Lonely Ronin Posted October 7, 2012 Share Posted October 7, 2012 I think you have to define by what you mean by approach. Only once have I had a woman walk up to me and introduce herself. I have had women do what most women considering approaching though. Say hi, or asked me what I was drinking when I went up to the bar. Other times, it's just putting themselves in a position for me to talk to them. What women consider approaching is usually very subtle, and hard to notice. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
jobaba Posted October 7, 2012 Share Posted October 7, 2012 I think you have to define by what you mean by approach. Only once have I had a woman walk up to me and introduce herself. I have had women do what most women considering approaching though. Say hi, or asked me what I was drinking when I went up to the bar. Other times, it's just putting themselves in a position for me to talk to them. What women consider approaching is usually very subtle, and hard to notice. In retrospect, I guess I could say maybe I've had that happen to me too. If a dude like you doesn't get blatantly approached that often, that also makes me feel better. Link to post Share on other sites
Snowman219 Posted October 7, 2012 Share Posted October 7, 2012 Not as much, none of my friends really do but I notice that usually older women hit on me (25 to 40) and I tend to attract A LOT of redheads/gingers. You don't have to brag : P. Link to post Share on other sites
Lonely Ronin Posted October 7, 2012 Share Posted October 7, 2012 If a dude like you doesn't get blatantly approached that often, that also makes me feel better. Something else to consider, is rather it actually matters. Imo it doesn't matter how many times you get 'approached' if you aren't interested in any of them. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Emissary Posted October 7, 2012 Share Posted October 7, 2012 It's hard to say for sure, I know a ton of girls, but it's mostly work related. I'm friendly with a lot of stunning girls, and they like me pretty well, we talk all the time. Most of the time though, it's safe to assume that even though they enjoy my company, they're here for the coffee I serve and not for me. Though, sometimes it becomes evident that some of them are coming to my till for something else. There's this one who has become so obvious that it's become a bit of a joke at work how much she's into me. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted October 7, 2012 Share Posted October 7, 2012 I honestly think the responses here will be very much colored based on how adept the individual man is at picking up 'flirting'. It really is quite a grey area - someone who 'thinks' he has never been flirted with may actually have been, he just didn't know it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
runner Posted October 7, 2012 Share Posted October 7, 2012 I honestly think the responses here will be very much colored based on how adept the individual man is at picking up 'flirting'. It really is quite a grey area - someone who 'thinks' he has never been flirted with may actually have been, he just didn't know it. further evidence by all the threads here on LS titled, "does she like me???", etc. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Revolver Posted October 7, 2012 Share Posted October 7, 2012 The women who most guys want to approach them never really do because they don't half to Link to post Share on other sites
jobaba Posted October 7, 2012 Share Posted October 7, 2012 Something else to consider, is rather it actually matters. Imo it doesn't matter how many times you get 'approached' if you aren't interested in any of them. To me it would. Since it has never DEFINITELY happened, it would be a huge confidence boost. I guess that's difficult for a lot of people to understand. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted October 7, 2012 Share Posted October 7, 2012 Something else to consider, is rather it actually matters. Imo it doesn't matter how many times you get 'approached' if you aren't interested in any of them. Of course it does. Having women, regardless if you are interested in them, shows you that some women think you are desirable. If you never get hit on, guess what that means. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ThaWholigan Posted October 7, 2012 Author Share Posted October 7, 2012 I'm beginning to think there is an art to being approachable. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SmileFace Posted October 7, 2012 Share Posted October 7, 2012 I approach gay guys all the time and tell them they are sexy. Then sometimes they are not and its just wee bit awkward for me. However I have approached guys in round about ways, " do you know what time the train comes"... Or sometimes just to compliment them ... "Your tattoo is really nice". Which is more friendly than anything. There is this artsy/hipster guy in my town with the hottest sleeve I have ever seen and he is beyond gorgeous - I may approach him one day. Link to post Share on other sites
