Men: How often do YOU get approached by women?

[ThaWholigan]

A predictable twist on RiverRunning's thread, I wanted to see how many men have actually been approached by women.

 

I'm mid-20s and I have been approached on average a small handful of times every year. I often get asked for my name to reach me on the internet, and a few have asked for my number. It usually doesn't amount to much but it happens.

 

I have had girls flirt with me and I have never clocked, sometimes it had been outrageously obvious comments, some sexual. I have got better at picking this up and it still occasionally happens.

 

How often does it happen for you? Being flirted with, or asked out etc.

[Pyro]

I'm waiting for the usual suspects to chime in with an 'all the time' response.

 

I had my fair share and to prove a ridiculous belief wrong.....ever since I have had a ring on my finger I have not had one woman approach me.

[Balzac]

Surely you are flirted with many more times than a few hundred per annum.

My guess is you aren't attuned to picking up on it.

 

Flirting happens to me a lot. Much fewer are the direct "asking me out".

I think I'm very average.

[jobaba]

A predictable twist on RiverRunning's thread, I wanted to see how many men have actually been approached by women.

 

I'm mid-20s and I have been approached on average a small handful of times every year. I often get asked for my name to reach me on the internet, and a few have asked for my number. It usually doesn't amount to much but it happens.

 

I have had girls flirt with me and I have never clocked, sometimes it had been outrageously obvious comments, some sexual. I have got better at picking this up and it still occasionally happens.

 

How often does it happen for you? Being flirted with, or asked out etc.

 

I think that is why you are so at ease with your situation even though you may never have had relations. And the reason why you have none of the bitterness of some of your peers

 

I'm in my mid 30s. I have been approached zero times, and flirted with no times that I've known of.

 

Sometimes I do think a girl might be giving off signals that she likes me, but I've been wrong all of time.

[ThaWholigan]

I'm waiting for the usual suspects to chime in with an 'all the time' response.

 

I had my fair share and to prove a ridiculous belief wrong.....ever since I have had a ring on my finger I have not had one woman approach me.

I'm waiting for the "never :(" responses.

 

I tend to garner more approaches when I am slimmer/shaved.

[Pyro]

I've been told by friends that as soon as they put the ring on they got hit on a ridiculous amount. like it was just sort of force field against their defense systems! lol.

 

Not accusing your friends of flirting but perhaps that is what they are doing and why they are getting hit on.

 

I don't flirt and just go about my business and things have been very uneventful in that regard.

[jobaba]

I'm waiting for the "never :(" responses.

 

Eh.

 

It is what it is brother.

 

Truthfully, I'd be satisfied being never approached and just having some of the women I approached think I was cute, but...

 

I guess you can't ask for too much in this world!

[Pyro]

I'm waiting for the "never :(" responses.

 

I tend to garner more approaches when I am slimmer/shaved.

 

One post above yours.

[ThaWholigan]

I think that is why you are so at ease with your situation even though you may never have had relations. And the reason why you have none of the bitterness of some of your peers

 

I'm in my mid 30s. I have been approached zero times, and flirted with no times that I've known of.

 

Sometimes I do think a girl might be giving off signals that she likes me, but I've been wrong all of time.

 

I dunno. Sometimes when a girl "might" be giving off signals, she really was digging you but changed her mind. That's happened to me a lot of times.

 

Being approached didn't bring me much ease - I wasn't always attracted to the women that approached me. I had quite a few discouraging experiences too where I was dealt with quite harshly by some girls. I had to find my ease from within.

[jobaba]

I'm waiting for the "never :(" responses.

 

I do believe you will also see a correlation between the 'nevers' and the bitter posters and the 'regularlies' and contented.

[kaylan]

Lets say. For every 15 times I go to the bar or club (or beer garden or some place singles hang out), 1 girl will actively say hello to me. Ive been asked to dance in the past, or just had girls say hey. But I do try tend to go to spots that have even ratios or more women than men on some nights. So its possible even a low 1/15 is because the girls may have to compete more.

 

That all being said, 1 out of 15 is simply for girls who actively approach me first. If we wanna talk about women giving general signals that happens more often. You know, eye locking as they walk past, brushing by me a couple times in the evening etc.

