dorothys Posted July 27, 2004 Posted July 27, 2004 My ex and I broke up 3 weeks ago. It was his idea. He said he needed space, and to "get back himself". I might should also add that he suffers from depression. He stated that he could not work on getting better while we were together due to all the "stress". He stated that he still loved me, but that we needed to break up. I have tried to respect his decsion. But, now what is doing is confusing me and tearing me apart. When we talk on the phone, which is only twice a week. He seems cordial, but yet distant. We do some small talk, and then we hang up. Then I won't hear from him for a few days. I never call him, but let him call me. For the past two weekends he has spent saturday evening with me. At first he is always distant, but then we connect and end up having sex. What confuses me is what he says and the way he acts. He doesn't leave right after sex. In fact it seems as if he doesn't want to leave. He tells me that he feels like he should be back with me, but he needs to get himself better. However, I won't see him the whole rest of the week. I know he has a busy work schedule, and his dad is in the hospital, but he can't seem to make time. I haven't ask him to do things lately, because I don't want broken promises. Today he tell me that he will have the house to hiself this weekend ( he is living with his parents). And he hinted that he would like to get together for "sex". I don't know what to do. I like the physical intimacy, but I don't want to get used. I guess it wouldn't be so bad if he visited me or ask me out once in a while. What do you think I should I do?
Miss_Prolixity Posted July 27, 2004 Posted July 27, 2004 Hi Dorthy, I know you're hurting tremendously right now, I truly feel your pain. IMO, your ex sounds like he is taking advantage of you for sex. It's not convenient for him to make time during the week to see you, but he can sure make time when he wants to fulfill his sexual needs. Honestly, he might be suffering through some tribulations right now. From his own depression and his father in the hospital, but he's the one who broke up with you. Sounds to me like he is using you solely for his own purpose. If I were you, I see nothing wrong with being supportive during this time, but I'd keep your communications with him on a friendly basis and no more sharing physical intimacy.
Author dorothys Posted July 27, 2004 Author Posted July 27, 2004 Thanks for your advice. It is really hard to say no when that is the only contact you have. Some of my friends have suggested telling him how I feel, but I am not sure if that is a good idea.
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