Themrandres Posted October 5, 2012 Posted October 5, 2012 Hey guys I just have some questions about ur guys experiences with NC. (no contact) Has no contact ever really worked for you guys, I understand that many people have tried NC with intention of getting there ex back but actually gotten over there ex instead but have you guys ever gotten your ex back with this method. Like how long did it take for you. Right now I'm doing no contact and I'm 2 weeks in and I'm working on myself like crazy but I just need motivation to keep going. Me and my gf broke up 3 weeks ago and she's got a new guy that is the truest defanition of a rebound so I wanna keep no contact and show her I'm moving on and doing good but not talking to her at all. Well sorry for getting side tract but just let me know if NC really worked for u
TaraMaiden Posted October 5, 2012 Posted October 5, 2012 I'm going to spell this out for you: NO CONTACT IS NOT A SYSTEM DESIGNED TO GET YOUR EX BACK - NO CONTACT IS A PROCESS DESIGNED TO KEEP YOU AS FAR AWAY FROM THEM AS POSSIBLE. You implement No Contact to move on, heal and leave the past behind. Read the Caliguy link in my signature. It's all explained there. Everything. 1
Author Themrandres Posted October 5, 2012 Author Posted October 5, 2012 So no contact never gets ur ex back:(??
TaraMaiden Posted October 5, 2012 Posted October 5, 2012 It's not up to you to decide that. She dumped you, right? She has a new guy, right? The chances of a happy ending from your PoV are very, very slim. If she comes back it's either because he dumped her, or she's not happy. In any case you would be the rebound guy, the one on the back burner, the 'soft place to fall' the 'Mr Desperate is waiting for me.' You have to realise that 99.99% of the time, if they get back in touch, it's 'breadcrumbs'. And as I always say, if you're happy to lick those off the soles of her boots, go right ahead. If you take her back, remember she's also probably had sex with the other guy. How happy would that make you feel? 2
Author Themrandres Posted October 5, 2012 Author Posted October 5, 2012 Omg I almost coughed up my coffee when I read that last part. Trust me there is 0 sex going on with them, you do not know this girl, and the guy she's dating never even kissed a girl so I have confidence there is barely any physical contact. This is just a rebound with this new guy there gonna end in a week.
kalaslsl Posted October 5, 2012 Posted October 5, 2012 Omg I almost coughed up my coffee when I read that last part. Trust me there is 0 sex going on with them, you do not know this girl, and the guy she's dating never even kissed a girl so I have confidence there is barely any physical contact. This is just a rebound with this new guy there gonna end in a week. Come on... seriously?? You really believe that? 3
TaraMaiden Posted October 5, 2012 Posted October 5, 2012 If you really want to believe there's nothing physical between them, you go on, right ahead. But if she was into him shortly after breaking up with you....? Hmmm.... Tell me - would you be happy to take that risk? never knowing for sure? Okay. Rather you than me.....
thembones Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 I agree, NC is just a way of letting the pieces fall as they will. It sucks, I KNOW, as I (and a lot) of people on the site are going through the same thing as you are. She left you (and me)! If they want you back, then it is there choice. You can only hold on hope for so long, but you have to take NC more of a way to move on. Remove yourself from her life and if she wants you back in it, then that is another story. I am on 2 months and it does get easier. I had a lot of hope, but now I do not even know if I would want her back if she came back. Try these things that have actually helped me: 1. Make a list of good qualities of yourself. 2. Make a list of negatives about her (BE HONEST) 3. Make a list of good things that have happened to you since the breakup 4. GO AWAY. No Facebook stalking, driving by, trying to set up a coincidental meeting Everything will work out in the end, one way or the other. 3
NavyAirTraffic Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 TaraMaiden and thembones have given you great advice and information, listen to them, otherwise you'll be back in a month with the same sadder story. To piggyback thembones, "she left you" she made that decision. Nothing you say or do will change that, even NC. If she ever wants you back it is a decision she'll have to make on her own, her own free will. Ask yourself, "do I really want to be with with someone who is only so so about me" "do I feel right being with someone I had to CONVINCE to be with me"?? We are now or at one point have been in your shoes, it sucks, and it is out of your hands!!
Million.to.1 Posted October 7, 2012 Posted October 7, 2012 You posted another thread 5 minutes ago asking the same thing with a different angle. Please PLEASE please... Read through the second chances forum. Do so until you find a post where the dumper came back and they lived happily ever after. Maybe that will give you some perpective. You are, as i stated in your other post, desperately searching for the answer you want, rather than the answers that are real. YOU WILL NOT GET YOUR EX BACK. I guantee that you will completely ignore this post and every other one saying the same thing because it's not what you want to hear. 3
olivec Posted October 8, 2012 Posted October 8, 2012 Hey guys I just have some questions about ur guys experiences with NC. (no contact) Has no contact ever really worked for you guys, I understand that many people have tried NC with intention of getting there ex back but actually gotten over there ex instead but have you guys ever gotten your ex back with this method. Like how long did it take for you. Right now I'm doing no contact and I'm 2 weeks in and I'm working on myself like crazy but I just need motivation to keep going. Me and my gf broke up 3 weeks ago and she's got a new guy that is the truest defanition of a rebound so I wanna keep no contact and show her I'm moving on and doing good but not talking to her at all. Well sorry for getting side tract but just let me know if NC really worked for u just forget up her man its not worth it trust me. its just gunna hurt even more when she dumps you again.
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