rrc6680 Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 Lately I've been going to parties and observing body language, presentation, confidence, and flirting. The thing that sparks me as interesting is that some girls go to parties, dressed to the 9's, not interested in flirting at all. I met a group of girls that were dressed in very fancy skin tight dresses, two of the girls had dresses that revealed their midriffs, and one had a very sexy semi translucent black dress on. However, none of these girls were interested in flirting with anybody, at all. They even left the party early when more people started to show up. Give me your opinions!! I don't get this behavior at all. If I go to a bar or a party and I don't want any attention, I'll just wear a sweatshirt and sneakers! Why do some girls dress up so nice and just avoid everybody? (All they did was text, take photos of themselves, and talk about their "super busy major's." Not typical party behavior, but there were quite a few of them doing it.)
ScreamingTrees Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 Maybe the type of guys they weren't dressing up for weren't around? Maybe there was a better party? Who knows. 3
kaylan Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 Lately I've been going to parties and observing body language, presentation, confidence, and flirting. The thing that sparks me as interesting is that some girls go to parties, dressed to the 9's, not interested in flirting at all.Yes they are interested in flirting. Just not with you or the guys they see there. Trust me, party girls get what they want when they see it. I met a group of girls that were dressed in very fancy skin tight dresses, two of the girls had dresses that revealed their midriffs, and one had a very sexy semi translucent black dress on. However, none of these girls were interested in flirting with anybody, at all. They even left the party early when more people started to show up. They werent interested in the guys there. Many girls go to these parties to pregame and then find better guys at the bars. Give me your opinions!! I don't get this behavior at all. If I go to a bar or a party and I don't want any attention, I'll just wear a sweatshirt and sneakers! Why do some girls dress up so nice and just avoid everybody? The only girls who dress up and then dont want attention, are those who want to look good, but are hung up on a boy. And thats def not every girl you meet when you go out. (All they did was text, take photos of themselves, and talk about their "super busy major's." Not typical party behavior, but there were quite a few of them doing it.) Again, they didnt find the guys at the party attractive. 7
Minka333 Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 Maybe they have bf's waiting for them..maybe they aren't really searching for anyone..or maybe they just wanna have good time with friends while looking foxy at the same time. They wear sexy outfits so they can blend with their cliques. 1
ascendotum Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 Again, they didn't find the guys at the party attractive. I'm going with this too. They'ed make sure they would get the attention of any guys there they fancied. Most single women if they go out to a party still want to look good, if at least to impress their friends or show up other women. Also as K said many 'pregame', and many 'glamors' will usually have more than one venue lined up for the night. This scenario is not that rare. At least it gave them a photo op for their FB pages.
Author rrc6680 Posted October 6, 2012 Author Posted October 6, 2012 Definitely all good reasons, but I'm wondering if they aren't just shy. Honestly, it was one of the better parties I've been to in a long time. Live DJ, dance floor, lots of flashing lights, free red bull and free beer, and a very fun atmosphere. I'm ok admitting that I'm not my best at party, and that I was definitely not the best looking man there, but the real kicker was that I've never been around so many good looking men and women at any of the parties I've been to in a long time. It just seemed odd to me. Maybe they do have bf's and just wanted to hit the town looking good with their friends!!! Who knows!? It's just one of those things I don't really relate to I guess! I'm not very big on the party scene.
todreaminblue Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 Lately I've been going to parties and observing body language, presentation, confidence, and flirting. The thing that sparks me as interesting is that some girls go to parties, dressed to the 9's, not interested in flirting at all. I met a group of girls that were dressed in very fancy skin tight dresses, two of the girls had dresses that revealed their midriffs, and one had a very sexy semi translucent black dress on. However, none of these girls were interested in flirting with anybody, at all. They even left the party early when more people started to show up. Give me your opinions!! I don't get this behavior at all. If I go to a bar or a party and I don't want any attention, I'll just wear a sweatshirt and sneakers! Why do some girls dress up so nice and just avoid everybody? (All they did was text, take photos of themselves, and talk about their "super busy major's." Not typical party behavior, but there were quite a few of them doing it.) As a girl who does this often I will say I do it as a confidence builder, a mood lifter instead of medication and for one guy to notice not all just one.....the one i like.....i want to look nice for him....normally when i go out to the club with girlfriends i hardly ever where a dress as i like to dance and not flash....so i wear something suitable for that...i do dress nice when i go out....its for me when i am with my girlfriends.i wear house clothes most of the time..... sometimes i just like to put on something nice colorful bright flowy to lift my mood...and that doesnt mean to pick up guys.....so i think every women is different as has different reasonings behind her clothes........but those are mine......deb 1
MrCastle Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 Some women these days (well, more than some--and it applies to both genders) are socially inept. They'll go to concerts to tweet/post facebook updates as opposed to enjoying the show. They'll take pictures at bars dressed to the 9's and not talk to anyone not already in their clique. We're just not as social as we once were, in part because of technology. I've seen what you've experienced many times. It doesn't matter how attractive the man is, the girls are just going there with their friends, not to meet new people. Whether it's to get free drinks and have fun, attention whore/show off, go out just out of peer pressure so they don't feel like losers--any number of reasons, very few of which involve meeting new people. I've met very few women in bar/club settings that are looking to socialize with new people. I'm not saying they don't want to meet me personally, I mean men in general. I go to NYC bars/clubs where the competition is serious, and no matter how attractive the guy is, girls will spend their entire evening in their own little corner giggling and drinking and taking pictures, refusing dances with anyone who walks up to them. 1
nessaaa Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 Why do people always question how girls act at parties? Like there's a certain way you're suppose to act. **** off. It's none of your business. 3
oaks Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 Why do people always question how girls act at parties? Because they (the boys complaining) went home alone. 1
stillafool Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 Women love clothes, shoes, etc. Plenty of women dress to the 9s with their girlfriends because they all want to look good. They could have boyfriends at home and still go out looking hot because that's what girls do. Why do you care OP? 1
MrCastle Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 Why do people always question how girls act at parties? Like there's a certain way you're suppose to act. **** off. It's none of your business. You sound like one of those party girls that wouldn't be very social.
