surlyboy Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 I went out with someone a couple of times and it just didn't turn into anything. I had to walk away when it was clear she was trying to space herself. She seemed interested, but unsure and somewhat distant on the second date. You know that feeling you get on a date - "she seems to like me...but...." It's been a few weeks and I haven't thought about her until today, when I noticed she looked at my online profile again a few days ago. Would sending a random, short poke text be a bad idea? I'm not desperate, I just liked her. Has anyone had any success poking someone a month after a couple of dates to see if they bite? She must have liked something about me to visit my profile again, while shes browsing new visitors and messages. That stupid viewed me feature!!!
HeldbyGravity Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 Don't sweat it and just ask her if she would still be interested. Just because she seemed disinterested to you doesn't mean she was- she could've just had something on her mind that day. But it also follows that just because she looked at your profile doesn't mean she Is interested. Oh well. If YOU like her still and think it could work, just ask her about it. 1
phineas Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 9/10 times she acted this way because someone she met someone "better" between dates 1 & 2 & now that guy is no longer in the picture. I try to be a little lenient with OLD because the volume of guys pinging these women is astronomical. But a woman should know if she's interested after the first date. If she disappears after the 2nd then she really wasn't all that into you & most likely bored. She knows she checked out on you for the 2nd date & she knows she blew it with you. Why is she passively trying to get your attention? Only one way to find out. Send her a quick message over the site. (because you deleted her number when you wern't feeling her) See if she responds. If not, block her & move on. If so, make a date & if she doesn't SHOW interest like she should stop wasting your time. 1
xdahliax Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 I don't know if it's worth a text. You haven't thought about her in weeks, so you'd be opening yourself up again to the possibility that she's not ready/doesn't want to be with you. It's a good sign that she looked at your profile, but it doesn't mean that whatever caused her to distance herself is no longer a problem.
starla33 Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 Dude move on and find someone else. Seriously lose her number. If someone doesn't seem interested I instantly delete their number (just write down the last 4 digits in case they ever hit you up to know who it is...)
phineas Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 Dude move on and find someone else. Seriously lose her number. If someone doesn't seem interested I instantly delete their number (just write down the last 4 digits in case they ever hit you up to know who it is...) I never delete. I like to know who i'm ignoring. I also posses the self control to not text or call someone who has blown me off.
textanova Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 As long as she's not telling you don't text me...text away. If you like her, try to spark an emotion. Don't ask her a question or annoy her with compliments. Anytime you like a girl, don't hesitate to go after her, even if you think she won't like it. You just never know what's possible and you have NOTHING to lose.
xdahliax Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 As long as she's not telling you don't text me...text away. If you like her, try to spark an emotion. Don't ask her a question or annoy her with compliments. Anytime you like a girl, don't hesitate to go after her, even if you think she won't like it. You just never know what's possible and you have NOTHING to lose. I would suggest saying something interesting and following up with a question. Normally texts with questions in them will make the person answer it on the spot, whereas texts without questions can easily be forgotten. There's nothing worse than sending a text to someone you like and not knowing when they'll answer back, if ever.
phineas Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 I would suggest saying something interesting and following up with a question. Normally texts with questions in them will make the person answer it on the spot, whereas texts without questions can easily be forgotten. There's nothing worse than sending a text to someone you like and not knowing when they'll answer back, if ever. Normally just face rolling on the keyboard will get a response from a woman who is actually into me.
textanova Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 Normally just face rolling on the keyboard will get a response from a woman who is actually into me. Anything that will make a girl say WTF is the best way to get a response. No questions or compliments needed. Just make her curious and you'll get her attention.
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