Lonely Ronin Posted October 7, 2012 Share Posted October 7, 2012 Having women, regardless if you are interested in them, shows you that some women think you are desirable. To an extent, but in my opinion having a woman think you are good looking and nothing more is meaningless. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Lonely Ronin Posted October 7, 2012 Share Posted October 7, 2012 I'm beginning to think there is an art to being approachable. I agree, depending on how i conduct my self, I can have a force field or a giant magnet around me. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted October 7, 2012 Share Posted October 7, 2012 To an extent, but in my opinion having a woman think you are good looking and nothing more is meaningless. Maybe it's meaningless to you, but I sure as hell would like to know that women think I'm good looking. Something like that would do wonders for my ego. Link to post Share on other sites
GirlontheLam Posted October 7, 2012 Share Posted October 7, 2012 Women don't flirt with guys though. We do. Some of us do a lot. Link to post Share on other sites
AD1980 Posted October 7, 2012 Share Posted October 7, 2012 I'm beginning to think there is an art to being approachable. There is its called being good looking:laugh: 1 Link to post Share on other sites
AD1980 Posted October 7, 2012 Share Posted October 7, 2012 That's half the battle! Have to come off as approachable, and I think that's easiest done by having a naturally happy/secure disposition Yes if youre good looking as well A girl isnt gonna think to herself well hes not all that good looking but he seems approachable let me flirt with him:laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted October 7, 2012 Share Posted October 7, 2012 For the record, I have never straight forwardly approached anyone. Link to post Share on other sites
Weezy1973 Posted October 7, 2012 Share Posted October 7, 2012 I'm 39 and have been blatantly approached twice in my life; both times at bars. It is way more common for women to flirt first to see if I'm interested. I think most women's attraction towards men is based on more than just looks. The vast majority of women that have flirted with me have been in situations where we have similar interests or share similar values already (university, volunteering etc.) and where we've actually had a couple of conversations. For an average looking guy like myself, I think a woman is going to need to get to know me a bit before being interested enough to flirt or approach. But once they like me, they make it pretty obvious, and then wait to see if I'm interested. If I don't reciprocate, they move on. Pretty efficient if you ask me. Of course if you're a really good looking guy, I imagine you'd get attention from more women in general, but especially from women whose overall attraction is based more or only on physical looks. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ThaWholigan Posted October 7, 2012 Author Share Posted October 7, 2012 There is its called being good looking:laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
oaks Posted October 7, 2012 Share Posted October 7, 2012 How often does it happen for you? Being flirted with, or asked out etc. I never notice it until afterwards (so perhaps it happens slightly more often than I realise and I don't notice at all) but I get approached/flirted with by a stranger in public about once every 6 months. Link to post Share on other sites
MrCastle Posted October 7, 2012 Share Posted October 7, 2012 An approach where a girl on the street comes up to me? Almost never? I can only think of one or two times a woman approached me in a public setting. I've had a few girls honk at me from their cars when I walk down the street but not much else. I think it has more to do with energy and less about looks. Sometimes exceptionally attractive people of both sexes don't get approached because people are scared to approach them. So I wouldn't go around using how often you get approached or not as a gauge for how attractive you are. It basically comes down to having an "approachable" energy. There are some girls no matter how hot they are, there is something that tells me not to try and talk to them. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ThaWholigan Posted October 7, 2012 Author Share Posted October 7, 2012 I never notice it until afterwards (so perhaps it happens slightly more often than I realise and I don't notice at all) but I get approached/flirted with by a stranger in public about once every 6 months. I almost forgot! I remember once a cute looking Eastern European (I think) woman was walking past - she looked quite hard-ass but she was cute. And she kept looking at me when walking past.....and then she suddenly turned around and shouted to me "COME OVER AND SPEAK TO ME". I was floored, I didn't know what to say! She just laughed and walked off. Link to post Share on other sites
oaks Posted October 7, 2012 Share Posted October 7, 2012 Women don't approach men. Those men who say they have been approached by women are just wishing it happened, it didn't actually happen. Hi waynebrady. Great to see you back! Link to post Share on other sites
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