SheLeftMe Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 I have been broken up with my ex fiance for about a month now. These past three nights i havent had all that much sleep because i keep dreaming about her. In nearly every one of them, she has come back to me, which just makes it an even bigger disappointment whenever i wake up. I feel like i am being haunted and cant do anything about it. I also saw her on thursday which may have added some fuel to the fire. You can read my previous threads to fully understand. Anyone willing to give any advice?
Calico Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 (edited) They will eventually fade and pass. It's "just" your brain processing everything and chewing on it, so it's part of the healing process. Like a wound that hurts and itches even if it's mending just fine. You can try this: When you go to bed tonight, say (outloud) to yourself, "Well, I guess tonight I'll have all those crappy dreams again! Yay, that is so awesome. It sucks, but I can deal with that, so have at me, you nasty dreams!". The key here is acceptance. If you can't change something, you might as well accept it and let it be. Fighting it makes it only resist more strongly. It'll blunt the blade. Edited October 6, 2012 by Calico 2
Just smile Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 I don't know what to tell you because I dreamt of my ex for a few nights too, my dream became a disgusting reality because he did Indeed reach out, I caved ended up in bed with him,and he still wanted to maintain no contact. **** the dreams. Shrug them off.
Bahndrvr Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 Well being honest here I have dreamed about my ex every night since I first met her, never a bad dream till last night, and it really wasn't all that bad, but it was the first time I had ever seen her in a negative light in my dreams so it woke me. I say be happy for your dreams, it is a way of closure, if your like me every moment with my girl was a blessing, so having more moments in dreams isn't all that bad.
foreverastone Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 Sometimes if you make yourself really really tired you won't have these dreams. i know i was having these kind of dreams where my ex came back to me and then I would wake up in the morning and feel rotten. However, if i tire myself out enough then i have a dreamless sleep and feel good. The dreams will eventually stop because when we're awake our conscious mind suppresses thoughts that we don't want to have and when we're asleep, our subconscious gets let loose and these thoughts will appear in our dreams. You know you're over your ex when you have to consciously think of them instead of consciously not think of them
suladas Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 I still do nearly 3 months later. I still daydream/think all the time one day she'll contact me and we'll get back together. I don't really fight it, I tell myself it will never happen but the thoughts still come and go.
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