somedude81 Posted October 5, 2012 Posted October 5, 2012 I think each woman would only find 10 sexually attractive. The first 5 might overlap (the 5 "hottest" guys there). The second 5 would vary by each woman--who she talked to, who made a good impression, who flirted effectively, who made her laugh, etc. And that is how women are more shallow then men. In a room of 50 men, just about every women would be attracted to the top 5 guys. They'd gladly wait in line for a chance with those guys. Aside from the guys who have "game" every other guy will be ignored. In other words just about every women there would feel chemistry with only 10 guys at most. Then from the guys side, every guy would be attracted to 2/3 of the women there. What's funny is that while the women would only be attracted to the 10 hottest guys, the guys would be attracted to all but the bottom 10 women. When it comes down to real life, if you're a decent looking girl, the majority of men will be physically attracted to you. On other hand, if you're a decent looking guy, only a small minority of women will be physically attracted.
kaylan Posted October 5, 2012 Posted October 5, 2012 If a guy is physically repulsive to a woman, no amt of money will be enough to make her wet. But if the guy is simply neutral....not particularly attractive or unattractive....and he has a lot of money and power that he is willing to share with her, that can be sexually exciting. Doesnt sound like genuine sexual attraction in all honesty. What happens when the money is gone? It simply sounds like she trades her desires for cash. Add to that some great rolls in the hay, and now whatever his look are, they are associated with great sex. And now he is a pantie wetter for her If you manage to get her in bed, and you manage to WOW her in bed, she'll associate you with great sex. What more of a turn on do you need?This goes for anyone. But lets not pretend a change in appearance wont alter someones desire for sex with someone, even if they were great in bed in the past. How many times do we hear men AND women saying theyve lost attraction to a mate. And one who wasnt bad in bed. The loss of attraction, which usually comes down to physical stuff, usually kills the greatness of the sex. I can't in good conscience claim my H isn't hot, because he is SO hot to me. But I can honestly say that there have been times during our marriage when he was 30+ pounds overweight. Even then, his body is just the body to me. The body that makes me feel so good. A partner being hot to their mate is whats key. It doesnt matter if they are empirically attractive...all that matters is their mate finds them sexy. Its great that you can find hubby attractive even when he puts on weight. But its not that way for everyone, and attraction isnt a choice at the end of the day. Thats the sad reality.
xxoo Posted October 5, 2012 Posted October 5, 2012 And that is how women are more shallow then men. In a room of 50 men, just about every women would be attracted to the top 5 guys. They'd gladly wait in line for a chance with those guys. Aside from the guys who have "game" every other guy will be ignored. In other words just about every women there would feel chemistry with only 10 guys at most. Then from the guys side, every guy would be attracted to 2/3 of the women there. What's funny is that while the women would only be attracted to the 10 hottest guys, the guys would be attracted to all but the bottom 10 women. When it comes down to real life, if you're a decent looking girl, the majority of men will be physically attracted to you. On other hand, if you're a decent looking guy, only a small minority of women will be physically attracted. Not more shallow, just different. The second 5 are the ones she connected with. You call it game, I call it chemistry. Every woman in the room would have a different set of the second 5, and that's why it wouldn't be about the guys with the best "game". There would likely be a bottom set of 5 who sparked nothing in anyone. Those 5 might be very shy, awkward, etc, and didn't connect well. Men would be attracted to 2/3, yes, but that doesn't make them less shallow, because that is based on looks. Men are just find it easier to feel sexual attraction to a random, average woman than women feel sexual attraction to a random, average guy.
xxoo Posted October 5, 2012 Posted October 5, 2012 This goes for anyone. But lets not pretend a change in appearance wont alter someones desire for sex with someone, even if they were great in bed in the past. How many times do we hear men AND women saying theyve lost attraction to a mate. And one who wasnt bad in bed. The loss of attraction, which usually comes down to physical stuff, usually kills the greatness of the sex. IMO, when women lose attraction for their partners (when attraction was previously very strong), it usually has more to do with a lost emotional connection than with change in physical appearance. Not always, but usually.
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