mortensorchid Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 I used to be friends with this one gal, who is about four years younger than me. She was and still is (as far as I know) alcoholic. There were times that I tried to help her. After a very public rage she had a few years ago, she called everyone the next day to tell others that she was sorry. While others cussed her out, I asked her what she was going to do about it today. SHe went to AA, and that lasted a while. Then she went back to drinking. She told me it was because she was depressed that she was not getting married and having babies. I said there was nothing wrong with being depressed or frustrated about it, but that can't be your one and only focus in life. Sometimes she listened to me, other times she drank herself stupid and lashed out (in person, on the phone, or via email). And another time she was rushed to the ER because she had attempted suicide over it once or twice. Then about 2 years ago she met the man she would eventually marry. Even though we had maintained a pretty good relationship during that time, I wasn't invited to her wedding. Some said it was because the wedding was thrown together rather quickly, but I didn't buy that. Then about a year ago she put a bitchy post on my Facebook wall about my going to Wal-Mart one night, and I decided to unfriend her. I was thinking about her tonight. She now has the husband and 2 babies she always wanted, but I wonder if that "cures" her in any way. Alcoholism is one thing (of which there is no cure), but I can only wonder. If it was/is not everything that she always hoped for, won't she be just as angry or toxic with others? I don't miss her, she is far too unstable with her mood swings. I guess what really blows me away about this is the fact that despite this past, she somehow landed herself a good man. I've met her husband just a few times, he seems like a good guy. Think she may have changed because of him? What do others think about this?
gamman Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 A) Being truly happy, joyous, and free comes from within yourself not from outside yourself -- i.e. being married and having kids. B) Who knows what's really going on behind the scenes of the marriage? It's fun to guess, though. I'm going to go with hubby really being a co-dependant and the whole thing being a toxic mess behind closed doors. C) Who really knows and who really cares? Refer to "A)" Being truly happy, joyous, and free, comes from within yourself.....
Mme. Chaucer Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 I think that it's impossible to tell anything about what transpired in the life of a person who you don't even know anymore, and evidently did not have much of a relationship with ever. Even if you did really know her, of course we couldn't talk about her relationship and other aspects of her life based on a couple of paragraphs of how she appears through your eyes. I will say, in response to your statement: I guess what really blows me away about this is the fact that despite this past, she somehow landed herself a good man. that I had a bad past, complete with drug addiction. I managed to leave that behind me. I have landed a good man, too. So it can happen! 2
Recommended Posts