on a tough situation

[AccInfusion]

Here is my story;

 

I was dating a girl for 4months not a lengthly amount of time but enough time for me to fall head over heels for this girl. It all started when she said she wanted a break. Now obviously being a man and being in my situation i was like thats ridiculous and proceeded to go on ahead with my antics. I accepted it and we continued to see each other all the while having a good time she still turned around to me every day after with still on a break. Now in hindsight i should have just completely pulled back but alas i hadn't read any advice and went to far. I text her and called her not a lot granted but looking back too much. One day she finally said we are done so i was like ok. That night she rang me 8 times. So the next day i called her and she said she would talk that night. So we talked and after me pushing again -.- she was like its not working. Que my emotions;

 

Act 1: two days of no contact i popped a message through her door

Act 2: After 4-5 days of no contact I text her regarding any information about a festival upcoming as she was always involved in them and i was looking for information. We exchanged a few texts of which she was cold and then i said about her fav band playing where i worked and said she was welcome to come as i knew we always had a good time watching them together. She said it would be nice to be welcome where i work and she came but i wasn't there (maybe a bad move, maybe she came in hope to see me i have no idea (probably not))

Act 3: After a week no contacty i called her and we exchangeda hello how are you. I then asked if she fancied a coffee she said maybe. In hindsight again i should have not followed up and left it to her. I text her 2 days later and said how about that coffee. She said honestly she didn't want to do coffe. I replied with "thats all i needed to hear thanks for being honest"

Act 4: 2 weeks later today being that day some customers came in and said that the food they had today was much better than carluccios where she works. This flooded with me emotion as I have being very well for myself recently. I couldn't help myself and turned around and text her this message

 

"Just had some customers come in and say our pasta was better than carluccios, i find that hard to beleive :-D how is everything? Fancy hearing about the update of the lazy cow? x"

 

I did that about 2 hours ago and have had no reply. Its a perfectly decent message with no urge on her to reply. A little update to let her know that i thought of her and the option for her to reply if she is spiked by that interest.

 

Honestly this has turned out longer than i expected it to be but i just would like some thoughts and opinions. I mean for some reason i have really fallen for this girl and quite frankly its hit me really too hard. I would love some advice on how to handle this situation as it has cut me pretty deep. I think i know the way forward from this point but every little helps you know :-)

 

x

[geegirl]

You truly need to stop contacting her. It's highly unattractive to a woman when a man does this. You're literally begging to be heard. Please stop. If anything, you are pushing her further away.

 

You said she responded cold at one of your attempts? What does a cold response mean? Most likely she is annoyed by your communication. If you were not interested in a woman and she kept trying to get your attention, how would you view her and how would you feel about her? Turn it around.

 

Yes, you love her but there comes a time when you just need to let go.

[AccInfusion]

Always good to hear the hard truth... Thank you.