shawn923 Posted October 5, 2012 Posted October 5, 2012 Slighty Long Im 24 and my gf dumped me from a GIGS-like situation about 1.5 years ago. Shes 2 years younger than me and we attend the same college. It left me heartbroken beyond belief, and like everyone else on this board, I chose to be superman lover and win her back. Showered her with gifts and attention for weeks after I was dumped, only to be rejected on valentines in 2011, resulting in one of the worst days of my life... On top of that, she dates another guy 2 weeks after that... And me being a FB stalker, I had to witness some very hurtful images that I SUPER REGRET and still stay in my memory today:lmao:..... Anywho! For the next year or so, we would remain on and off "friends" and on and off NC, all which was started by me. She broke NC maybe 10 times, even as far to make out with me and confess she loved me, wanted to be with me, still loved me, blah blah. HOWEVER, Never once would she actually want to commit to me. IT WAS ALL WORDS. NO ACTION. And thats what truly pissed me off. She would feed me so much bs and then never want to be with me or get rid of the sleazy guys she always hung with. Of course, she ends up dating another total bum about 2 weeks after an argument around this time last year.... It literally made me think of her as pathetic, I wrote her off as emotionally unstable and I rid myself from her. As hurtful as it was, I finally went FULL, TOTAL NC. And that truly was the best thing i could do, and shoulda did a long time ago. You see, when I was dumped it was out of nowhere and was for a petty reason that I could have fixed, but its clear it was a scapegoat for breaking up with me. Had I realized this then, I would have ignored her from day one and left her lonely, because she clearly showed me utter disrespect and introduced me to some of the worst experiences of my life. For a 4 month relationship, the immense heartbreak and embarrassment for a year afterwards just wasnt worth it. She dated another guy as I said just 2 weeks after I cried in front of her on v-day... Which means I had to see them at school on campus some days, happy as ever, and even had to witness them kiss with my own eyes..... They only lasted a couple months, she runs back to me, i demand commitment, she runs and dates another sleeze ball. And the cycle continues. She was emotionally unstable and I was killing myself my being attracted to her, no matter how hard I loved her... The point is, NC is definitely the way to go. Today, I am finally free of those gloomy days, and rarely cry at all over the thought of her. I mean, if i purposely think of those horrible images ive been apart of, then i tense up, but for the most part I am over her and no longer have her on a pedestal. Simple ignoring her and everything including fb, was the best possible thing I ever did. I continue to see her once a week at school, where I walk past and dont even make eye contact, and it doesnt bother me. I wanna help anybody thats in a situation quite like mines was. I have definitely seen and been thru a great deal of bs and lost my pride over a woman who I still, love.... She is now dating a 30 yr old loser who collects shoes, but thats another story. Im single and loving it, Im very happy and content dating women every now and then its truly fun raises your spirits. Ive dated maybe 5 women already who blow my ex out the water, however its a matter of me not wanting a relationship... So if anybody out there wants or needs help, or has questions, ask me! Im glad to help. Im also open to advice as to where I should go now, or if I should ever break NC one day.....
Author shawn923 Posted October 6, 2012 Author Posted October 6, 2012 Could really use some advice... Been NC almost a year but really missing her lately. Wanting to break NC but fighting it off... Having hard days :/:lmao:
Minka333 Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 You've come that far already and you're doing a good job. You seem to have learned a lot. Please don't relapse when you miss her. You will just repeat the cycle. You are stronger than that... Keep up the good work!
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