Some_girl_out_here Posted July 27, 2004 Posted July 27, 2004 Is it possible to fall in love with someone from far away? I have a man and have been with him awhile, we are compatiable and have a great life sexually and in most other aspects but recently ok for awhile I have found myself falling for someone else. Someone he knows and that I have very little contact with, we used to talk a lot but stopped because I felt guilty and he never knew how I felt about him. I see him sometimes (3 or more times a week but never alone) when I am with my man and do absolutley nothing to make it known to anyone how I feel about this other person. He is completely gorgeous to me and a sweet heart who listens to my problems or did when we talked and told me about his, we would be much better together but despite how I feel about him I would never do act on it because it would hurt not just mine and my man's but his and the other guy's relationship as well. I respect him too much to do this so I'm in a wierd position. Is this normal what I am feeling? My man treats me well, is attentive, tells me he loves me, treats me like a princess basically and when I am with him I'm happy but as soon as I see this other man my heart races, I want to run into his arms and never leave. What should I do?
Dulce_Angel_Whispers Posted July 27, 2004 Posted July 27, 2004 I think you are not emotionally fullfilled with your current bf or else you wouldn't be thinking about someone else.
honey2005 Posted July 27, 2004 Posted July 27, 2004 If the other guy is in a current relationship, I don't think you should try to be with him. But it doesn't sound like you're happy in the relationship you're in right now. I think you should talk to your guy and tell him how you feel, and if things don't get better, end it. But don't run into the arms of a man who is taken.
Love2BLoved Posted July 28, 2004 Posted July 28, 2004 I also agree with the other posts; it seems that you are not happy with your bf. If you're not happy talk to him andlet him know how you feel, if you think that's not going to help then leave. Why be in a relationship that's not leading you to happiness?
whichwayisup Posted July 28, 2004 Posted July 28, 2004 Hi somegirl. I feel for you. I am in the same position more or less, but I actually have not met the person face to face. I am living with someone, have been for atleast 12 years. Recently I met someone online, but it wasn't 'the typical' online thing. It was a certain support group and neither of us were looking for anything, we just were looking for support and advice. We ended up chatting with a bunch of other people, but this guy and myself kept talking, like there was some kind of energy force between us, pulling us together. I had never felt such intense feelings for ANYONE, and me being new to this online stuff, it freaked me OUT!! We would talk on occasion, about what is going on in our lives, but not get too personal. The more we talked online, the more feelings I would feel. So I asked him if he felt anything when we talked. I had to know!! He felt it too. For weeks we talked about coincidences, why people meet, Karma and reasons why people come in and out of our lives. We both definately felt an attraction and an emotional connection with eachother and it wasn't going to go away. I feel like he is my soulmate, or we were together in another life. That is how much intensity was there. I don't understand it either, I dont try to. I take him as my blessing, and he is special to me. But we both know nothing EVER is gonna happen between us. I won't allow it and neither will he because we both are involved with other people and live VERY far from eachother! I couldnt' hurt my partner and do that to him. Which leads me to what someone said in a reply about not really being happy with who you are with now. You can't control what you feel. I know! I am extremely happy in my relationship!! I love my guy and he loves me! We are great together and neither of us are looking for anyone else. My situation online just happened. People quickly come into our lives and things can change. You really can't control the heart, when you meet someone and instantly your heart skips a beat, that doesn't mean anything is wrong in your own relationship. We connect on many levels with various people, some just more than others... I don't know if any of this makes any sense to you or not, but I do know it isn't anything to feel guilty about as long as don't physically react to it. Have this guy as a wonderful friend. Guys are amazing as friends too! And yes, the sex thing does come up so it is just the way guys are! They can't help it!! Don't feel too bad as I said you haven't let 'it' happen. I am sure you love your guy alot and still can feel something for someone else. It's a certain energy field outthere we don't control. I will do my own post sometime and get into more details of my stuff, but your post caught my eye. Best thoughts. WWIU
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