Is there a point when you meet the Ex's (with kids) significant other.

[paperboy48]

Is there a point where you meet the Ex's significant other?

 

My ex wife has been seeing the same guy for seven months. He is now a part of my kids lives....he is with them a lot when my ex has the kids. I would not be surprised if he is living with them by the end of the year?

 

has anyone met their Ex's SO just to know the person who is now another parent figure to your children?

[suladas]

When I was dating my ex, I met her ex within a month, actually I had met him prior to us dating just because I lived next door to my ex, but he didn't know we were dating. Because it is none of the ex's business IMO. It wasn't planned though, just happened I was there when she was taking the kids to him and he was outside and wanted to meet me. It's the opposite of what you were asking, but i'd say it's dependent on how well you get along with your ex. I don't think there is any obligation for him to meet you though.

[Bahndrvr]

I met my Exs man at the 7 month mark and it didn't go so well, I was stationed in Germany and my kids had told me some pretty bad things, then my ex had him pick me up from the airport. When I got off the plane I walked outand met him, I crushed his hand and put him on one knee, looked him in the eyes and told him I don't care what you do with her, but if you ever feel the need to lay your hands on either one of my children again you will get all of my rage released on you. I kept him therefor a moment then helped him up, jumped in the passenger side and enjoyed the hour long drive from the airport in silence. We have since became friends andtheexandhim have been together5 years. He has never laid a hand on either of mychildren since:).

 

The thing to remember is she/he is now the other persons responsibility, but you need to project your love and care for the children unquestionably to the new guy/girl. She may have replaced you, but put your kids first and he will never stack up to you in your kids eyes, I know and I'm very proud to be known as a great caring father, it's the most important job on this earth don't take itlightly.

[paperboy48]

I met my Exs man at the 7 month mark and it didn't go so well, I was stationed in Germany and my kids had told me some pretty bad things, then my ex had him pick me up from the airport. When I got off the plane I walked outand met him, I crushed his hand and put him on one knee, looked him in the eyes and told him I don't care what you do with her, but if you ever feel the need to lay your hands on either one of my children again you will get all of my rage released on you. I kept him therefor a moment then helped him up, jumped in the passenger side and enjoyed the hour long drive from the airport in silence. We have since became friends andtheexandhim have been together5 years. He has never laid a hand on either of mychildren since:).

 

The thing to remember is she/he is now the other persons responsibility, but you need to project your love and care for the children unquestionably to the new guy/girl. She may have replaced you, but put your kids first and he will never stack up to you in your kids eyes, I know and I'm very proud to be known as a great caring father, it's the most important job on this earth don't take itlightly.

 

that's rough man! I give you credited for not hiring worse then you did.

[suladas]

I met my Exs man at the 7 month mark and it didn't go so well, I was stationed in Germany and my kids had told me some pretty bad things, then my ex had him pick me up from the airport. When I got off the plane I walked outand met him, I crushed his hand and put him on one knee, looked him in the eyes and told him I don't care what you do with her, but if you ever feel the need to lay your hands on either one of my children again you will get all of my rage released on you. I kept him therefor a moment then helped him up, jumped in the passenger side and enjoyed the hour long drive from the airport in silence. We have since became friends andtheexandhim have been together5 years. He has never laid a hand on either of mychildren since:).

 

The thing to remember is she/he is now the other persons responsibility, but you need to project your love and care for the children unquestionably to the new guy/girl. She may have replaced you, but put your kids first and he will never stack up to you in your kids eyes, I know and I'm very proud to be known as a great caring father, it's the most important job on this earth don't take itlightly.

 

I can understand that, if you heard bad things. But otherwise, you have to give them the benefit of the doubt. The sad part is, the kids liked me more then the ex. She had kids from 2 marriages, both the ones from the other marriage HATED the last ex, their words "He was a 1 i'm an 11". The other one liked me a lot, didn't specifically say more then her dad or anything, but was happy her mom was going out with me.

 

I almost had to step in a few times because of how he treated his own kids and his ex, even when I wasn't dating her yet, we were still just neighbors. So it can definitely go both ways there. But funny, the first time we officially met it almost got physical. He was pissed when he seen me.