues to be distant, all you can do is say oh well and move on. You certainly don't want to continue in a relationship so new when your partner stonewalls you. You've only been with him a month, so it isn't tlike there's a major emotional investment.
jujubee Posted July 28, 2004 Posted July 28, 2004 Quick update! We talked last night and he admitted he was a little freaked out. He explained why and I understood but he still leaves me very confused because he asked me about where I see this going and if I consider him more than a friend and I know I should just be honest but I can't be because I dont' want to open myself up to get hurt or be vulnerable and I pretty much told him that so he knows how I feel for the most part. I asked him the same thing and all he said was things were cool the way they were. Yet at the same time he's always the one trying to initiate intimacy so I don't know what to do. At this point I feel like backing off for a day or two and calling him this weekend. MEN!!!!!!!!!
Wellnowuknow Posted July 28, 2004 Posted July 28, 2004 WOMEN!! How do you expect to get an honest sincere answer form him if your not giving him honest responses. Your never going to get anywhere playing these little games. Life is short.. You tell him a like him alot and see what he says.. Either he likes you too and you guys are great or if not you move on and stop wasting your time. But your forever going to be frustrated untill you open up.
StartingAgain Posted July 28, 2004 Posted July 28, 2004 I know I should just be honest but I can't be because I dont' want to open myself up to get hurt or be vulnerable Then you shouldn't be in a relationship with anyone. I guess you mean by "he's the one trying to initiate intimacy" that he's trying to get you to have sex with him. Do you want to have sex with him? If so, go for it. If what you said is true, sex should be the only thing you're after right now, since you are obviously not relationship material at this point in your life. WOMEN!!!!
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