Kamila Posted October 5, 2012 Posted October 5, 2012 Okay, Here's the deal: My bf and I were together for 2.5 years. We broke up because he had doubts about us and he wanted to date other people (he had one on ice just in case it wouldn't work out with me), go back to uni (he failed his second year btw...and has given up on those uni dreams), not share a place with me, basically, he wanted to be free again... So I let him go, cos I didn't want to invest more in a relationship where it was all give give and receiving zero. After 3 months post breakup I've initiated no contact, but he still texted me once in a while. I never responded to the messages. Cos what's the point ? After a while he gave up and he got together with a new girl, professed his love for her all over FB and they even bought a house together. Then yesterday late in the evening he texted me 'How are you doing?' No really, why is it that exes still want to dig their knife deep into you ? I would like to say to him, 'Go f*** your new girl, leave me alone, give me back the years I've wasted on a douche like you, and yeah, just f*** off !!!!'
geegirl Posted October 5, 2012 Posted October 5, 2012 I don't think they're trying to dig a knife into you or me for that matter but more so their contact comes from a place of indifference, therefore, they reach out of curiosity, never thinking it will emotionally affect the other person. It could be that he just feels that enough time has passed by and it's perfectly okay to reach out as a friend or someone you had a past with. In any case, no need to respond. By your reaction, I can tell that you're still affected.
Newflor32 Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 I too am bothered by this sporadic contact. This man ripped my heart apart and i had no choice but to move on. I too went nc and slowly began to heal. Now he shows up at my house 3 times unannounced since july and call my dad to have me call him. Now i find out he is still in the same relationship he left me for. I dont get it.... We can never be friends. Im still hurt by how he treated me.... Why do they keep raising their ugly heads? Why do they think its ok to contact us?
Newflor32 Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 I have no intentions off giving in but im bothered by the fact that it still affects us? We split almost 4 yrs now. Im afraid i may never fully be past this person.
Exit Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 Could rephrase your thread title as "I still have not blocked my ex 2 years after breakup". They might be the jerk for doing the contact, but it's up to you to keep self-preservation in mind and put an end to it yourself. Don't wait for them to understand that contacting you doesn't exactly stir up good feeling in you. Protect yourself from it.
Author Kamila Posted October 7, 2012 Author Posted October 7, 2012 Could rephrase your thread title as "I still have not blocked my ex 2 years after breakup". They might be the jerk for doing the contact, but it's up to you to keep self-preservation in mind and put an end to it yourself. Don't wait for them to understand that contacting you doesn't exactly stir up good feeling in you. Protect yourself from it. Yes, that's true. But maybe deepdown there's the tiny hope that everything will go back to the way things were... which isn't true of course.
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