Ex boyfriend and his friends bullying me making me feel worthless?

[Dancin]

I'm 15 and I've been getting bullied at school over my ex. I cry myself to sleep every night, and my moms so stressed I can't even talk to her about this stuff and same with my dad. They're stressed because I'm getting bullied, and they have to keep going to the office. My ex boyfriend tried to ruin my reputation. He also is dating a girl who has sucked 15 guys penises at 16 (my ex and I are 15). This makes me feel worthless because him and his friends always tell me how much better she is than me, and I must be pretty terrible if a slut is better than me. She also is mean and threatened to beat me up. Everyone keeps torturing me with pictures of them kissing, and I cry and they laugh at me, They made fake text messages that say vulgar things saying I sent them also. Hes also more public about his relationship with her than with me, and that makes me feel like hes ashamed or something. I just feel so worthless and I want to give up. It hurts so much knowing someone who "cared" about me keeps saying he wishes I was dead. They call me ugly, stupid, a wh**e (I've never done anything sexual!!!), and I can't take it anymore. I just Kay in my bed crying, and nothing's fun for me. Please help!! I feel like the only people who care about me are like 3 of my teachers and my parents. I just want to die. Please help!

[Balzac]

Do yourself a favor and ask your patents to get counseling for you. This is about you more than about "him".

[Calico]

Might be easier to stick to one thread instead of creating several new ones about the same situation.

 

I second what Balzac said, and I think you should talk to someone in real life whom you can trust. A parent, family member or perhaps even a teacher whom you feel you can confide in (preferably a female) and who has better means to provide direction and help.

 

Also let go off the whole sexual thing. Some people start their sexual life at an earlier age, like sixteen, others wait until later. It's all fine and depends on the person. Just because someone else started earlier doesn't mean you need to do the same or that you should compare yourself to them (or judge them). And don't make it your business how many dicks another girl allegedly sucked. Who cares? If you go around making comments like that, you'll make yourself a target among your mates.

[hinatticus]

Just remember that kids at that age do stupid things to one another. You aren't doing anything wrong. Bullies are insecure themselves and feel the need to put others down in order to feel better. Stay strong, take the high road and don't listen to anything those bullies say! Bullies are very weak people. Once you leave highschool and go to college you won't have to see your bullies. Just make it through your teenage years. I promise it gets better! I was bullied too. At age 33 I don't think there are many bullies left.

 

And don't think about dieing! If you want the bullying to stop, have zero reaction! Bullies feed off of reactions. Just keep telling yourself that these bullies are just stupid kids. You are better than they are! No one truly likes a bully.

 

Be strong. You have so much life ahead of you and it would be a shame if you let these bullies affect you.

[LostOne1]

reminds me of my high school days.. god they were tough at times and fun at times. I always wanted to get outta high school and into college or uni.

 

But honestly.. ENJOY your young years. Life gets SO tough after high school.

 

You have to pay bills, get a place, deal with much more stress, marriage etc...

 

so ENJOY high school, because at some point in your life 10 years from now. You'll be my age looking back and missing the good old days.

 

Life really goes get SUPER tough when your older and an adult. I never believed it when my dad used to tell me, but then I look back at it now. I wish I had taken his advice, because stuff is tough!

[KatZee]

I honestly think you need to take these text messages, and any physical evidence you get, and take it to a school official. I'm sorry but bullying is NOT ACCEPTABLE and it seems as if your school needs a serious wake up call with this issue.

 

Bullying has become much more talking about in the news with recent suicides of all these kids who feel they have no other outlet besides a gun or a rope. This is disgusting to me.

 

Kids are vicious and cruel and unless someone speaks up then this won't stop. Don't let these people get you down. Do you know why they bully you? Because they feel worthless themselves and they're trying to knock you down to their level. Inside, these people are dead. Some others carry on with the bullying because they're too scared to stand up and say something, so instead of being bullied themselves they'll contribute themselves.

 

I hope you don't believe any of these things either. A whore is NOT better than you. When I was in high school the "whores" were the ones who got bullied. They weren't idealized. They were talked about. Who can walk around at 16 acting proud that they've given head to 15+ guys? She probably has some sexually transmitted disease and if that's what your ex wants... by all means, let her have him.

 

You're ex is an immature, and cowardly human being but at the end of the day, he's a kid. He's still growing up. He has no idea how to think for himself. All he's doing is riding the waves of high school drama.

 

You can't show them that they are getting to you though. You need to keep your head high, you can't cower or cry in front of them. Think of a few witty and snappy come backs for the next time someone says a "whore" is better than you.

 

"A whore is better than me? I'm pretty sure I'm happier without permanent rug burns on my knees."

 

"That whore is better than me? Come back and say that to my face when you're picking crabs out of your pubic hair."

 

I can sit here all day with comebacks for these fools. Go to school, fake the confidence until you really have it, walk like you own the halls, don't let them take you down.

[not-a-drive-by]

I agree with Katzee. If you have any physical evidence, especially those text messages, you need to show your parents and most importantly, your school officials. Bullying is not to be taken lightly. Have you told them about the text messages? Your parents and teachers need to discuss about this at the meetings, and these kids need to be disciplined.

 

Try not to let their comments affect you. When they talk crap, treat it like crap. The more you show them that it affects you, the more they will continue. Especially if you cry in front of them, it shows them how much it hurts you and they feed off this. Hang around other friends and stay away from these people.

 

For your ex to do this to you, he clearly does not care about you as much as you think. This new girl is in no way better than you. If she has to put you down like this, how great is she really? I say, good riddance of your ex!

 

And dear, your parents love you. Talk to them. I am sure that they would love that than seeing you curled up in bed crying, bottling it all up inside. It will break their heart.

 

Stay strong *hugs*.