mtnbiker Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 So I decided I'm ready to get back on the horse so to speak. I am going to create a profile on match. I haven't gotten to the write-up yet, although I did make a first rough draft. What I am having an issue with are pictures. I used to be camera shy. I no longer am, but there are many less natural opportunities to have them taken. I have only four pictures of myself currently, as when my pc crashed two years ago I lost all the previous ones. I'm sure other people have photos that I am in, but I wouldn't know who to ask. So, one of my four pictures has me leaning in from the side in a nice button down with a tie, but it makes me look even shorter than I am (5'9" because I'm leaning forward and down and the other guys in the wedding photo are about 6'1" on average. Should I still use this photo? Another one is of me at the beach this past summer. My ex said my name and when I looked over to her beach chair she snapped a shot. Is this picture ok to use? TIA!
curlygirl40 Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 Here are the rules for pics. You need one of you in front of your car. One of you with a motorcycle, even if it's just at a dealership with a headline that says 'one day!'. One shot with an ex girlfriend cropped out. One from 10 years ago when you still had hair, so everyone knows what they 'could' have had if they had just met you earlier darnit. One taken in a mirror of the bathroom. And one gratuitous shirtless pic. Ta da!!! O.K, sorry for being snarky. Here's what I think. It's hard to say for sure without looking at the pics. When you say at the beach, do you mean shirtless? I'm torn about those pics. I don't like shirtless pics in general with OLD but yet when it seems natural (beach) I guess it's o.k. And the pic with the wedding party. If you think you look short in those pictures, you probably do. Any way to crop out some of the other guys? To me, as long as the guy is a little taller than I am (I'm 5'5") that's all I care about (call me shallow, but it is what it is). But if I see a profile and the guy is like 5'6" or something I might not realize HOW short that can look until I see him in a pic with all of his buddies and it does make a difference, because it's perspective. This would not stop me from contacting him tho or answering an e-mail if I liked his profile. Make sense? I don't think 5'9" is short at all. In general, I think this is mostly what you need. A good head shot. A good full body shot, one where you're being active or out with friends if you have one. As a girl this is what I look for. It might be wrong or shallow to some, but I'm just telling you. If all of the pictures the guy is wearing a hat or sunglasses, I wonder what he really looks like because it's hard to say. If he has 10 pictures and none of them show his teeth, I think he's self conscious of his teeth or there's something that I might be surprised about when we meet in person. Not a deal breaker but something I notice. If I can't really see him in any of the pictures, like they are all active shots of him riding a bike, water skiing, playing golf, etc., I feel like I have no idea what he looks like. I want to see his eyes, his smile. Not sure if I'm being helpful or just rambling. You can start with those pics and then try to improve on them later. Or maybe do you have any friends who can take pics of you this weekend? Best of luck.
Author mtnbiker Posted October 4, 2012 Author Posted October 4, 2012 It's hard to say for sure without looking at the pics. When you say at the beach, do you mean shirtless? I'm torn about those pics. I don't like shirtless pics in general with OLD but yet when it seems natural (beach) I guess it's o.k. And the pic with the wedding party. If you think you look short in those pictures, you probably do. Any way to crop out some of the other guys? To me, as long as the guy is a little taller than I am (I'm 5'5") that's all I care about (call me shallow, but it is what it is). But if I see a profile and the guy is like 5'6" or something I might not realize HOW short that can look until I see him in a pic with all of his buddies and it does make a difference, because it's perspective. This would not stop me from contacting him tho or answering an e-mail if I liked his profile. Make sense? I don't think 5'9" is short at all. In general, I think this is mostly what you need. A good head shot. A good full body shot, one where you're being active or out with friends if you have one. As a girl this is what I look for. It might be wrong or shallow to some, but I'm just telling you. I want to see his eyes, his smile. Or maybe do you have any friends who can take pics of you this weekend? Best of luck. Yes, the beach photo is just of me sitting in my beach chair, she was in hers. I am shirtless. I could crop out some guys from the wedding photo, but I am literally on the edge of the photo, so you can't even see all of me. I will be attempting to rope people into taking pictures of me this weekend and next.
Dreamless Sleep Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 Look at some of the posts by the guys. It sometimes is funnier than a Saturday Night Live sketch. A women cropped out with her hands in his lap, the mirror picture with laundry and garbage strewn about, pumped up shirtless at the gym. It might give you an idea of what to avoid. But maybe it works. I just find it amusing. I love that women seem to take so many of themselves in the car.
oaks Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 I have only four pictures of myself currently, as when my pc crashed two years ago I lost all the previous ones. Sorry you lost your photos... but they were probably too old to use anyway. It's better to use recent photos on a dating profile. You might think you look just the same, but you're probably wrong. For the photos you do have... if the lighting is good and you're happy with them then use them. If you're not happy with them then don't. Get a friend to take some more photos of you... outside in daylight. (Don't take them yourself with the camera held at arms length - those look bad.) Yes, just tell your friend what they're for.
Author mtnbiker Posted October 4, 2012 Author Posted October 4, 2012 oaks....that is so far from who I am, I never have taken a self pic and never would. Those self mirror pics are strange at best.