[Balzac]

I'm waiting for the "never :(" responses.

 

I tend to garner more approaches when I am slimmer/shaved.

 

Interesting observation about "recently shaved". Outside of work I'm most frequently not cleanly shaven! Well for dates I shave but honestly it's more an activity driven decision. Afternoon baseball game, buzzer maybe. I still look respectable.

[ThaWholigan]

Surely you are flirted with many more times than a few hundred per annum.

My guess is you aren't attuned to picking up on it.

 

Flirting happens to me a lot. Much fewer are the direct "asking me out".

I think I'm very average.

 

It has been more common that I am flirted with rather than directly asked out. It definitely took me forever to clock when I was being flirted with - even now I struggle to clock

[kaylan]

Also, I did just graduate from college last year...a college with a higher female population than male. And Im in the suburbs, so sometimes I feel my competition isnt fierce up here.

 

Im sure if I went out in NYC more, my luck would drop a bit, though I wouldnt mind the change. I feel Im spoiled where I am and I wanna be more proactive. And when I say spoiled, I dont mean Im some kind of playboy getting loads of attention. I mean that not having to contend with as many high rolling, or good looking, or trendy city guys, makes it so I have a comfort zone and dont approach as much as I think I should.

 

Its made me less bold tbh

[Balzac]

You sir, are making up for lost time!! Some women can be very subtle and will only amp up their efforts after the guy responds in kind.

[Pyro]

Certainly in some of the cases, but a few, and specifically one buddy, I can attest to. He's a man that's 100% committed to his gorgeous highschool sweetheart. I think some women see it as an easy fling they can cut-off with no repercussions. Most MM aren't going to chase that flagrantly. Also i've heard women say that is sexy for a man to be committed, which is odd, and completely opposite, one would think.

 

 

I will add, there is a huge difference between getting hit on and asked out... i'd say asked out one a month.

 

I am glad to have avoided women like that. Had I met them I probably would have become a bitter douche like some individuals.

 

Agreed on the last part.

[threebyfate]

Hey TW and Pyro, what are your signs?

[Pyro]

Hey TW and Pyro, what are your signs?

 

I knew it. You really are a man. Women never do the approaching.

[threebyfate]

I knew it. You really are a man. Women never do the approaching.

Try to approach and flirt with a guy and this is what you get...an insult. No wonder chicks don't approach men.

[Ross MwcFan]

In the whole of my 36 years that I've been alive I've never been approached once.

 

As for being flirted with, if I have been I've never noticed it.

[jobaba]

I will be fair here, just so it doesn't seem like I'm the pointless, unreachable whiner who self pities endlessly about his ugliness and can't be convinced otherwise.

 

I have been hit on by at least two gay men, that I have been SURE of.

 

Sometimes I think I'm pretty attractive.

 

It's upsetting to me that no women think so.

[Ross MwcFan]

I will be fair here, just so it doesn't seem like I'm the pointless, unreachable whiner who self pities endlessly about his ugliness and can't be convinced otherwise.

 

I have been hit on by at least two gay men, that I have been SURE of.

 

Sometimes I think I'm pretty attractive.

 

It's upsetting to me that no women think so.

 

I've never even been hit on by gay men. Well, there was one time where a guy sat on his own on the bus waggled his tongue at me, but to be honest, it may have ment he was interested or then again it could just as easily ment that he was just messing around. Whatever the case he was obviously crazy anyway.

[ThaWholigan]

I do believe you will also see a correlation between the 'nevers' and the bitter posters and the 'regularlies' and contented.

 

I see it. Although I sometimes wonder how much of it is merely "chicken and egg" in how it happens.

 

For the record, I don't think you're a pointless whiner, I think your experiences have been unfortunate.

[nessaaa]

24 is early 20s

[ThaWholigan]

Yeah, gay men have certainly hit on me, and when I tell 'em i'm not gay. Well.. that's just more tempting for them.

 

I feel cocky now, saying i get hit a lot. lol.

I've actually never been hit on by a gay guy - having said that I never encounter any.