WTF They are still together! He is taking her to all the places we planned to go

[fun2bewith]

...Maybe I am being just a chode, a jealous ex, or maybe just a hopeless romantic...

 

Story

Ex cheated on me 2 years ago and I have been NC for more than 14 months...

 

By this time surely I believed that the honeymoon period should have been over for them by now ! Don't get me wrong, I want her to be happy with someone but just not with the guy she cheated me with..

 

I THOUGH I WOULD BE FINE

I have no way of seeing her FB, but yesterday for the first time in more than 1 year , I checked out the "other guy's" FB... STILL IN A RELATIONSHIP with her and his profile pic is the two of them together.....

 

ALL THE PHOTOS on his FB with her were all the places we planned to go together... Does she have no ideas herself! The world is such a massive place, why only go to all the places we talked about...:mad:

 

Why do I feel so affected by this and why the hell are they still together?

[darkmoon]

stop looking back and, in the case of facebook, looking across

you must get out more instead, and build your future xx

[fun2bewith]

...You are so damn right! That is exactly what is wrong with me, I have been stale for the last 6 months... No wonder I feel this way! Directly after the break up I use to travel many countries , exercised and didn't think about her or really cared... Now that I am in this current job I have a lot of time on my hands to to do idle things... I know it is so basic.... But you are so right .... thanks

[Hobbit]

Facetwat is only a torture device for dumpees

[River Rain]

You went 14 months...why did you go to facebook? I agree, stop looking for trouble. I know it's tempting, but it just opens old wounds. I know my ex is active on another forum, but I won't go there even if I do want to see what he's up to. I even went so far as changing my phone numbers and filtering his email address just in case he tries to contact me. Chances are he never will, but I prefer not to know either way because no contact is the only way to move on. As for them traveling, I mean, you can't really blame her for that, if she wanted to visit these places anyway. My ex and I were planning a 5 month road trip across Canada for next spring. I'm still going, either solo or with someone new because I still want to do it with or without him. I don't think you should be angry about that, you're just hurting yourself.

[kae]

There`s the possibility she learned from her mistakes.

There`s also the odds that they think they went through a lot to be together which makes them more dedicated to stay together.

There`s might be more tolerance on both their parts of eachother because the guilt of how they started forces them to stay together.

 

Or they might communicate better.. that`s probably it.

 

Its normal to feel the way you fell dont beat yourself up. It does suck that she`s living out your plans with someone else.. but when they are in those places together i bet she doesnt fully enjoy the experience because she knows in her heart that it was supposed to be you and her... if she doesnt feel that she`s a vacant soul.. and better be faraway. Still either way she`s willing to live through those experiences which means she doesnt WANT to care, as should you.

 

Dont look back buddy.. she cheated on you.. dont wait for her .. dont do NC ..that is for the hopefulls. you should not hope. I suggest renewing yourself.. Try fasting. focusing on not eating is hard. take a challenge!!

Going a indoor vollyball group. volunteer. be with new people.

[fun2bewith]

 

 

 

I guess I was comparing myself to her, I kind of hoped that Karma did a good job with her , instead Karma beat me up... But I really think I should get out more... This is just so pathetic of me still looking back after two years... She most definitely don't think of me.... It stings....

[River Rain]

 

 

I guess I was comparing myself to her, I kind of hoped that Karma did a good job with her , instead Karma beat me up... But I really think I should get out more... This is just so pathetic of me still looking back after two years... She most definitely don't think of me.... It stings....

 

I know it stings, and you're not pathetic. You are still nursing your heart, but every time you go back, you re-open the wound a little and it takes that much longer to get over it. Karma might not be through with her yet I feel like Karma did a number on me too, but I know my ex has his coming.

[lovejoy41]

Yeah stuff like that does hurt. The thing is that you're betting on them breaking up. That's why it's not happening. I know it's hard trust me, but you just have to shift your thoughts, put her&him in the back(waaaaay back lol) of your brain and move on. Whatever happens to them from that point won't even matter. I'm not a fortune teller but it's usually when you forget about them or have gotten on with your life(whether single or involved) that karma catches up with them. I've been lucky enough to hear about it from the horses mouth every single time it did& it was always after they had become an afterthought.

 

 

 

As for facebook, I totally agree with Hobbit. It should be called "Flaunt Book". People love to go there and flaunt their fake happiness, new relationships, break-ups, etc etc..... Yeah, I learned the hard way about going on there. My ex doesn't have a fb but the girl he's with now does. I saw pics and it broke my heart all over again and I was doing ok with the b/u when I did. So, definitely stay off of there. You will always find something hurtful waiting for you if you don't. You don't want to know about her whether it's good or bad. Just remember who she is and what she did to you, that should help. That's what helps me. That's the only thing about him that I hold in my brain& that's only because it helps me stick to no contact. Can't go back, won't go back. Leave her and him to whatever, just do you.