Timz12 Posted October 5, 2012 Posted October 5, 2012 New here, bare with me! Seven months ago I began dating the girl of my dreams. Things were great from the start, we couldnt have been happier together, she brought so much to my life, made me want to be a better person, its like she just completed me in every aspect. I have been in other relationships, one of which topping 5 years, but I've never really loved or cared for anyone as much as I do her. During the course of our relationship things were going great. I'm still a college student with less than 1.5 years left, so where I live and what type of career I'll have is still up in the air, but she didnt care, she wanted to follow me wherever. She knew I would be moving back to school in the fall, and she wanted to come with and find a job for the meantime and come back home with me to our smaller town come summer time. It took quite a while for her to find a job and here's where it all went wrong. Her old friends from college decided to move to the same city. I got a bad vibe from these friends from the get go, there all kinda wild, drama queens, and more or less just bad influences. She began hanging out with her friends constantly, they'd call or text her morning, noon, and night. Wanting to hang out, go shopping, go out to eat, and clubing. They are all single and didnt have anyone, and I feel they were quite jealous of our relationship and it feels as if they purposely tried to intervien as much as they could. We could never go on a date or do anything anymore without her friends trying to get involved. Beings she didnt have a job at the time and had all this free time, it just got out of control. She began acting distant with me, moody and unemotional with me. After the fact, 2 weeks ago her ex boyfriend began talking to her and convinced her to hang out with him one day. She had lied to me about ever doing this, I eventually found out and confronted her about it. She said she was sorry, and doesnt know why she did it and regrets ever doing it. After all this and that drama/argueing, 3 days ago she finally broke up with me, after living with me in the city for 5 weeks. I seen this coming for a while I told her before hand lets sit down and try to resolve the issues, but she never really tried. Ultimately she told me that she had lost feelings for me and doesnt know how to get them back, she says she still loves me and doesnt know what to do. She says she doesnt want anybody else and that she just wants to be alone and live by herself. She said she still wants to be a part of my life, I responded that I really dont know if I could do that at this point in time. She has since moved out but yet, still has some of my belongings. I didnt try to beg or make a scene I let her know I accepted her decision, remained calm and cool and walked away. I havent tried to contact her nor has she really tried to contact me, I did call her yesterday regarding some of my belongings she accidently took with her, she said she'd bring them over yesterday afternoon, and she became choked up at the end of the short strictly business convo. However she didnt bring them over, nor did I hear from her. I'm looking for ways to try to get her back. I really do love and miss her and I believe she just got overwhelmed with moving to the city and getting caught up with her friends and this is what led to the demise, she is still young and a little immature yet. I'm trying the whole no contact thing but it really does scare me because she is very outgoing and very pretty, and could pretty much have anyone she ever wanted. But what do you guys think, any hope? Where do I go from here? I just dont wanna give up yet. I've also considered buying the magic of making up ebook where you send a hand written letter and all that, good idea?? Inputs needed! Thanks
TopCat22 Posted October 5, 2012 Posted October 5, 2012 This sounds very similar to my ex. I wouldn't bother with the ebooks, they all say the same thing: go NC and work on yourself for a month or two and then if she hasn't called, get in touch and ask her out for a coffee. Then start to slowly rebuild from there. Nice theory, not convinced myself... Not sure there is much you can do. My ex lost feelings for me and now it seems won't even talk to me. We split in a friendly manner and went NC for a month. I broke it last week by sending a text and she hasn't replied. Unless she wants to come back there is little you can do. Keep NC and try and focus on your life. If her feelings change then she'll reach out, but until she does you've got the difficult task on trying to move on. Don't wait for her, hope is a killer.
Million.to.1 Posted October 5, 2012 Posted October 5, 2012 she dumped you. There is nothing that you can do. Move on with your life.
Ramzk001 Posted October 15, 2012 Posted October 15, 2012 My girlfriend left me because her friends brainwashed her and pressurized her to ditch me and live up to her college life. 2 months before she broke up with me. She didnt contact me at all, Im on NC. I cannot take risk of contacting her because she might not reply or tell me what i dont want to hear. Even if i go back to her she will take me for granted. I'll let her come back to me. Stay strong and wait for your GF to come back to you. If she doesnt, Then you guys arent meant to be
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