jcrew11 Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 Women often say they want ambitious men who are successful or aspire to be successful. I think women just want the successful lifestyle and the Bill Clinton-type leaders. But most men are not the charismatic charming salesmen. There are a lot of rich, successful well-paid engineers and computer nerds, that can't get dates with women. Now, these rich engineers may be ambitious and successful, but they don't have the eloquence, charisma, or speaking ability of non-engineers. I know women want the 'complete package' but that is rare. Are women attracted to ambitious engineer nerds?
stillafool Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 Yes they do. Can't these successful engineers date other female engineers and computer nerds as well? It would seem they would have more in common with them.
yongyong Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 Why engineers can't date a normal cute looking girl? why should they date a nerd like them? Isn't it about the 'personality?' Yes they do. Can't these successful engineers date other female engineers and computer nerds as well? It would seem they would have more in common with them.
Mme. Chaucer Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 Who do you think date and marry more women, engineers, or Bill Clinton? Personally, I know women who dated and even married engineers - Bill Clinton? No. 1
FitChick Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 The engineers I've dated have been very intelligent and amusing as well as successful. 1
jobaba Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 Engineers typically don't make a lot of $. More than average, but it's rarely a grossly huge salary. So, being one would be just... not a deterrent. I'm an engineer.
KathyM Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 Engineers are not nerds, just based on their profession. I know engineers who are cool and attractive with a variety of interests, including sports. Definately not a drawback in my opinion.
jobaba Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 (edited) most engineers don't break 100k, so no. A lot of senior engineers break 100K, but to go much further above that is rare. 100K will not support a whole family with a middle upper class lifestyle, so it's not quite enough to be a draw. Engineers are not nerds, just based on their profession. I know engineers who are cool and attractive with a variety of interests, including sports. Definately not a drawback in my opinion. This is true. It depends what type you do as well. I do Civil, so the workplace is not sterotypically nerdy. To be honest, there's lots of arse kissing, and stereotypically shallow stuff going on in the office. CivE is actually majority white males and has a lot of females too. I know Electrical and Computer Engineers and they do tend to have a typically nerdy male dominated environment. But that doesn't mean that all the guys who work there are typical nerds. Edited October 7, 2012 by jobaba 1
KathyM Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 A lot of senior engineers break 100K, but to go much further above that is rare. 100K will not support a whole family with a middle upper class lifestyle, so it's not quite enough to be a draw. This is true. It depends what type you do as well. I do Civil, so the workplace is not sterotypically nerdy. To be honest, there's lots of arse kissing, and stereotypically shallow stuff going on in the office. CivE is actually majority white males and has a lot of females too. I know Electrical and Computer Engineers and they do tend to have a typically nerdy male dominated environment. But that doesn't mean that all the guys who work there are typical nerds. Seems like all of the engineers I know are pretty cool guys, most are into sports as well, some are very handsome. I can't think of a single engineer I know that could be classified as nerdy, but I suppose computer engineering would have some nerdy types more than anything.
iris219 Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 I've been on dates with three engineers. They were all very different. One was nerdy, one was boring, one was metrosexual. The only thing they had in common was I didn't like any of them.
FitChick Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 One engineer I dated had a PhD from MIT and owned a house in London and one on Cyprus. He spoke five languages and had a subscription to the opera (he took me once). He had traveled all over the world, was a gourmet cook, had a great sense of humor and English wasn't even his first language. I don't remember the type of engineering he did, but I don't think it matters what type. It's the person behind the degree that is important.
verhrzn Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 I work at a tech company, and every single programmer has a gorgeous wife or hot fiancee. Computer nerds might not have been able to get dates in high school/college, but get into a decent job and hit your mid-20's, and watch the dating offers pour in. I'd also like to put in that I don't find engineers particularly "nerdy," at least not in that socially defined way. Most engineers I know are popular, socially normal guys who just wanted a job that paid well. (A lot of them also seem to like frisbee golf. Haven't figured that one out yet....)
