bluefairy812 Posted October 5, 2012 Posted October 5, 2012 (edited) its been three months since the breakup and almost one month of NC. no sign of him anywhere. i'm really sad today. i cried. i feel low. i even went as far as spending money on a psychic just to hear if he was coming back or not. what a waste..... all of this bc i want him back. but i'm just so desperate. i got a cute haircut, i have been exercising, trying to do my own thing with school and even trying to find a new job.. even dating a new guy! (i do like him and i am trying to move on...) yet.... still i am incomplete. my heart is his. i'm starting to feel this is never going to feel better. i have regrets. i wish he would give me another chance. i have been thinking and praying just for him to come back. some words of encouragement are greatly needed. Edited October 5, 2012 by bluefairy812
Mike_d Posted October 5, 2012 Posted October 5, 2012 keep on doing what you are doing, hair, exercise, new job. and be patient, it took a long time to get into this so it's not going to happen overnight, give yourself a few months, I know that seems like an eternity right now, but just do 1 day at a time, or 4hr blocks, whatever it takes to keep you on track 1
blue_jay_bird Posted October 5, 2012 Posted October 5, 2012 Think about how far you have come, think about the first months and how much worse they where. I know it doesn't look like it, but you are doing better. Like Mike_d said, keep what your doing, anything, other then talking to your ex. I'm at 4 month mark and your doing better then me Keep it up.
DavidG Posted October 5, 2012 Posted October 5, 2012 bluefairy, your doing wayy better than I am! Hang in there! Your doing ALL the right things to progress and to move on from this. School, job, working out, new guy!! I know its hard as hell but you will heal! Consider the NC from him a great thing!! Its been only a month but its true healing! Ive been getting love songs from mine although she is still with her new guy, I quit working out (i was 6'3'' 225lbs @ 8% body fat and now im losing muscle by the minute), ALL my friends are hours away since I relocated to be with her, and my rebound dumped me because I had LS opened up and she checked her email LOL (which makes me laugh thinking about it). You make me proud:) I hope I can gain the strength that you don't even realize that you have right now. Keep your head high! Your better than he is and you will find (if you havent already) a guy that is 10x the man that he was!! Now go out and have fun! Its Friday:)
Author bluefairy812 Posted October 6, 2012 Author Posted October 6, 2012 thanks guys, i really appreciate your words... it helps... i know it's a process. it just doesn't feel right. i know i am doing all these things for myself, but at the end of the day, i still have a massive piece of loneliness. i still have good days and bad days. this all feels so wrong. it really sucks. i would do anything to have another chance, we both neglected each other for the last 6 months of the relationship, so i have massive regrets... as i am writing this i am shedding tears. i know its friday night and here i am on loveshack, while he is out with his new 20 year old toy. he knows i am dating someone else, so maybe thats why he hasn't reached out. but if you really love someone wouldn't you go through anything to be with them? i would. i moved out and got a new place, new furniture and everything. i wouldn't care. i would sell it all. i would be with him again.
Mike_d Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 just a side note, if you are feeling like this and dating someone please take a moment to consider the feelings of your new guy, you don't want him to feel like you do right now at some point down the road.
Svet74 Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 3 months is still early. I went through depression for about 10 months. After that point I actually started enjoying life more and doing things. Time heals, you will be ok. And yeah dont spend money on physics. they all tell u the same thing
Dessembrae Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 I'm right here with you Bluefairy, 3 months since the break up and I am miserable... Thought I was doing well, finally starting to get some order, going to the gym, eating again, hanging out with friends, had a rebound but not much came of it and tonight I'm at rock bottom, I miss her like hell and would give anything for a breadcrumb
todreaminblue Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 its been three months since the breakup and almost one month of NC. no sign of him anywhere. i'm really sad today. i cried. i feel low. i even went as far as spending money on a psychic just to hear if he was coming back or not. what a waste..... all of this bc i want him back. but i'm just so desperate. i got a cute haircut, i have been exercising, trying to do my own thing with school and even trying to find a new job.. even dating a new guy! (i do like him and i am trying to move on...) yet.... still i am incomplete. my heart is his. i'm starting to feel this is never going to feel better. i have regrets. i wish he would give me another chance. i have been thinking and praying just for him to come back. some words of encouragement are greatly needed. I went through this a fair while ago now.....dont pray for him to come back......it wont change the feelings and things that happened to break you up in the first place.....congratulations on your new relationship Pray for that relationship to be better than your last....pray for happiness and strength......Have hope in your heart for your future not a repeat of your past....don't go backwards in your thinking.Concentrate on the here and now wherever and whatever that is....it can always be brighter in your future than your past....yesterday is filled with regret....leave it in yesterday and find your new tomorrow...be happy and in love with your now....best wishes from me to you......cry ....let it out and leave those tears for the next yesterday to consume....is this too obscure....lol....i hope you get what i am saying.......smile and tomorrow will smile with you...and for now...... i send you my smile:D....deb
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