DontWorryBHappy Posted October 5, 2012 Posted October 5, 2012 Ok, so this isn't really a thread asking for advice or anything. Ive liked this guy for a little while and I haven't (and probably will not) tell him. We met at work and worked together a couple days a week. Whenever I had a shift with him we would have a total blast together.. nonstop laughing, we really clicked. Then gradually we hung out more outside of work. It started out as little lunches after our shift, then progressed to going to events together (a concert, etc), and hanging out at his place. I've slept over at his place a couple times, but always with he or I on the floor, and the other in the bed. Lately he's been calling or texting me asking to hang out. Sometimes I would help him with some homework or something, and other times we would just watch tv or movies, or just talk. We've both done a lot of favors for each other.. I've helped him on several homework assignments and covered work shifts for him, and he's bought me food, brought me medicine when I was sick, and other little things. Today we hung out for a while.. lunch, then just talked about a ton of things. Today he really opened up to me about his fears, vulnerabilities, thoughts.. and was interested in hearing about my life plans. He also bought me starbucks as a thank you for helping him edit a paper. I've liked this guy since the second week I started working with him. He's always referred to me as a friend, even though at times I wondered if he liked me... mostly because he touches me periodically in teasing ways and often stands close to me while speaking, and little things like that. But then I think, maybe it's all in my head and I'm making that into more than it is. I guess I think that if a guy liked me, he wouldnt keep referring to me as his friend. Today he said that he really wants to keep me around as his friend after college.. so I know he wants me in his life, but theres that friend word again. I'm not going to tell him my feelings because it really would sadden me to see things get awkward if it isnt mutual. I assume that if it was mutual, that would come out one way or another over time.. He just quit the job that we worked together at, so I dont even know how much I'll see him since we dont work together anymore. At first I thought maybe that would be an opportunity to tell him my feelings since we arent working together now But I think it isnt worth it. I'd rather keep my pride and not feel like an awkward 2nd grade kid that passed her crush a love note. Just a little down tonight and wanted to vent about it. Any personal stories are welcomed.
truth_seeker Posted October 5, 2012 Posted October 5, 2012 I say put your pride aside and open up. Its much worse to live with regret.
Author DontWorryBHappy Posted October 5, 2012 Author Posted October 5, 2012 really? ok you say to put my pride aside because "living with regret is worse" but what about the regret I would feel if the friendship fell apart after telling him? I dont know which regret is worse..
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