truth_seeker Posted October 5, 2012 Posted October 5, 2012 I've noticed a trend lately as I jump back into dating. Don't pry if you catch someone in a lie. I've met some women who were obviously lying and the ones I went along with just continued to get closer to me. The ones I called out on their lies were quick to run away. I'm not into playing games but it seems that's the best way to get sex fast. Thoughts?
River Rain Posted October 5, 2012 Posted October 5, 2012 I've noticed a trend lately as I jump back into dating. Don't pry if you catch someone in a lie. I've met some women who were obviously lying and the ones I went along with just continued to get closer to me. The ones I called out on their lies were quick to run away. I'm not into playing games but it seems that's the best way to get sex fast. Thoughts? If all you want is sex, why would you care if you're having sex with a liar? 4
Author truth_seeker Posted October 5, 2012 Author Posted October 5, 2012 I want more than that. Lately, just fooling around leaves me empty afterwards.
oaks Posted October 5, 2012 Posted October 5, 2012 I've met some women who were obviously lying and the ones I went along with just continued to get closer to me. The ones I called out on their lies were quick to run away. I guess being called out (and hence indicating that you disbelieve them, or that you know they lied to you) is a turn-off. What sort of things did they lie about? (I'm not sure if this is significant... but I'm curious.)
Author truth_seeker Posted October 5, 2012 Author Posted October 5, 2012 I guess being called out (and hence indicating that you disbelieve them, or that you know they lied to you) is a turn-off. What sort of things did they lie about? (I'm not sure if this is significant... but I'm curious.) One girl chatted me up and told me about her boyfriend. We continued chatting and she wanted to hook up. I backed off and said: "For a girl who has a boyfriend, are you sure you have one?" She got angry and walked away. I've been told that was a mistake. I should have gone along with the flow and gotten some. Instead, I pissed her off by calling her out. I'm just not into messing around with another guy's girl.
oaks Posted October 5, 2012 Posted October 5, 2012 So was she telling a lie about having a boyfriend? or just got annoyed because you wouldn't hook up with her (and help her cheat on her bf)? She's a cheater or a liar. Her walking away sounds like a win for you, either way! 3
Author truth_seeker Posted October 5, 2012 Author Posted October 5, 2012 I believe she lied about having a boyfriend to undermine me and also test me. I just don't like someone playing games.
Eternal Sunshine Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 Yeah, calling someone out is not going to win you any friends. I just go along with the lies until I decide that the person is untrustworthy and walk away. Nobody is going to be always 100% honest. I try to understand the motive behind the lies and go from there. 1
phineas Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 Calling a woman out for her BS is a surefire way NOT to get laid. going along with it, while subtlety making her work for your attention is. Then it comes down to the inverse proportion of how good the sex is vs how annoying her BS is.
oaks Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 Then it comes down to the inverse proportion of how good the sex is vs how annoying her BS is. That's brilliant.
xdahliax Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 If you only want to have sex, it really doesn't matter if she's lying. It won't make the sex any better or any worse. If you want a relationship, you should definitely call them out on their lying. It's not a good way to start a relationship. If they are able to justify it, maybe you're overly suspicious and misinterpreted what they said. If they really were lying or walk away, you're better off without them. Oh, and when I say to "call them out"...I don't mean you should accuse them of lying. Just ask for more information or say something like "I'm confused...I thought you said...?" Give them the benefit of the doubt, or they'll be running away from you with reason.
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