I like a girl, but what do I do

[lostsoul25]

Hi guys,

 

Im very inexperienced in the dating world considering my age. When i was much younger i suffered confidence issues and so never talked to girls much let alone anything else. Now I do have lots of female friends at work, not so many friends out of work. I lack a social circle and probably why Ive never managed to meet anyone, its not really going to happen to and from work or the supermarket ha!!

 

Theres a girl im interested in at work, ive seen her around for quite a while but its pure luck if our paths cross, its a big building and rarely do i have anything to do with her. I have recently as she was looking for some things and I helped her out, even though works for a completely different department.

 

It was during this I managed to have a good conversation with her and find out things about her n where she worked previously, we shared a laugh too, nervous laugh who knows.

Considering my confidence issues, I can talk to a pretty girl one to one at work, where its about work and find out little bits but i couldnt do it outsidee work to a complete stranger. wouldnt have a clue what to say. people always say im a dark horse when seen talking to girls at works.

 

Ive since emailed her a couple of times about the work issue, trying to locate some missing documents etc but not really managed to get into chit chat nor bumped into in the corridor.

 

I dont know anyone thats in her office to find out if she is single. I fill with fear and dread at the thought of going up to anyone and asking if they want to go out something or anything, its like because of my past ive not laid the foundations to allow me to do it so easily and know how to react with whatever response comes my way, id expect a no and probably stress out if it was a yes n how to tackle the meet/date.

 

I walk quickly walking down the building stairs, thought i heard something, say my name or hello, i looked up and she was there, i was going that quick was already have way down the next lot, so just shared a hello, i should have gone back up and tried to have a conversation again, would have looked fairly obvious

 

I just dont know if she is interested or just passing the time of day with me after speaking recently and being helpful :-(

 

Dont know why i dont find it all so easy like others, able to spot if someone is interested or just friendly and wanting to kill time during work?

Shes a very pretty girl, no doubt i wont see her around again for weeks being my luck. I dont know what to do or say. i know its almost the weekend, so could always bring that up if she up to anything exciting this weeknd if i saw her, share what im doing going cinemaa, ask if she likes that and what seen. saying that id bottle and not manage to ask if she would like to go out or even join me at cinema. Usually any girls i like and become interested in, turn out to be unavailable, almost a relief as it gets me off the hook, but doesnt solve being alone and really wanting to share my life with someone.

 

I only ever asked one girl before, and that turned out to be just friends, didnt realise until went to make a move, so totally confused on how girls behave

 

Im my own worst enemy. I probably put a front on and nobody realises.

 

I actually saw her again, at certain time of day I visit an office to do some tasks and she brought some items down that needing processing. Unfortunately its a room where others were coming and going. we chatted about her items and the things we'd talked about last week....work related, It was almost about nothing really when I think about it. As soon as she walked in I thought ahh how can I ask her out here.

 

Its so hit and miss if I bump into her

 

Am off work tomorrow so no opportunities will arise.

No doubt if i do ask her out, she will already be taken, how do I escape that scenario apart from it being the higlight of her day, gotta be great anyone showing an interest right

[River Rain]

I understand the confidence issue, and the lack of experience issue personally. I've come to realize though, that nothing will come to me if I don't take a risk. This is not just with regards to relationships. I mean, short of stalking her or finding someone to feed you information, you can't possibly know if she's taken, or even if she's interested in you romantically unless you flat out ask her out. I think it's better to be rejected than to go through life regretting and not knowing don't you?

[lostsoul25]

Yeah your right, its really tough to do it, like the other day when I saw her i thought i need to ask her out, the place and situation just wasnt suitable to smoothly get it into conversation.

 

The last girl I took a chance on and asked if she would like to go the cinema me with me and then we also went out again for food, she just wanted to be friends, only found that out, when I asked for a kiss haha, so even if you ask them out not necessarily thinking the same reasons

[lostsoul25]

Just missed an opportunity today, our paths didnt cross