Janesays Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 Well, I'm getting ready to marry an engineer, so yes.
GirlontheLam Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 socially awkward engineers (and non-engineers) no. Engineers with social skills? Absolutely. Your job tells me very little about whether or not we'll get along.
Emilia Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 Depends on the engineer, they are not all the same. Civil engineering is subject that interests me. 1
GravityMan Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 "Engineers" is a broad term, and very little can be assumed about a person just because they're one. There are many different kinds of engineers spanning many different industries. Civil, petroleum, mechanical, electrical, software, nuclear and on and on. Salaries can vary widely - from below 40K to over 150K annually. Some types of engineering positions require strong people skills, social acumen and the ability to build a rapport with a wide variety of people. Social skills are less important (but still nice to have) for other types of engineers. This can also vary from company to company, even with the same position. Now men who work in IT (Information Technology) on the other hand...they may have more difficulty attracting women. The general (and naive) assumption is that people in this field are socially awkward, shy wimps who can't hold a conversation like a "normal" person, can't make women laugh, and spend most of the free time in their anime-and-superhero-plastered apartment playing DOTA 2 or Call of Duty. While it's true that the "typical" IT person is more likely to be awkward than say a "typical" lawyer or marketing director...it's still wise not to pass immediate judgment just because of his field. At my job, some of the most outgoing, humorous people there work in IT (and highly skilled at it), and they have great people skills...and they're married to attractive women who aren't engineers or techies...and their interests include things like camping, martial arts, kayaking and traveling around the world. Also, IT's pretty broad too. For nearly all jobs, the job you have...hell the career field you're in...says very little about the kind of person you are. Find and date women who understand that. 1
Mme. Chaucer Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 Yes, once they start drying up and need a man to sire or at the very least pay for their offspring. That's right. For the dried up mom, only an engineer will do. Your knowledge of all things woman is really top drawer! 2
Cb3657 Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 I am a engineering manager, last year I made well over 300K, my bosses are all engineers and do better than me. Engineers can do very well, a large proportion of CEOs are engineers. Every engineer I have working for me with more than 5 years experience make over 100K not including bonuses which can reach well over 15K per year.
musemaj11 Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 What matters most to women is the amount of gold you have in the bank. What your job is or how ambitious you are matters not. If you are wealthy all you need is just a little bit of social skill and you can get any woman you want. I feel sorry for unconfident rich men. They have such a great power yet they fail to take advantage of it.
stillafool Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 Why engineers can't date a normal cute looking girl? why should they date a nerd like them? Isn't it about the 'personality?' Why do you consider nerdy girls not normal or cute? If you think nerdy guys aren't normal as well why would other girls want to date them? As I said before these nerdy guys would have more in common with nerdy girls. As you say isn't it about personality? Well it seems both of their personalities would fit each other.
stillafool Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 (edited) This would be a good solution, if not that a) female engineers and computer nerds are generally attracted to the same guys as other females, which is not engineers Andy what kind of people are those? Are you saying that engineers and computer nerds are not attractive? It's funny but models never ask the question that the OP asked. Edited October 7, 2012 by stillafool
amaysngrace Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 Are women attracted to ambitious engineer nerds? My 22 year old niece is in her fifth year at Drexel. It's a five year program. Her GPA is 3.87 and she is in their engineering program. She just wrote an app and its going through the process of being owned by her. She's isn't even done school yet and she's going to be rich off of her one little idea that costs 1.99. She'll get 40%. Did I mention she's gorgeous? Anyway, yes smart women like smart men. Providing that they don't act stupidly. My daughter just got her first boyfriend. He's in her Honors classes and is a nerd. She's smart enough to know that he's worth her time. We have an expression in my family...Nerds Rule The World. We recognize it, admire it and are each indeed proud to be a nerd.
Immissme Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 I hang out with an engineer who is cool, fun and wealthy. He doesn't want me to pay for our dates. I've paid maybe three times altogether. We've been hanging out for about 5 months. He's an engineer but also in the management side of the company.
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