SmileFace Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 Women love clothes, shoes, etc. Plenty of women dress to the 9s with their girlfriends because they all want to look good. They could have boyfriends at home and still go out looking hot because that's what girls do. Why do you care OP? I don't have a huge crew - it is about 4 of us on the regular. We all work full time, early twenties and are all mostly in school. One girl in our crew has a child and comes home with tons of numbers at a night and is looking for guys when going out. Anyway - we do party and we dress up but the rest of us don't go to parties to looking for guys - we go to enjoy ourselves. Yes we interact with guys and none of us are socially inept. However there is a difference between us and our one "party goer who has a child" but guys love it. She is bat **** crazy but she will show she is interested. Yeah and she is the only one not in school and still lives at home and guys line up and we are all equally attractive - go figure. But she can keep the attention she gets.
phineas Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 Definitely all good reasons, but I'm wondering if they aren't just shy. Honestly, it was one of the better parties I've been to in a long time. Live DJ, dance floor, lots of flashing lights, free red bull and free beer, and a very fun atmosphere. I'm ok admitting that I'm not my best at party, and that I was definitely not the best looking man there, but the real kicker was that I've never been around so many good looking men and women at any of the parties I've been to in a long time. It just seemed odd to me. Maybe they do have bf's and just wanted to hit the town looking good with their friends!!! Who knows!? It's just one of those things I don't really relate to I guess! I'm not very big on the party scene. Shy girls don't dress like that. They wear something that matches upholstery or curtains so they can blend in to the back ground. LOL! 2
todreaminblue Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 Shy girls don't dress like that. They wear something that matches upholstery or curtains so they can blend in to the back ground. LOL! not true lol.....i like the blend thing though......most of the time you cant dress to blend when you go out because you dont know the color of the couches that you sit on..blacks always good....shadow subterfuge.....deb 1
espec10001 Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 The party scene is the WORST "scene" for guys when it comes to meeting new women. They're usually in groups, usually obsessed with taking pictures with their phones, and besides the girls themselves, you have to deal with drunk/high idiots who want to start fights for no reason at all, many who get angry because all the pretty girls left! Plus, the price of drinks and cover is a total rip off. Even if you were the best looking guy at the place, people are drunk or high and they're just not in the right state of mind. People, both men and women, usually turn into jerks when they're drunk. Girls are apprehensive of guys at these types of places because they should be; even a good looking stranger might slip something into their drink or take advantage of them. Not only that, but people often look better in dark settings AND when you're intoxicated so often times the girls appear to be much prettier than they really are. It goes into the whole "Whoops, what was I thinking last night" when you wake up in the morning and see them in the sunlight. My advice, don't waste your time trying to put in any effort into party girls. Focus on environments where you can see her in bright lights (Sun) AND you're both in a sober state of mind.
