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i ask my self this alot. why do i stay.. he doesnt hit me , just verbal abuse . from time to time , disrespects me in so many ways. he acts like a child . doesnt clean up after him self , shaves in sink leaves mess there , leaves dirty dishes for me in the sink .. wont touch a dish. i ask my self this . is this how my life should be .. ohhh and his meaniong of sex is blowjob. i could go mouths with out it ,, so, now i been cheating , with another married man ,, we both have a understanding from beging..only sexual . im cool but im sure one day his wife will catch on ... my man can care less, hes even said things ,referring to chating .im not happy cheating the ssex is good but i know what im doing is wrong just dont know what to doo any advice

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Sweetpeach, it is a great knock to a mans pride when he cannot support himself and his family. This is when he needs his wife as a cheer leader.

 

He needs to has a purpose and direction. Your introduction sounds like you have never had a good relationship in the first place and are so insecure with yourself that you need to introduce an exit affair before a divorce.

 

This method will both damage your reputation another marriage and possibly a depressed husband.

 

I recommend that you investigate the marriagebuilders site articles. This will either help your present marriage, future marriage or the one that you are trying to undermine.

 

I wish you well in your own personal growth.

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OH MY GOD!! Your husband shaves in the sink and leaves it messy and then leaves his dirty dishes in the sink?? How have you survived this house of horrors??!! Give me a break.

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i ask my self this alot. why do i stay.. he doesnt hit me , just verbal abuse . from time to time , disrespects me in so many ways. he acts like a child . doesnt clean up after him self , shaves in sink leaves mess there , leaves dirty dishes for me in the sink .. wont touch a dish. i ask my self this . is this how my life should be .. ohhh and his meaniong of sex is blowjob. i could go mouths with out it ,, so, now i been cheating , with another married man ,, we both have a understanding from beging..only sexual . im cool but im sure one day his wife will catch on ... my man can care less, hes even said things ,referring to chating .im not happy cheating the ssex is good but i know what im doing is wrong just dont know what to doo any advice

Hire a maid? Buy a toy? Get a divorce? Stop screwing someone else's husband?

 

What to do? What to do?

 

You know the answer. If you are so unhappy get a divorce or ask for an open marriage, since your husband does not seem to mind. But leave the OBS marriage alone and stop screwing her husband.

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OH MY GOD!! Your husband shaves in the sink and leaves it messy and then leaves his dirty dishes in the sink?? How have you survived this house of horrors??!! Give me a break.

 

Not in the kitchen sink silly

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Quite honestly, my first piece of advice would be to take remedial English, Grammar and Spelling courses. I see you're from Pennsyltucky so that does explain it, but lordy, lordy.

 

So you've established that your husband is a verbally abusive, selfish, lazy, worthless jack-hole whose pretty much not worth the powder to blow him up. Gotcha.

 

And yet, you stay. And poach on another woman's husband for sex. What, there aren't like 6 million single guys out there that are only too happy to get some NSA sex from a married woman who won't demand anything more than a roll in the hay from them? Gimme a break. Leave the married ones alone if you need to get laid that bad. Jesus.

 

I don't suggest being a 'cheerleader' at all for this loser. I do, however, suggest a good swift kick to the ass right out the door and into the curb for him.

 

 

Yes m grammer is ****ty but I'm not here about my grammar . I did get my point across .u sound like someone thats bitter ,,,mad at people from Pennsylvania and cheating wife's . Didn't know the man was married

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OH MY GOD!! Your husband shaves in the sink and leaves it messy and then leaves his dirty dishes in the sink?? How have you survived this house of horrors??!! Give me a break.

 

LOL. I was just thinking these are fairly typical "problems" in marriage that I file under "small stuff I don't sweat." If he's abusive though, it's just stupid to stay with him.

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"any advice"

 

divorce maybe

 

oh and stop shaggin other married men.

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My first bit of advice is that you are probably posting in the wrong forum if you need support with the A, the OW/OM forum will probably get you some 'support' with the A. Then you may be able to stop labelling people as 'bitter' when they don't support the A.

 

My second, is, if it is so bad and your H doesn't make you happy, then start taking steps to leave.

 

The third is obvious, adding another to the mix is adding another problem to it. Tagged onto that is my own view that no A helps any problems in the marriage. It might add some excitement to the mix, but it doesn't sound like you want adice - or do you? and if so, what exactly do you need advice or support with? Staying or leaving or the A?

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Grammar.... yet more grammar mistakes
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Yes m grammer is ****ty but I'm not here about my grammar . I did get my point across .u sound like someone thats bitter ,,,mad at people from Pennsylvania and cheating wife's . Didn't know the man was married

 

Doesn't matter. How can you expect better by making bad decisions? Heaping more problems on the top won't make the old ones go away.

 

For most people, petty items like dirty dishes and clothes are easily handled if you love and respect the person leaving them behind. I must admit that I prefer a clean and tidy house (my ex was a slob) but that's nothing compared to real problems. What of the wife whose husband is struggling with serious illness or injury? A debilitating mental or emotional condition? It's easy to love the loveable. Love is tested on the unlovable. Real love grows and gains strength faced with adversity while self-seeking, selfish false love is exposed to failure.

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i ask my self this alot. why do i stay.. he doesnt hit me , just verbal abuse . from time to time , disrespects me in so many ways. he acts like a child . doesnt clean up after him self , shaves in sink leaves mess there , leaves dirty dishes for me in the sink .. wont touch a dish. i ask my self this . is this how my life should be .. ohhh and his meaniong of sex is blowjob. i could go mouths with out it ,, so, now i been cheating , with another married man ,, we both have a understanding from beging..only sexual . im cool but im sure one day his wife will catch on ... my man can care less, hes even said things ,referring to chating .im not happy cheating the ssex is good but i know what im doing is wrong just dont know what to doo any advice

 

Why do I smell "troll" all over this?

 

But I'll bite.

 

Why don't you just get a divorce? And if you want sex from someone else, how about having it with someone who isn't screwing over some unsuspecting wife?

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Yes m grammer is ****ty but I'm not here about my grammar . I did get my point across .u sound like someone thats bitter ,,,mad at people from Pennsylvania and cheating wife's .

 

And who could blame someone that might be bitter towards people in real life that don't give a crap who they screw over?

 

 

Didn't know the man was married

 

Ok, now you do. So get a divorce and leave someone elses husband alone

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