Golfman Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 Hey everybody. I'll start off i love my gf but i feel its going nowhere. Been 5 months. She is off work but getting paid right now. Was a prison guard but got atttacked 3 years ago. She has ptsd. She is doing fine now but just seems like she doeesnt wanna do anything. Seems like all she wants to do is smoke weed. I do smoke but here and there. She lives in the past so bad. Talks about stuff like it was yesturday. Gets annoying. She can easy find another government job but chooses to play the game with the system. Just seems like she is stuck in her bubble. She is a great girl. No doubt but i cant see myself with somebody that doesnt wanna move future and live in the past. She does nothing. Last night i go over and the day before she said come spend the night and i'll put on my sexy robe and u get the rest!! Lol. So last night im all amped up and she says sorry im not in the mood anymore. Like wow. Right before this she ran outta weed and ask me if i could call my friend and get some. I said no and then this happened. I left. My mood was destroyed. Just had to get away We talk about change a month ago and i see none. Whats next begging for sex? I do so much but get very little in return. Im a very horny guy and i have needs. I know its not all about sex but alot of sex in a relationship is healthy. In a hard jam here. I wanna leave but i do love her. Some people dont wanna change.
TopCat22 Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 If you're not getting what you need from the relationship then I think it's fair to question it. If you've tried talking to her and are not getting any response then maybe it is time to end it. Perhaps that will be the shock to the system she needs to make positive changes in her life. Perhaps not. It sounds like she is not getting what she needs either. Maybe time apart will do you both good? I'd say it's worth another conversation though and you need to make it very clear what you expect from the relationship and what you want from her. If she chooses not to resepct your feelings then move on.
Author Golfman Posted October 4, 2012 Author Posted October 4, 2012 Thanks top cat. Like i thought the first chat we had was gonna be good enough. Boy was i wrong This is tough. All her other BFs were trash and most likey didnt give a **** about her. Im gonna lay it all on the line tonight. I have too. I cant see her changing. Im gonna have to end this.
TaraMaiden Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 Don't prevaricate or 'go round the houses'. Don't say, "I think we ought to break up" TELL her - "I'm sorry, but it's over between us. I'm not doing this any more." Be decisive, firm and determined. The less ambiguous you are, the easier it will be and the fewer 'arguments' there can arise.... I realise you have historical sympathy for her, but it's hardly a balanced, equal, 50/50 relationship, is it? Good luck, take care of you....
TopCat22 Posted October 4, 2012 Posted October 4, 2012 Sometimes people need a shock to wake them out of apathy. I can tell you I got quite complacent with my ex and breaking up has really pushed me to be a better person. Amazing what you'll do when you fear of losing something...
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