Author mtnbiker Posted October 5, 2012 Author Posted October 5, 2012 How do insert pictures on this site? I decided to show the four and then get answers.
CC12 Posted October 5, 2012 Posted October 5, 2012 How do insert pictures on this site? I don't think you can. You need to upload them to an image hosting site and then paste the links here. Like this: http://i.imgur.com/PAF0i.jpg
FitChick Posted October 5, 2012 Posted October 5, 2012 If your camera has a timer, you can take a picture of yourself. That's what I do.
Author mtnbiker Posted October 6, 2012 Author Posted October 6, 2012 Ok, I have them loaded on image shack. There are four options to copy and paste for each picture. Which one do I use? Thanks!
mesmerized Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 I like the beach picture and your first picture. Uploading the one when you're with a bunch of people is not the smartest idea because you're bringing attention to the fact that you're shorter than most of them.
FitChick Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 I hate group shots because I can't tell who is who. PLEASE FACE THE LIGHT SOURCE IN YOUR PHOTOS. Otherwise you are in shadow. I thought this was Photography 101 yet so many people don't seem to know it. Can't they see the final bad result?
ScreamingTrees Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 I like the beach picture and your first picture. Uploading the one when you're with a bunch of people is not the smartest idea because you're bringing attention to the fact that you're shorter than most of them. Who gives a ****? A girl will find out as soon as she meets him anyway, and he's not short. Jesus christ.
Author mtnbiker Posted October 6, 2012 Author Posted October 6, 2012 I like the beach picture and your first picture. Uploading the one when you're with a bunch of people is not the smartest idea because you're bringing attention to the fact that you're shorter than most of them. I agree, didn't help that I was leaning in/over either. I was contemplating editing it down to just myself.
Author mtnbiker Posted October 6, 2012 Author Posted October 6, 2012 I hate group shots because I can't tell who is who. PLEASE FACE THE LIGHT SOURCE IN YOUR PHOTOS. Otherwise you are in shadow. I thought this was Photography 101 yet so many people don't seem to know it. Can't they see the final bad result? I always face the camera and I am in all four pics(one is just an edited version of another). Maybe you were speaking of someone else in the photo.
mesmerized Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 Who gives a ****? A girl will find out as soon as she meets him anyway, and he's not short. Jesus christ. Relax. Online dating is all about pictures and shallowness at first. He is going to state his height on his profile anyway but his pictures should emphasize on his strong points rather than weak points.
Author mtnbiker Posted October 6, 2012 Author Posted October 6, 2012 Mesmerized... I meant to say I somewhat agree. I had mentioned that those are some very big guys, which makes me seem smaller than I am in comparison.
mesmerized Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 Mesmerized... I meant to say I somewhat agree. I had mentioned that those are some very big guys, which makes me seem smaller than I am in comparison. Yeah. You're fitter than all of them though so that a plus. But even the shirt you're wearing is not doing you justice.
Author mtnbiker Posted October 6, 2012 Author Posted October 6, 2012 Yeah. You're fitter than all of them though so that a plus. But even the shirt you're wearing is not doing you justice. I was away that weekend and just at the last minute decided to come home for the wedding. That whole outfit was borrowed as I did not live close to the wedding. I wear more form fitting clothes. I will say I did like the color combo, just not the fit. I played football with those guys in high school, three of them got full rides in college. They used to be a little more fit, mostly more muscle...but they have let themselves go a little. So do you believe I should use the other four pics? Thanks for the feedback!
Author mtnbiker Posted October 6, 2012 Author Posted October 6, 2012 Here is a cropped version of the wedding pic...worth using now?
ja123 Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 You did a great job with the cropping in the wedding photo ... and you're cuter than the other guys in the photo, so that's good. The 2nd baseballgood is a good picture, if you could crop crop it better. Try taking a cropping the left margin and a bit off the top, so that you're more in in the centre of the frame. The beach picture is very cute. I'm reluctant, generally, to say go and post a topless pic of yourself, but you do look so natural in it and very cute! So, you can start with those pictures and work on getting some more of yourself. Good luck with dating!
Author mtnbiker Posted October 6, 2012 Author Posted October 6, 2012 You did a great job with the cropping in the wedding photo ... and you're cuter than the other guys in the photo, so that's good. The 2nd baseballgood is a good picture, if you could crop crop it better. Try taking a cropping the left margin and a bit off the top, so that you're more in in the centre of the frame. The beach picture is very cute. I'm reluctant, generally, to say go and post a topless pic of yourself, but you do look so natural in it and very cute! So, you can start with those pictures and work on getting some more of yourself. Good luck with dating! The one where it is almost just me with the edges of the two guys showing? Is that the one? I was thinking of cropping that a bit tighter. Thanks for the input!
ja123 Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 welcome! Yeah, that's the one: it needs to be cropped tighter.
Author mtnbiker Posted October 6, 2012 Author Posted October 6, 2012 welcome! Yeah, that's the one: it needs to be cropped tighter. This work?
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