Bridgey Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 Dressing up and looking sexy is one of the most fun things ever to some girls, myself included. My roommates and I all have boyfriends, but we still love getting all dressed up and going out to clubs and lounges. We don't flirt with guys because we aren't looking for anything besides having a fun night out with the girls. All of the other reasons stated above are entirely valid as well.
jcrew11 Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 Yeah, girls love to tease. Its a huge confidence booster, even if they already have boyfriends. Most girls like to pretend to be "bad girls" but they just like the attention and fantasy of dressing up. The best approach is to not be intimidated, and just talk to her like a regular girl. Most of the time the girls just want to get drunk with their friends, and not specifically to hook up with any men.
yongyong Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 You know girls like to call each other 'she is a slut' behind their backs Would she risk her reputation by making out with a guy looking like a slut OR by flirting with a guy her friend doesn't approve? It would totally different if you met her when she was by herself.
ascendotum Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 Why do people always question how girls act at parties? Like there's a certain way you're suppose to act. **** off. It's none of your business. Sorry N but horny single guys are very much interested in what attractive single girls do. There is no specific way they should act, but if you go out dressed up sexy to get attention, you are going to get noticed by guys, and of course they wonder why they act counterintuitively to that.
kaylan Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 (edited) And lol @ people playing the tired line of "we just wanna have fun...we dont go looking for guys". That really means "we go to have fun, and we wanna look sexy for guys we find attractive". I mean, Ive used the "Im just going out with the bros to have fun and dance" line before too....but we all know its used to downplay the fact that Im also open to meeting fun cute ladies.You know girls like to call each other 'she is a slut' behind their backs Would she risk her reputation by making out with a guy looking like a slut OR by flirting with a guy her friend doesn't approve? It would totally different if you met her when she was by herself. Ive hooked up with girls who were with their friends in the bar. Most of the time the girlfriends back off and let their friend do their thing. Or maybe Ive gotten lucky in this past? *kanye shrug* Edited October 7, 2012 by kaylan
yongyong Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 I am not saying it's impossible. Maybe other girls figured she was very into you and left her alone. Maybe other girls figured you were 'IN' guy. When she has little bit of interest in you, do you agree 'approvals from her friends' can get you laid or not? (eg: she kind of likes the shoes but not 100% sure. would she buy if her friends say, that looks great on you. would she buy if her friends say, I don't like that.) Ive hooked up with girls who were with their friends in the bar. Most of the time the girlfriends back off and let their friend do their thing. Or maybe Ive gotten lucky in this past? *kanye shrug*
Author rrc6680 Posted October 8, 2012 Author Posted October 8, 2012 (edited) Women love clothes, shoes, etc. Plenty of women dress to the 9s with their girlfriends because they all want to look good. They could have boyfriends at home and still go out looking hot because that's what girls do. Why do you care OP? Honestly, I am not particularly interested in a relationship right now either (and I'm not a fan of one night stands at all). However, I will still treat people with common decency and respect. I like to talk to people and socialize at parties, meeting new people is lot of fun. Also it just so happens that I'm single and as a single man when I see a girl I'm attracted to I'm interested in talking to her, even if I'm not looking for a relationship. Having pretty friends never hurt anybody and the attraction just makes her more interesting. That being said, I'll talk to a girl I'm not attracted to also. In many cases they are far more interesting then the prettier girls, which makes them more attractive to me. The reason I'm curious is because I've noticed that EVERYONE at parties willingly socializes with almost anybody that approaches (despite attraction or lack there of) EXCEPT for some of the prettier girls. And honestly, it seems like they have much less friends because of it. I'm just wondering why some people go to a very social setting to be jaded and antisocial. If they're shy I can understand, if they're selfish, conceited, and arrogant then I'm just a little lost. If she's better than everybody else why doesn't she throw her own party for her own friend(s), assuming she can actually afford the beer. Why do people always question how girls act at parties? Like there's a certain way you're suppose to act. **** off. It's none of your business. Girls can act however they want at parties or anywhere else. Just like I can act however I want. I can spit in your drink if I want to, but that doesn't make it right. You can swear and get angry, but that doesn't make it right. I guess I'm just curious as to why many of the prettier women are so jaded and angry when all they have to deal with is attention and free beer. If I didn't have to work on my personality, confidence, and genuine love of the world around me to meet new people I'd probably get selfish, lazy, and angry too. Also, your behavior in a public place is my business. If you're dressed to impress and I'm impressed I'm likely to say something. Whether or not you are attracted to me or interested in talking to me is none of my business, but you're behavior most certainly is. Also, using your own logic, why do girls care how guys act at parties. If guys want to drool all over you and shower you with unwanted attention that's none of your business, right? Unfortunately that's not how the world works, and a good way to avoid that is to stop going to parties. Everyone would be better off. Sorry N but horny single guys are very much interested in what attractive single girls do. There is no specific way they should act, but if you go out dressed up sexy to get attention, you are going to get noticed by guys, and of course they wonder why they act counterintuitively to that. This is exactly right. Even though I'm not particular interested in dating and would rather work on my career and education goals I'm still very interested in single girls. Call it an evolutionary flaw, I guess I have trouble turning off my humanity. Also, one thing I don't do is flirt with girls when I'm taken just for the attention. That just seems desperate. Edited October 8, 2012 by rrc6680
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